Ladies, when you get together monthly or bimonthly, if you’re single and looking, remember to rotate your Girls Night Out venue each time you get together. Mix things up. Maintain some variety. And keep things interesting.
Yup, another short one today, folks.
Here it is, Thursday night. The international evening for GNO – Girls Night Out!
A lot of women go out for drinks and apps on Thursday night. Indeed, in fact I did that myself this evening.
I love the cultural phenomenon of women going out and having fun with the girlfriends on Thursday night. There always seems to be a core group that does this, even when you invite new women and vary the crowd a little bit, mixing in friends from college, sorority house sisters, fellow alumnae, women from church, your sisters from Junior League.
The thing is, this too can become a social device that can move into a rut. Often after you are regularly going out on Thursday night about once a month or so, you will start to find yourselves always going to or ending up at the same bar. Because it’s cool. Because it’s fun. Because it is convenient to your dwelling. Whatever. The point is, part of DOING girls night out for a lot of single women yes to hang with your girls.
However, it is also to meet and flirt with new guys. If you are always going to the same place, you do meet new men each time, it’s just, often all of the same kind. Plus, you want to maintain your own mystery and feminine allure by not being there all the time and becoming too too terribly familiar to all the regulars.
So… that means, ladies, DO rotate the VENUE for your girls night out! Even if occasionally it is a bit of stretch by location, you have to drive further to get home. Whatever. When you do that, you will meet new guyz each time and you will be opening and stretching new neuropathways in your brain which serves you well for venturing forth and trying new things on a regular basis. That is part of the Laws of Success.
In dating and all things in life.
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
Las Vegas Baby Boomer Dating Expert
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Vick says
October 9, 2009 at 5:27 AMActually if I was single I would do a Friday nite. Variety is the spice in life though and you never know who you might run into on any given night. So were you a good girl last night? lol
Vicki http://www.bridal-threads.com
John Ho says
October 9, 2009 at 4:47 AMYes, do not put all eggs into the same basket to get better risk management :))
It also breaks down monotony anyway.
John Ho
Martin O'Connor says
October 9, 2009 at 7:25 AMNice use of the video. It does liven up the post.
Martin O’Connor
Lisa McLellan says
October 9, 2009 at 9:52 AMThat’s really funny that you mention Thursday night as being Girls Night Out. Last time my friend Kathy was in town from LA, we had plans to go out on a Friday night but things got screwed up and we ended up going out on THursday night. I did notice lots of women in small groups at the bar/restaurant we went to!
Lisa McLellan
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Mister P says
October 9, 2009 at 11:50 AMSound advice April!
Bert (alter ego- Mister P)
Lisa says
October 9, 2009 at 1:32 PMIt probably is best to mix the venue up on girls night, but sometimes you just get so comfortable with a place. When it comes to going out, I’m a creature of habit.
MissMentor
Martin says
October 9, 2009 at 2:33 PMBut if y’all keep rotating venues, how are we gonna keep up with where we can find you!
April Braswell says
October 9, 2009 at 5:17 PMHi Martin,
thanks for stopping by and commenting. well, see, precisely! Time to man up and get her number the first time you meet her! Women are also subtly testing for manliness level, confidence level in moving about each week or so. Is he man enuf to approach the first time he sees me?
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April
April Braswell says
October 9, 2009 at 5:20 PM*sigh* it’s true. a favorite always emerges. Ok to go there. Maybe on a Sunday night and keep the rest of it rotating. We are creatures of habit and start to tribe up and mark our territory. Which is why it takes actual concerted EFFORT to keep moving and mixing things up.
Thanks for stopping by and commenting at my blog!
April
Rob Northrup says
October 9, 2009 at 4:27 PMGotta keep the gaggle moving…
You are right that you need to cast a wide net, you are trying to find Mr. RIght and most guys ARE creatures of habit, so better to cover more bases…
Rob
Keri Eagan says
October 9, 2009 at 7:13 PMHi April,
Even when newcomers are invited, the key members do seem to continue to keep everyone together. Maybe it’s a female tribal thing.
Ahh, yes. I too am a habitual creature. Variety is the spice of life though….
Keri Eagan
Kate McKeon says
October 9, 2009 at 8:15 PMGNO is such a great concept, but what do you do when all of the girls are married with small children? Or, pregnant? It’s hard to meet new girlfriends for GNO adventures!
Kate
Steve Chambers says
October 9, 2009 at 10:08 PMThe more someone sees you the more attractive you appear to them. Since attraction is the key to finding a relationship it seems like a good idea to frequent only a few locations. At the same time if there are few possibilities at a single location you will want to change locations.
It’s all so hard.
Steve Chambers, Sale Trainer Speaker
April Braswell says
October 9, 2009 at 11:06 PMHi Kate,
indeed, I had meant to mention that 1 woman in the gaggle might be married. Start cultivating a few younger single gfs for your GNO when that is the case. Then you also have the added benny of not being in competition over the same guyz.
Thanks for stopping by my blog and commenting.
April
Jose Escalante says
October 9, 2009 at 10:24 PMExcellent advice April
Jose Escalante
Katie says
October 10, 2009 at 5:46 PMOh yes it’s ladies night and the feelin’s right, oh yes it’s ladies night, (deep voice) oh, what a niiiight.
Such a fun song. I have had GNO in forever! Thank you for the reminder to get off my duff.
Katie
Pam Schulz says
October 10, 2009 at 8:33 PMAs always, great dating advice April.
Pam
Hermaine says
April 19, 2010 at 12:27 PMHi April, I love your dating tips blog. Definitely a fan
Ethelene Pagliuca says
December 10, 2010 at 1:43 PMHello April, what a great reminder to avoid the bar rut. I enjoy your article. Yours is a really informative site and so I wanted to publish the note to show you, good job and thank you!
Demi Sooey says
December 16, 2010 at 7:35 PMApril, I love your point to us single ladies not to get into a rut with the sports bar where we go to meet guys, an awareness of that way we get stuck. Perfect work.