My blog reader, Rob Northrup commenting here at my post yesterday about the personal privacy and safety practice to set up and use a secondary personal email address for any Online Dating pursuits prompted me to mention two additional internet dating safety and security tips to enjoy online dating.
Internet Dating Safety Tip # 1. Addy Name – PG Rated
Rob made a cute drole comment citing two, how shall I put it? Adult Oriented email addresses? While it was perfectly reflective of Rob’s great dry wit, and he was being tongue in cheek. His doing so pointed out to me, “I better warn about that.” For the Relationship Oriented Sites there will be some options where you are giving out your personal email address within 1 – 3 emails. Not only do you want that second email addy, you want to make sure that you keep the name to something PG-G rated.
Ladies, even be careful of citing something like a physical attribute you think perfectly innocuous like your hair color. Say you are Blonde like myself. And invariably you have to add a number to the naming convention to get the email addy at Yahoo, Gmail, or Hotmail. And next thing you know you have Blonde69@… or Blondedd69@….
Yes…. my point precisely.
However, when what you are seeking is a Relationship, they are not the best place to start. And you want to be careful that your email addy doesn’t give the wrong ad campaign impression.
You might think this would only be a problem for the ladies. In my Online Dating seminars, women will relate tales of me getting too quickly sexually overt with them in the messaging and chat features. Certainly, you want to manage your visual image to communicate – classy, alluring, lady. She did confess that her profile photos were likely showing too much skin. Hence the responses she was getting.
But relationship oriented men have to be careful, too. No bare chests showing off your beach lifestyle or recent tropical adventures. Avoid sultry eyes or smiles, and no major smirks. Those all convey a guy who’s looking for a hookup and not to become your husband.
Internet Dating Safety Tip #2. Addy Name – Does NOT Include Your Name
Another detail for the internet dating crowd where I was almost thinking it was so obvious I didn’t need to articulate it. But that is not true.
With my dating coaching and workshop clients both men and women give out email addresses which cite their name in some manner. Dick.Blow@…. Dick_Blow@…. DickBlow69@…
You’re probably just not thinking. However you want to remember to retain your privacy before you meet them and vet them in person.
Singles are very savvy online these days and may, armed with your complete name, then do a google or yahoo search of you before you meet. These are perfectly fine things to do after you have met and had a few dates. But until after that, remember these are perfect strangers and you want to practice privacy, safety, and security.
I view that as a 21st Century Law of Success addition to Napoleon Hill‘s class 21 Laws of Success.
Hope that clarifies. Because indeed I want you to Have Fun and enjoy dating online!
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
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Robert Martin says
September 24, 2009 at 8:03 PMYou two need to get a room! Great post.
Robert Martin
John Ho says
September 24, 2009 at 8:47 PMYou’re dead right, April!
Better to be safe than sorry. Good clean fun is great to have!
In cyber world, the shades of of reality fades a fair bit. You never know WHO you’re really talking to. So it’s always better to have PG rated names & contents to start with if you’re serious about the possible relationships.
John Ho
Jose Escalante says
September 24, 2009 at 10:36 PMHi April you always have excellent advice.
Jose Escalante
Mister P says
September 24, 2009 at 11:18 PMGreat safety and privacy follow up post!
Bert (alter ego- Mister P)
Keri Eagan says
September 25, 2009 at 3:04 AMGood follow up from the last post. Caution is always best in a world where everyone is so remote.
Keri Eagan
Lynn Lane says
September 25, 2009 at 5:30 AMApril,
If we know better, we do better. You do a great service to help people know better.
Coll Post!
Lynn Lane
http://www.Warriorofsuccess.com
Martin says
September 25, 2009 at 8:22 AMIt’s scary how much information people can find out about you – even without your name and address. Your email address is usually a great starting point for scouring the social networking sites, where they may find another peice of the jigsaw, which they can then google for another snippet etc etc.
Fortunately (and unfortunately!) for me, googling my name yields 15 million results to sift through. Googling you (sounds fun!) returns just 137,000 (and you OWN most of them. GO BABY!!).
martin-wright .com apologises unreservedly for the loss of sombre British reserve in the above comment, but accepts no liability for the consequences!
James Mason says
September 25, 2009 at 10:57 AMYou have definitely got some good tips.
Easy to forget these little things.
Jim
BusinessAndMarketingMakeover.com/blog
James Mason says
September 25, 2009 at 2:55 PMI am not sure I would really date online (someone I didn’t meet first).
I would rather talk to them on the phone first (of course, that may be the same as email).
There is nothing like being around them, observing their nature and how they are around other people… with out them knowing I may be interested in them.
Good things to consider.
James Mason
Katie says
September 25, 2009 at 4:47 PMExcellent point. Little red would be a terrible name for starting a relationship – either evokes images of adult-oriented play or a obsession with a child’s fairytale – neither one of which sounds good.
I chose a cartoon character that most people don’t know.
, Katie
Kate McKeon says
September 25, 2009 at 6:38 PMYes, no personally distinguishable info in your email name, good call. Privacy is key.
Pushing companies from good to great, Kate
Lisa McLellan says
September 25, 2009 at 9:32 PMI love this post. Of course it made me immediately think of my personal addy. So advertising that I’m alway late is a bad thing??? Good thing I’m not shopping out there right now!
More excellent tips from the boomer dating expert.
Lisa McLellan
Babysitting Tips, Babysitting Services – Babysitters, Nannies, and Au-pairs
Steve Chambers says
September 25, 2009 at 11:02 PMI once received a resume in which the e-mail address was something like, sluttywhore@aol.com. Not really a good idea.
Steve Chambers
Business to Business Sales Trainer
Jennifer Battaglino says
September 26, 2009 at 7:31 PMI tell ya, there is more to think about than you think!
However makes sense and thank goodness singles have you to guide them as their dating and relationship expert. You are the best there is!
Jennifer Battaglino
The Harwood Center – Tinnitus, Chronic Illness, Fears, and Anxiety
April Braswell says
September 26, 2009 at 8:49 PMROFL. Oh, ah yes, NOT a good email address choice for professional purposes! oh no!
April
Anthony Lemme says
October 1, 2009 at 7:27 AMOne never knows and it is always best to play it smart.
Anthony
Katie says
October 1, 2009 at 5:55 PMVery, very important point. No sense breaking the mystery and better to protect yourself than put yourself at additional risk.
Get Healthy, Katie