Ok, I mentioned Beatrice and Andrew yesterday in my Christian and Catholic Singles Dating Tip post. Now, the thing is, when you are in both a small-medium sized church and you are in a small demographic group (50-60+ year old Christian Singles) within your church…. You might feel like you are dating and courting under a microscope. Look, I went to the same prep school for 13 years in a small university town. I understand what it is like to be just under perpetual scrutiny. It’s like you can’t even bat your eyelashes and do a lil fliring without having the feeling that simply everyone is looking and watching your technique! Can you imagine if your little 3 minutes flirtation with the Starbucks cashier and the meat section butcher at the deli received hyperanalyzed scrutiny? I imagine you would feel a tad stifled. That you might feel like you have no breathing room to stretch your romantic arms, muscles, and limbs to even try out your fledgling interest in a member of the opposite sex.
Well, that is what Beatrice and Andrew felt like as members at their small local church. They were each widowed. They had each lost their spouse to death. Not that every such marriage is perfect. Every marriage, there is the sweet and the sour. We are all 100% human beings.
And then each was active a parish Bible study group. They met ever so casually and simply. And once they felt that little internal nudge to check things out, to explore things further. Well you can only imagine! They were in a small church! It’s like going to a small high school like I did. Not only does EVERYONE know EVERYONE. Well, my goodness! We also know you people! Your siblings. We remember all the gory little details of scrapped knees and bloody noses. There is just no privacy. And for romance to bloom, we all need a little privacy to flirt and flit and figure things out.
How did the two of them manage to have the sufficient breathing room to become romantically better acquainted while also just simply figuring things out? They courted at a restaurant not frequented by their own town’s people 1 town over from where they lived!
Often you will need to implement some concerted efforts to give yourself that love blooming breathing room when you live in a small town and or court in a small church!
Mazel tov!
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
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Trisha Chambers says
April 8, 2011 at 11:16 PMSmall towns are horrible when it comes to gossip! I feel for these singles….
Neil Dhawan says
April 9, 2011 at 9:43 AMA simple and very effective tip. Any tips on what to do if a “church gossip” who happens to stick her/his nose into everyone’s business learns of this rendezvous and thinks it is appropriate to bring it to everyones attention?
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G.E. Moon II says
April 9, 2011 at 10:51 AMI am so glad to hear that Beatrice and Andrew were able to start their courtship by simply dining in the next town over. Good for them!
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G.E. Moon II
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Clare Delaney-Young says
April 9, 2011 at 10:58 AMWhat a lovely story to illustrate your point for senior singles!
Sonya Lenzo says
April 9, 2011 at 2:01 PMApril, when romance is starting to bloom it’s like a little bity plant and lots of things can stomp on it. Giving it room to grow is what mature folks will do!
Sonya Lenzo
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April 9, 2011 at 3:41 PMIt’s like you explain where I was born and grew up! I am happy that I live in a bigger city now! But I guess for the people that live in small cities or villages it must be very hard to date after they are over an age…good tip way!
Jennifer Battaglino says
April 9, 2011 at 5:34 PMSmart couple. They gave themselves a chance to find out if they were right for each other without everyone else’s 2 cents thrown in. The lack of outside influences allowed them to come their own conclusions… again, smart move and great story.
Jennifer Battaglino
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Dan Doubroff says
April 9, 2011 at 7:33 PMBeatrice and Andrew have their work cut out for them – i wish them good luck!
Peggy Larson says
April 10, 2011 at 4:47 AMVery smart of Beatrice and Andrew. It’d be stressful being under that microscope when the romance is first starting but probably even worse if they were a few weeks or months into and decided it wasn’t for them. Glad it worked out for them.
Peggy
Michael D Walker says
April 10, 2011 at 8:38 AMGlad to hear they were able to get some time away & enjoy each others company. I can’t imagine trying to date under close scrutiny from everyone.
Michael
Dewayne Chriswell says
April 10, 2011 at 12:50 PMNo doubt it added a touch of spice to their beginning relationship as well. Great idea.
Dewayne Chriswell
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Naomi Bettencourt says
April 10, 2011 at 6:04 PMI agree with Dewayne. I bet not only did it help give them a little privacy, but added a bit of excitement to their rendezvous!
Stay Cool!
Naomi Bettencourt
Steve C says
April 15, 2011 at 1:08 AMSome things are best done out of the public eye.
Steve C