Warning Tip Guideline for Dating on Facebook Outside of Your City Region

Welcome to my dating advice and tips blog.  Today I’m continuing on the topic of Facebook Dating, there are 2 particular warning guideline tips I want to share with you about agreeing to communicate and “meet” other singles who live in areas outside of your city.  Today I will address those singles who live outside of your metropolitan area but who still live within the United States.

Two Caveats:

1. Outside of your metro region but in the United States

If you live in Canada or the US, just aim for those singles who live within a reasonable drive from where you live.

What is considered  a reasonable drive or traveling distance varies completely by your city.  If you live in Manhattan you might not even consider schlepping it to Queens or Brooklyn let alone Hoboken, NJ even thought they are within 50 miles of your residence.

However, if you live in Houston you might drive further.  If you live in San Francisco, you might drive as far as San Jose or even the next micro city away of Sacramento, Morgan Hill, or Gilroy.  See what I mean?  It depends upon the uniquenesses where you live.

2. Resort Town Single Residents:

Now, if you live in a major resort area metropolitan area which people visit often, you can keep an open mind about single approaching you to meet.

Just to avoid wasting your time and practice your good quality boundaries, when a single approached you via Facebook email saying you are handsome, cute, pretty, beautiful and they want to talk with you.  Before you accept instant messenger chatting with them or giving out your precious phone number to a complete stranger, do vet them a bit first.  Do check them out and pre qualify them!

Respond warmly.  Thank them for their interest.  Of course they are interested, you’re attractive, right?  Who could blame them for wanting to approach you?  However, let’s be real, shall we?  They live hundreds or perhaps thousands of miles away from you.  So your email reply is gracious, politely, and warmly inquiring.  “Oh do you travel often to [insert your metro area] for business?”

Someone who is actually interested in a real relationship and not a fantasy or a web cam exchange or just to waste your time massively will respond with affirmatives of their travels to your area.  Even if they do say, “Yes,” I don’t recommend you give out your phone number or any other personal information to them…  yet.

A number of singles simply want an online fantasy relationship sort of internet penpal.  They will waste and eat up your precious time if you let them literally for weeks on end and even perhaps for a few months.  It used to be that singles really would make the effort to travel to meet each other.  That was in the early days of forums an internet dating.  Now online relationships can go on for months where singles are pouring out their hearts to each other, bonding emotionally with people they have not yet met, and in all likelihood will never meet.  Then when things fall flat for whatever reason which I can simply summarize as due to the absence of all the additional nuance of in-person communication expressed through body language and other non-verbal communication.  And then the singles email me long stories of real heartbreak and want my help, advice, and guidance.

Tomorrow I will address guidelines of what I do recommend, concrete tactics and strategies for guarding your heart and at the same time still remaining open to finding love online that comes to you.  I have interviewed a number of now happily married couples who met online at various sites including Social Networking sites.  Do keep an open mind and heart and do proceed with caution, shielding your heart and protecting your time.

Until tomorrow….

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell

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