Interracial dating used to be taboo. Of course, anything which is a bit taboo adds an element of “turn on” and makes it interesting, fascinating, and captivating. Back before in the 1960s interracial marriage was illegal in some states, married couples could not book a room together at certain motels and hotels. Some college universities are even infamous for their former embarrassing stances against interracial dating and marriage.
Times sure have changed.
This is 2009 and 2010 fast approaches. Barack Obama is in the Oval Office. His wife, who so many of all different political beliefs, Michelle Obama, is not of the precisely same ethnic and racial background as he. Interracial, cross-cultural, and multi-cultural dating for singles has become quite mainstream and part of the dating “norm” these days.
As a dating expert, one of the things which I consistently find so amazing is when I talk with singles who are feeling frustrated in their dating endeavors, and I ask, “Do you date interracially?” And the single responds with a, “No.” Once I dig a little further, in most cases it is not that they don’t find men and women of different ethnic and racial groups attractive.
In many cases it was simply because they really had not thought to pursue it and had not seriously considered another single not of their precisely identical racial heritage.
Interracial Dating Success Tip #1 – Keep an Open Mind
When you are first starting out with interracial and cross-cultural dating, keep an open mind, cast a wide net, and consider a number of different ethnic groups. In your online dating profile, you want to specifically check all the different ethnic background groups so singles in those groupings see your profile returned to them in their internet dating search results.
Interracial Dating Success Tip #2 – Keep Your Conversations Open
For a number of singles, you might be initially finding yourself segmenting and filtering other singles into ethnic and racial stereo types. You are not doing something terribly racist. This is how the brain functions. People naturally filter others and classify them in some way so the brain is not overwhelmed by too much information in the world.
What this means in the context of interracial and cross-cultural dating and relationships is it is better to err on the side of simply asking open ended conversational questions and genuinely getting to know your date. You want to refrain from assuming too much. It is always a captivating conversation skill to be interested in the other person. Ask questions about their life and listen. When you listen more, your charisma and attractiveness to others increases as well.
Interracial Dating Success Tip #3 – Keep Yourself Open to the Possibilities
Men more than women find their attraction is based rapidly upon initial physical appearance. There is no judgment in that statement. For men, attraction is highly visually stimulated. Be sure to date a number of singles from a number of different ethnic groups before you decide that singles in that ethnic racial group are not for you.
Of course, certain cities and metro areas, dating cross-culturally is easier in some than in others. For singles in Los Angeles, San Francisco Bay Area, Washington, DC, Boston, and New York, there are so many ethnic and cultural groups represented that you would almost have to make a drastic effort to date exclusively in your own ethnic group.
However, even so, some groups are more largely represented in some areas than in others. For example, there is a sizable Asian population in Orange County, CA, but African Americans are less represented in The OC. In Silicon Valley, there are a number Indian Asians. And African Americans are a larger population group in the San Francisco East Bay region.
When you are a single online looking for love be sure to consider dating and courting interracially. You just might find and marry your Soul Mate.
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
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Lizanne says
December 16, 2010 at 10:30 PMit’s seems rather simplely incredible that interracial dating doesn’t happen more these days as a singles activity. Why do you think that is, April?
Suzy says
January 13, 2011 at 3:24 PMI think it’s more acceptable now to interracial date. But I just don’t see a lot of it. Like in “Knocked Up” the LA bouncer had to allow in only a small percentage of non-whites. Really? Is that still the way clubs are April?
Sonya Lenzo says
April 21, 2011 at 2:44 AMApril, I think the Baby Boomer generation really did the most to break this glass barrier in relationships. Keeping an open mind is a tag line for my generation. Great advice, as always!
Eva Palmer says
April 21, 2011 at 8:54 PMI like how open things are in the United States. It seems very romantic.
Roman says
April 22, 2011 at 7:40 AMHi April. A lot of people say they’re ok with interracial dating but there is still a lot of attitude in a number of cultures at the friend and family level. It’s harsh.
D'Orene says
April 22, 2011 at 1:38 PMApril I wish more people would talk about interracial relationships and the challenges couples face. Thanks for your frank discussions. I respect that.
Sam Michael says
April 10, 2017 at 4:32 AMThere are a lot of dating websites and its not a big problem to find someone online. It becomes a problem when you’re being specific for who are you going to date, a Jew or a Christian Perhaps. For Jews that are looking for a love, visit and find the perfect Jew match for yourself .
April Braswell says
November 4, 2018 at 12:32 AMHi Sam, thanks for chiming into the discussion. Hopefully Jews as well as other Christians will look first with their heart and soul and then with their label. It becomes even more different once you are past having children. Dating Advice for Christians Jewish Singles After 45 50: Do You HAVE to Date ONLY in Your Religion? BTW, mazel tov to you and your bride.
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Cheers and blessings,
April