Expert Dating Tip – Before You Aim for Love, Heal Your Heart

Greetings from fabulous Las Vegas.  Vegas really is a great town.  I’ve been splitting my time between Las Vegas and Orange County.  Oddly enough for this time of year in Orange County we actually had rain the other day.  I refer to this as God washing my car for me.

While here, this evening I shared a marvelous glass of red wine at The Venetian with a girlfriend who is married and we talking about love and romantic relationships as well as, of course, business.

One of the themes of Love that kept surfacing was the idea of attraction at the Soul level, and the people who enter, exit, and often re-enter our lives.

Those former girlfriends and boyfriends from our past and often our early 20s or so with whom we stayed in touch all these years.  The ones who became real lasting friends who love and care about us.  Often it just feels like our souls are aligned and we care about each other.  However, we are not each others’ Soul Mate.

And that got us talking.  Often those former loves, well, we felt some grief on some level.  Grief is the normal and natural emotional response to any kind of loss.  It need not be precipitated by the physical death of someone.  We often have feelings of grief over the ending of a  romantic relationship.  Each time we open our heart and give a piece of our heart, we open ourselves to real and lasting love.  We make ourselves vulnerable.  Additionally, when that relationship ends or changes from romance to a Platonically caring relationship, we experience a loss.  The loss of what was hoped for as well as the loss of what actually was.

Each time we have those loss events and we feel grief but do not complete the Grief, we add to our emotional baggage.  Now, mind you, a little baggage over the course of a lifetime is part of what makes each of us an interesting, attractive and captivating person.  However, over time, the baggage can become a few steamer trunks versus a roller cart carry on.  It’s not just the airlines who want to limit us to two pieces of baggage.  Each unrepaired grief event also build a barrier across our heart and our being and expressing our most genuine self.

When we want to find and attract lasting love, we do so from our heart and our soul expression.  The more we have layers of emotional scar tissue over our heart, the less we are able to attract and find that kind of lasting love which we crave and deserve.  We do ourselves and our potential loved one a disservice not to address that emotional heart scar tissue.  We best serve ourselves and our loved ones when we do learn and practice the Grief completion steps when romantic relationships end.

Moving On: Dump Your Relationship Baggage and Make Room for the Love of Your Life

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell