Midlife Dating Expert’s Advice to Singles About Starting Out at the Internet Dating Websites
13 years ago, internet dating was unusual. There were only a handful of sites. And if you were on one of them and blithely and successfully meeting and dating other singles there, you spoke about it in hushed voices. When friends or family members asked you how you met your current girlfriend or boyfriend, you were in a jam trying to make up a story rather than tell them how you really met. And for those lucky many who actually met their fiancés online, they were mortified and their best man and maid of honor had the perfect story for sharing at their toast at their weddings.
Times sure have changed, haven’t they?
Online dating has gone mainstream. It is a mature market and perfect acceptable and normal now. Everyone knows others who have tried it and succeeded at it and many know at least someone who met their spouse online. Internet dating is now totally normal.
So normal, in fact, that what is now daunting is selecting from the hundreds upon hundreds of internet dating sites. How are you to choose? It has literally opened up a brave new world to singles of hundreds of thousands of other singles to choose from. It can seem overwhelming. In fact, influence and persuasion studies demonstrate that when humans have more than a handful of choices, the brain goes into overwhelm. You cannot distinguish the nuanced differences between the choices. And so you make no choice whatsoever. You don’t make a purchase. In terms of for singles, what that means is you remain single.
But when you have a strategy. When you first have a system for determining what you want in a relationship, what you specifically want, not just what your good friends or family members want. Then we can work a system for meeting, dating, and courting til we mate and marry.
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
Las Vegas Online Dating Expert
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Pam Schulz says
October 21, 2009 at 9:28 PMOh how technology has changed everything! With so many dating services – how does a single person make the right choice?
Pam