OK, yeah, I’m a hockey fan. I might have lived out in the West for like 20 year now. But scratch the surface, wait until the Stanley Cup playoffs, and trigger the frothing over the mouth enthusiasm of a Northeastern raised girl. We are born and bread hockey fans. I can even actually explain the penalty of “Icing.” So, I’m using the Stanley Cup playoffs to illustrate and provide some examples for singles, especially single women, for how to organize your time of what you are already doing and enjoying to give yourself an edge to meet more people. Hockey is merely the illustrative example. You might be more genuinely a fan of another sport. That is totally cool. Take these dating success principles and apply them to your sport and your location.
So, we are now in the division finals of Stanley Cup Hockey. What that means is that we are literally enjoying a glut of games. Typically that means 3-4 games to watch each weekend for at least 2 weekends. Not to mention the 2 games on certain weekdays. And of course, because we are fundamentally hockey fans as well as fans of our local hockey team, we are often watching the games from the series not just the one OUR team is in. Part of the hockey fan rationale (looking into the mind of a hockey fan) is we want to get an idea of the other teams, the players, and how they play so that when we get to the semi-finals and finals we already have an idea and opinion of how they will play. So even though, having lived in San Francisco for years, I am ergo a good loyal local fan of the San Jose Sharks, I am watching the Boston Bruins vs. Philadelphia Flyers game today. There will also be another game tonight.
The multiple games offers you multiple opportunities to get out and meet other people. So the Bruins v Flyers game. Here in the Pacific Time zone it started in the morning. That would mean, go to a weekend brunch venue where there is a Television set. A number of the very nice hotel chains often have a fabulous weekend brunch with a classy think 1940s-esque bar area with a – praise God – large screen tv. So you can nibble on your omelet and cheer on the game and your team of choice. Oh, yeah, being from New Jersey originally, I cheer on any team who is beating the Flyers. We may respect individual players on the team. However, I am who I am and remain true to my roots. Talk about conditioning and mental frame. Yup. I’m biased.
Dating Tip Brunch Strategy – Chat at the Food Stations
While you are at each of the food stations at your brunch location do chat up others who are there. Going to and from the line of food at a brunch buffet gives you short little opportunities to chat and utter 2 – 4 sentences with strangers and lightly flirt.
Dating Brunch Strategy – Make Frequent Trips to the Food Stations
Put small amount of food on your plate. Not only do we all always invariably put too much food on our plates at buffets, by putting small amount of food on your plate that means you will make more trips and frequent trips up to the Food Stations.
Dating Brunch Strategy – Do Flirt at the Food Stations
If you are carrying on a light flirtation with someone, by making frequent trips to the food stations you provide them with cute, funny, and engaging opportunities for the others to come flirt with you. Even uttering the completely funny and goofy one liners of, “We’ve got to stop meeting like this,” or “You come here often,” when spoken with a sense of humor will break the ice and typically make the other person giggle. Once giggling, you two have more opportunities then to converse.
Now what happens if today is just not the day for there being other singles in your T.I.P. demographic? Are you “wasting” your time? Nope. Instead, follow the advice of Stephen Sills, “Love the One You’re With.” Flirt engagingly with the people who are there. This might mean that you banter charmingly with an older lady old enough to be your Great Aunt Agatha or an elderly gentleman who could have been your grandfather. Go ahead. Sow the seed of good karma. You’ll make their day when you hold a door for her or flirt with him reminding him he is still a man. The more you make being gracious and charming your habitual behavior, the easier it will be to be like that when you are with a T.I.P. for you.
As you practice your charming behavior and character of kindness, fun, and warmth, those attributes make you an increasingly attractive life partner prospect for another. People who want a relationship are looking for that in a potential life partner. They know that character matters for the relationship success long haul.
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
Dating and Relationship Expert
April Braswell says
May 3, 2010 at 8:36 AMHi Fred, great to see you over here after our acquaintanceship at Twitter. Thanks for stopping by and commenting. Yes, you are precisely correct in correcting my hockey terminology that “Icing” is an infraction call, not a penalty. I’m a fan of hockey and a recognized expert in dating and relationships, not the other way around, lol! Thanks for your kind commenting. – April
April Braswell says
May 3, 2010 at 8:42 AMThanks to both Fred and Hezron for having my back and catching the terminology errors during my Stanley Cup playoffs blogging for dating. Always good to know the gentlemen who have my back. Thanks for stopping by and commenting. – April
michael c says
May 5, 2010 at 8:37 PM“Do you come here often?”
that’s great !!!!!
I am going to use that!!!
Michael
Reed M says
November 2, 2010 at 4:37 PMIt’s true april many singles are nhl hockey fans and want single guy or gal who also adores nhl ice hockey!
Buddy Siegfried says
December 8, 2010 at 1:51 AMVery interesting tip for singles. Thanks for putting up. I love sports and dig chicks that like sports, too.
Adam Rosen says
December 24, 2010 at 6:59 AMI would like to thank you for the efforts you have made in composing this dating article to help singles like me, April. Where can a guy like me meet hot girls?
Michael Delesandro says
December 24, 2010 at 8:04 AMThis is a extremely cool dating blog, April. I’ve been reading your tips for awhile now and wanted to say, thanks a great deal for this! I’ve read a great deal about this topic in the past and I agree with your perspective for singles.
Candelaria Delger says
December 24, 2010 at 8:28 AMWith football season wrapping up, is this a good idea now?
Heather says
December 24, 2010 at 9:07 PMHockey is a fun game. Men love it.
Rena says
December 25, 2010 at 2:00 PMI like the idea of going with the sport of the season. What about basketball games?
Jackie says
December 26, 2010 at 6:15 AMApril do you have some examples for a look at what this outfit should look like?
Bernie says
December 28, 2010 at 4:16 AMGreat information April. I’ve sort of heard of the idea of meeting guys at sports bars but I used to spend alot of my time watching sports. It was possibly the most special sequence of my life and your info kind of reminded us of that. Thanks
Caitlin says
December 28, 2010 at 10:54 AMIt would seem that the idea of meeting more guys at a sports bars is not always true, but very very frequently true for most women. Especially when you’re beautiful woman.
Selena Jones says
December 28, 2010 at 3:37 PMI like watching games at a sports bar, but I find they really vary. Is there a chain you suggest which is the best?
Beccah says
December 29, 2010 at 8:56 AMYour dating tips are great April. I enjoy reading them and will return soon.
Henry says
April 29, 2011 at 3:29 PMRound 2 of Stanley Cup has a lot of games over this weekend. I’d love it if there were more hot girls there to watch hockey games with me. That’d be great.
Karessa says
May 2, 2011 at 3:23 PMStanley Cup conference finals is a great time to mingle there are so many hockey games to watch
Carl says
May 2, 2011 at 11:07 PMGreat idea for girls to meet more guys. The series is really heating up. Who do you think will win The Cup?
Glenda says
May 8, 2011 at 2:50 PMThe games are really heating up. Would be great fun to watch the semifinals in public places with ohter hockey fan.
Brad says
May 13, 2011 at 6:22 AMThe games sure are heating up so yes its an exciting time to watch the hockey games with an excited crowd.