Midlife Dating Coach Tips:
How to Craft Your Best After-50
Online Dating Profile
When it comes time to dating after 40, 50, and 60+, it’s likely that by now you are divorced or widowed. However, there is still a good percentage of midlifer single men and women over 50 who are in the single-never-married category. You want to write an internet dating profile which attracts the mature singles you would desire to meet and possibly date. You don’t want them just swiping by your photo on their digital device and passing you by, right?
How many of you have already ventured out online and gotten to any first dates only to be surprised to discover that the mature single who shows up doesn’t even resemble the profile photos? It can be both surprising and daunting. You mustered up the courage to get back out there into the mature over 50 singles dating pool, tentatively dipped your big toe into the water, only to be scorched by misleading profile photos and feeling duped.
The premise of a good mature singles dating profile is to captivate the other after 50 single’s attention sufficiently to message with you and desire to meet you. The goal of a great After 50 Dating profile is to get to the first date! A problem more often among the younger daters, like the Millennial singles, is that they invest too much of their time in app messaging each other in place of actually meeting live.
But singles over 50+ have to concern themselves less with that than their younger single counterparts. For the most part, singles in their 50s and 60s+ are looking to date and not mistake apps messaging for a real in-person first date. There’s a silver lining to being a silver single, after all!
Now the question you’re likely asking yourself and me, is, “How can I make my dating profile stick out among the sea of other singles online at the Over 50 internet dating sites?”
Like a good college application or resume, you are selling yourself and distinguishing yourself among the sea of sameness online in all those mature personals dating profiles. How are you unique and different? Express it, albeit, briefly, in your silver singles online profile. Aim for about 300 words for your dating profile. Don’t just have your opposite sex friends read it and criticize your profile before you publish it at your selected over 50 dating sites. Your buds are not your romantic target audience. They are romantically attracted to different mature singles than you, or you two would already be dating, right? So be cautious not to target them while want you seek is to attract your best mature single mate, the best for you!
Here are 3 of my top Midlife Dating Coach tips for After 50 Dating profiles which will help you to stand out, be noticed, and get you to your great first dates!
Do Post Great Photos
Now, this might sound quite obvious in this day and age of smart phones being so ubiquitous. Naturally, everyone now has loads of photos to choose from. However, just because you have a lot of photos of yourself saved in albums on your smart phone or tablet doesn’t mean these are your most flattering pix. Do you have the habit of catching yourself when your smile has been held so long it looks close to a grimace? Does it always seen that your friends catch you with your eyes squinting or closed? When what you’re seeking is an intimate mature love relationship online, invest a little money in your results and hire a professional photographer.
Don’t Post Too Many Photos
This is not your Facebook or Instagram family album. Be careful you don’t inundate the poor mature single who clicks through on your internet dating profile avatar to read your profile only to be flooded with family photos and your most recent travelogue. Instead, in the Online Dating Workshops I lead in Orange County and Las Vegas, I recommend to singles to include about 3-5, maybe 7 photos of themselves. You want to communicate that you are in interesting and fun potential life companion. But you do want to leave a little mystery. You want your prospective date to have some material to inquire about when you two meet for your first date. “I saw you wearing a traditional Korean dress. Are you part of a club? Tell me about that. How interesting.”
Post Only Solo Photos of You
I know you will hear on some of the TV dating advice shows that you should include lots of photos of you with others to illustrate that you are a social being. But do you really want the mature man over 50 thinking it’s you sister who looks cute and not you? What about that fun photo of you with your girlfriend enjoying your bi-monthly “Girls Night Out” festivities? Do you want him guessing which one of the sea of brunettes or blondes is actually you? Better to keep it to just you.
By following these helpful dating tips for mature singles over 50 and 60+, you’re well on your way to starting the message exchange and getting to that great first date!