Continuing in the vein I started the other day while we are in the Season of Lent of offering specific tips for Christian Singles (applicable for Catholic Singles as well), yes, it can really be a HUGE challenge to find a mate of your faith.
They may already be a member of your church.
However, quite often that is not the case.
Yes, what that means is you will need to take action yourself. You can’t just be a faithful church attender, read your Bible (or Book of Common Prayer or Prayer Book), and expect that God will just “magically” send your Christian or Catholic Soul Mate to you there. When you are a single who is over 40, 50, and 60 or so, you will need to make even more concerted efforts to meet other eligible Christian Singles.
Of course, you want to be careful about going to lots of services at a different church than your own because you’ll be missing out on the very reason you joined your church. You’ll miss the preaching, the messages which might be part of a series, as well as the ministries of your own church will be missing you and your involvement from your absence.
Christian Dating Tip: Pick the Day and Time Bible Study Strategically
So what can you? Of course, as I already suggested, you can attend a Bible Study or Adult Study which is special for this time of year, Lent. There are other times of year when there are special studies. Just keep your eyes open and look for a study which you would be genuinely interested in. (It helps to be sincere…)
Here I am a Baptist and I’m attending an Episcopal Church’s study featuring a Biblical scholar from the Church of England. And thoroughly enjoying it.
Yes, after I made the recommendation the other day, I did make a point to “eat my own dog food” as we would say at Oracle. I made a point of going to an Adult Study group that I normally really would not have gone to. I can get snobby about Adult Studies finding a lot of them to be sortah too light, like eating junk food. And wouldn’t yah know it? Drat. I REALLY liked it. It was really meaty. I’ll be, yes, going back.
Well, what I have noticed is that there are definite age group tendencies to groups. So, to find people of around your own age, do make sure to attend a few different days and times of the Adult Study options at another church.
If you’re over 40, 50, or 60 you’ll want to avoid the Bible Study group that all the 20 somethings are in. Look for the groups where there are at least a few people around your age.
When you attend this group, yes, it would be fabulous and amazing if you met “THE ONE” there at this study. It did for Beatrice and Andrew…. However, that may not quite happen every time that you implement this Christian Dating tip.
If you don’t meet your Soul Mate here this time, is this somehow a waste of your time? Nope! Of course not! What can you do? You can expand your social circle every time you go visit another church! The over 40 year olds especially can get into social circle ruts. Anyone you meet there as you attend and participate in the Bible Study over the period of weeks, weave them into your social circle at least a little bit.
Invite them to join you for coffee. Cluster the people. As you expand your social circle, you expand your chances for find and attract lasting love!
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
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Michael D Walker says
April 7, 2011 at 10:14 PMYou keep coming up with really good practical advice and I’m sure many after 50 Christian singles will be grateful for you covering this topic.
Michael
Scott Sylvan Bell says
April 7, 2011 at 10:23 PMApril, You always have dating tips that work along with some great strategies for meeting single people to date in new places.
Scott Sylvan Bell
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Steve C says
April 7, 2011 at 10:52 PMAre you saying Catholics are not Christian? Here I thought I was a Christian all my life? Wow!
Steve C
Trisha Chambers says
April 8, 2011 at 12:33 AMI had to laugh! The ‘Mature Romantic Couple Talking and Bonding In Person’ picture looks like she’s turning around and saying, ‘SAY WHAT!!?’
Great post!
Sonya Lenzo says
April 8, 2011 at 5:14 AMApril, I’m not certain how “on Point” this story is, but when my sister was looking for a mate, she was shy. She was working at a religious institution but her fellow workers were in the 50’s and married category. I used to chide her about her need to “get out more” and say, “What do you think, God is going to magically send someone to sweep you off your feet?”
Well, one day a new employee started. He had quit his job as a teacher in Peru and was attending night school to be a policeman. He was tall dark and handsome. He liked shy women. His new job was the janitor. And he swept my sister off her feet!
Sonya Lenzo
Kevin Hogan says
April 8, 2011 at 5:20 AMApril,
It would seem that being Christian and over say 40 or 50 is an advantage vs. just being over 40 or 50. And by advantage I mean that people will find something they highly value in another. Is this the way it works out in the real world?
Kevin Hogan
Dan Doubroff says
April 8, 2011 at 6:50 AMeating ones own dog food is a great line – thanks!
April Braswell says
April 8, 2011 at 7:18 AMHi Steve,
quick clarification. Some cluster Catholics are being Christian and some cluster them separately. Evanglicals and Protestants Christians being loosely one group. Roman Catholic being another. I just put it that way to make it OBVIOUS that this tip can be applied in both directions. 🙂
April
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April 8, 2011 at 8:53 AMHi April,
I usually think that being from different religions should not matter betwen a couple. But it’s true that there are other things that my seem less important, like a different language or culture, or only being from two different regions in a same country,…and those little things can make a lot of confusion! I see how important it should be to share the important values in life!
G.E. Moon II says
April 8, 2011 at 12:16 PMMany a great thing has happened over a cup of coffee.
Yours In Health!
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Las Vegas Air Conditioning Repairs says
April 8, 2011 at 12:30 PMThere really are great opportunities for Christian singles to combine their faith with their search for love. You just need to take advantage of them! Thanks for sharing your tips!
Bryan says
April 8, 2011 at 5:37 PMGreat advice as usual April…You truly are the go to person for singles…
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Peggy Larson says
April 8, 2011 at 5:45 PMI would agree that choosing the day/time to attend is very important for finding the group that fits your age range. Not only for finding mates but also for discussion purposes.
Peggy Larson
Jennifer Battaglino says
April 8, 2011 at 6:57 PMI think one of the messages here is to NOT be random. Don’t just go somewhere, even if it’s within your faith, and expect to meet someone compatible. You have to plan.
Just like we talked about today, the more you plan and practice, the more likely you will succeed.
I have too many clients who don’t understand why they don’t succeed until they go over how they planned to get there…there wasn’t much forethought and you are giving that to your readers.
Jen B
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Dewayne Chriswell says
April 9, 2011 at 3:49 AMToo easy to get into a rut. Great idea on the Bible studies for visiting, more interaction.
Dewayne Chriswell
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Neil Dhawan says
April 9, 2011 at 9:36 AMWhile walking the dog in the park the other day I met an elderly couple who were so adorable ( she was 89 and he was 91 – holding hands as they walked ). The conversation drew to a close as they reassured me that it’s never too late to find a soulmate. How did they know? They’ve only been married for 11 years at the time – they were both widowed and met at church …
All the best, Neil
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Steve C says
April 15, 2011 at 1:09 AMThese are great tips for meeting someone during the season of Lent and throughout the year.
Steve C