Welcome to my dating advice and tips blog. Today I’m continuing on the topic of Facebook Dating, there are 2 particular warning guideline tips I want to share with you about agreeing to communicate and “meet” other singles who live in areas outside of your city. Today I will address those singles who live outside of your metropolitan area but who still live within the United States.
Two Caveats:
1. Outside of your metro region but in the United States
If you live in Canada or the US, just aim for those singles who live within a reasonable drive from where you live.
What is considered a reasonable drive or traveling distance varies completely by your city. If you live in Manhattan you might not even consider schlepping it to Queens or Brooklyn let alone Hoboken, NJ even thought they are within 50 miles of your residence.
However, if you live in Houston you might drive further. If you live in San Francisco, you might drive as far as San Jose or even the next micro city away of Sacramento, Morgan Hill, or Gilroy. See what I mean? It depends upon the uniquenesses where you live.
2. Resort Town Single Residents:
Now, if you live in a major resort area metropolitan area which people visit often, you can keep an open mind about single approaching you to meet.
Just to avoid wasting your time and practice your good quality boundaries, when a single approached you via Facebook email saying you are handsome, cute, pretty, beautiful and they want to talk with you. Before you accept instant messenger chatting with them or giving out your precious phone number to a complete stranger, do vet them a bit first. Do check them out and pre qualify them!
Respond warmly. Thank them for their interest. Of course they are interested, you’re attractive, right? Who could blame them for wanting to approach you? However, let’s be real, shall we? They live hundreds or perhaps thousands of miles away from you. So your email reply is gracious, politely, and warmly inquiring. “Oh do you travel often to [insert your metro area] for business?”
Someone who is actually interested in a real relationship and not a fantasy or a web cam exchange or just to waste your time massively will respond with affirmatives of their travels to your area. Even if they do say, “Yes,” I don’t recommend you give out your phone number or any other personal information to them… yet.
A number of singles simply want an online fantasy relationship sort of internet penpal. They will waste and eat up your precious time if you let them literally for weeks on end and even perhaps for a few months. It used to be that singles really would make the effort to travel to meet each other. That was in the early days of forums an internet dating. Now online relationships can go on for months where singles are pouring out their hearts to each other, bonding emotionally with people they have not yet met, and in all likelihood will never meet. Then when things fall flat for whatever reason which I can simply summarize as due to the absence of all the additional nuance of in-person communication expressed through body language and other non-verbal communication. And then the singles email me long stories of real heartbreak and want my help, advice, and guidance.
Tomorrow I will address guidelines of what I do recommend, concrete tactics and strategies for guarding your heart and at the same time still remaining open to finding love online that comes to you. I have interviewed a number of now happily married couples who met online at various sites including Social Networking sites. Do keep an open mind and heart and do proceed with caution, shielding your heart and protecting your time.
Until tomorrow….
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
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Rae & Mark says
November 4, 2010 at 12:51 PMLong-distance dating over the Internet (and not just on Social sites) can certainly work, and in fact has several advantages.
Rae & Mark
Dr. Wendy Schauer, D.C., R.K.C. says
November 7, 2010 at 9:59 AMI can see that the internet could be a “safe” way to have an affair with someone who was never intending to meet the other person. That could be a huge waste of time.
Yours In Health!
Dr. Wendy M. Schauer, D.C., R.K.C.
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Dembry says
November 15, 2010 at 6:02 PMHi April. I’m still new with facebook and myspace. The others seem to enjoy it, but I just don’t get it.
Larry says
November 21, 2010 at 4:22 AMWow!, this was a top quality post for how to do Facebook. In theory I’d like to write like this too – taking time and real effort to make a good article and helping people to stay safe online with all the social networking
Sherri Ellis says
November 26, 2010 at 2:05 PMI saw something about Facebook and Twitter TV last night. Great article April
Brandy Ann says
November 28, 2010 at 3:51 AMI just couldn’t leave your dating tips website before letting you know that we really enjoyed the useful information you offer to your visitors about meeting other singles and dating on Facebook. Will be back soon to check up on new posts Thanks April
Jamar Ketola says
November 30, 2010 at 2:57 PMHi April, keeping it safe while meeting singles on Facebook and even MySpace is excellent. I don’t want to waste my time with fakes. Thanks
Trudi says
December 2, 2010 at 7:28 AMWe always need more reminders to date safely online anywhere, including facebook.
Nicolas says
December 21, 2010 at 11:05 AMIt’s important to be safe on Facebook.
Suzannah Bowers says
January 2, 2011 at 7:43 AMCouldnt agree more with that about the need to be cautious with meeting strangers at Facebook. very attractive article
Hannah says
January 18, 2011 at 5:52 PMCouldnt agree more about the need for safety with facebook and social sites, April, very attractive article
Jayne says
March 20, 2011 at 11:34 AMI do get a lot of strange emails from guys who live miles away from me.
Marsha says
April 10, 2011 at 9:20 AMThank you for these safety reminders for dating on Facebook. I think it’s kewl to meet cute guys with facebook friending. But yeah there are loads of single guys hitting on me who lives miles away and I know we’ll never meet. What time wasters. Are they bored?
Allison says
April 12, 2011 at 9:54 AMYeah a lot of guys seem to be approaching me more these days at Facebook. The ones who do usually have only 1 or 2 photos up and look like actors. I don’t feel safe with them.
Beatrice says
April 14, 2011 at 8:26 AMYeah the guys who look like models with only two photos and write how much they love you will you marry me when they have not met me ITRW look like scam artists or something. Beware and don’t waste ur time with them.
Kelly says
April 19, 2011 at 10:53 AMI get a lot of these sort of emails from guyz at Facebook. Some of them are really cute, but they seem so phony. Are they real guyz? Or are they models or escorts? I don’t understand. What are they trying to do. One guy went on and on about being wealthy from inherited family money. But he only has 2 photos up. And one of them has him wearing a wedding band.
Cameron says
April 20, 2011 at 4:33 AMThanks for your blog post abut being careful at MySpace and Facebook. There seem to be a number of women with webcams there. Online hookers it seems like.
Casey says
April 21, 2011 at 12:47 AMThere are a lot of beautiful girls from Africa who want me to send them money after emailing me for a month or so. I thought they were interested in me as a man. But then they showed otherwise. Where can I find real single women who are interested in a real relationship with a real guy, me?