How to Increase Personal Safety in Online Dating: Use Second Email Address

If You’re Looking for Love via Online Dating Sites and Apps, Do Set Up an Additional Personal Email to Secure Privacy and Safety

One of the things I recommend during online dating workshops and singles conferences as well as my dating and relationship coaching sessions to singles who are doing any kind of online dating is to set up a secondary personal email address.

You might not immediately think to do this because so many sites have their own email boxes for you to use.

But invariably at some point, you will be giving your new dates your email address.

1.  You want it to be different than your personal normal one to keep things separate and private.

2.  You want it to be different than the one you use at ANY Social Networking/Social Media Sites.

The reason for this is, you do NOT want a stranger, near stranger to have your email address in their email address contacts book so that when they pull in their address book at the Social Networking Sites, they connect to you or can see your whole life online before you choose to share that level of your whole life with a stranger.

Facebook. Twitter. LinkedIn. Instagram. Plaxo.  All of them.

All the Social Networking sites have a step where you connect and can pull in your whole email address book.

Your photo albums.  Your family.  Your high school.   College and University Alma Maters.  Employer.  Corporate ownership.  And more.

There are a number of books out about Managing Your Brand or Identity Online from a marketing perspective.  This is about from a Privacy, Safety, and Security perspective.

Now, it’s not about the being paranoid that each will become a stalker.

This is about keeping things a little mysterious and building the romantic acquaintanceship over time.  Which is more intriguing, fascinating, arousing, and stimulating.

Sure, eventually you’ll share that level of acquaintanceship with your date, but only once you two have been on several dates and you’ve decided you want to consider becoming a couple and pursue a relationship together, not just a first or second date.

Dating is the process of becoming acquainted with each other and honing those relationship skills. Trying to get their full name to do an online search to get someone’s background before you’ve even met is impertinent. Until you two have vetted for in person chemistry, it is unnecessary.

On the other hand, someone who wants to meet you for a glass of wine and a shared cheese platter has no right to expect you share sufficient information for that person to do a full online background check.

Think of the sizzling chemistry between Henry Fonda and Barbara Stanwyck when he helps her put on a shoe in the movie, “The Lady Eve.”  They don’t even kiss.  But the super sexy chemistry sparks fly.  Keep a little mystery!

And establish the habit in all things big and small to be maintaining your privacy and establishing safety and security.

By creating and using a secondary personal email address with all things Online Dating, you can avoid a stranger you will date (vs. just a Facebook Friend) knowing EVERYTHING about you…. before you’ve even met!

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell

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Internet Dating and Relationship Expert

as seen in “Dating for Dummies” 3rd Edition

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