OK. Thank you to all the people who emailed me for some offline help with the Midlife Single Online Dating profile help. [Update 2019: 10 years ago when I originally wrote this post, it was Baby Boomer singles, not that midlife singles over 40 and 50, that includes Gen X and soon the Gen Y singles.] Check your emails for my individual helps to you. To help you answer the questions about really what to include, I’m citing myself below. Fill your worksheet out a bit more. And tomorrow I’ll show you then MY ONLINE DATING PROFILE BRAND.
To illustrate what I do then with my Dating Coaching client’s worksheets. I mull them over. Typically I come up with a few sort of catch phrases and we talk again to test them for how they FEEL to them.
When you are posting an internet personal’s profile, you want YOUR profile to stand out and in a way which accurately reflects and conveys YOU at the Online Dating Sites. And you need to mentally create a BRAND which will simply be YOUR SHORTHAND to conveying you quickly. Yes, you are more than your brand. You are a full and richly nuanced human being with ups and downs, sweet and sours to your personality (me, too! NO! yes, it’s true… lol!) There is more to you than just a few words. Of course. That is a given. However, this is to HELP other singles who read your internet dating profile to quickly get a FEEL for YOU.
Time and again, the feedback I and my clients receive with our online dating profiles is that… “your profile really was different than everyone else’s…. I felt you were a real person…” They got a snapshot of us.
So, let’s take some examples of some things in your worksheets.
Me:
Blonde
Long hair
Great skin
Voluptuous figure, tends towards being overweight
not skinny
Short
not tall
5’4″
White, in fact, quite fair
Serious curves
great smile
dazzling smile
martian body type
Personality
intelligent
witty
funny
humorous
sweet
open
sensual
passionate
adventurous
entrepreneurial
sales and marketing professional (profession can be under OTHER, more important just to cite it than to worry, “Which column should I categorize this into?”)
Other:
Seven Sisters
Smith College
Preppie
Grew up in Princeton
Love Colonial History
Bibliovore (I love to read and have LOTS of books, bookcases are a significant furniture consideration)
Entrepreneurial lifestyle and mind set (namely, I “work” on the weekends and in the evenings)
LOVE hiking
Love getting out into nature
city girl
Love New York City in a Big Way
Art lover
Cat, dogs, horses animal lover
Baker more than cooking and yet good (not GREAT) cook
Peets coffee fan
Love the TV show HOUSE
Love Brit humor and comedies
ah… strong sense of humor (I know a little redundant from previous column)
From East Coast
Live in Las Vegas, former Silicon Valley tech land
Youngest child
Large family
Parents dead
No children
Widowed, young widow
OK, that is long enough for today.
Tomorrow I will show you how I take those attributes and created my BRAND. Additionally, I’ll talk about some of the ITEMS which did NOT become part of my brand and why etc.
Until then….
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
Midlife Dating Quick Start Expert, Relationship Success Coach
Duane Cunningham says
May 10, 2009 at 1:07 AMHi April,
Thanks for the info! Im looking forward to seeing how you branded yourself for this purpose
Duane
jc mackenzie says
May 10, 2009 at 1:24 AMApril,
Your kidding, colonial history? I’ve been a colonial living historian for many years now, specifically southeast 1780-1781.
I even make braintan leather
Now, that’s interesting, there aren’t that many of us around!
Thanks
JC
Christian Haller says
May 10, 2009 at 4:20 AMWith that, I don’t think you have much trouble creating a good brand – very interested in how this turns out. Notice you never mentioned age – how does this figure into thing?
Christian Haller
John Ho says
May 10, 2009 at 5:26 AMApril,
Glad to see that you’ve now got 20 subscribed readers instead of just 4.
Also you example of how to brand yourself in the singles market si pretty impressive too!
John Ho
Darryl Pace says
May 10, 2009 at 10:58 AMApril,
Very nice post. I feel that I know you much more than I did before reading it. Great use of yourself as an example to show your readers how to brand themselves.
Health, Fitness — Darryl Pace
Steve Chambers says
May 10, 2009 at 11:11 AMVery forthcoming post. You are an effective brand maven.
Steve Chambers, The Sales Expert
Yann Vernier says
May 10, 2009 at 11:35 AMGood way of doing preparing an appealing online profile. Like great marketing: start by listing the features then work out your unique angle.
But did I read this right… “martian body type”? What is this?
All the best,
Yann
Lynn Lane says
May 10, 2009 at 3:13 PMWhat a great list you have. Always great information and advice. Thanks.
Lynn LAne
Rob Northrup says
May 10, 2009 at 3:58 PMGreat list of attributes. I look forward to seeing where you go with this…
Seize the Day,
Rob
Bob Kaufer says
May 10, 2009 at 7:01 PMIt is good to get to know you better. I feel as if I should be buying you dinner and a few drinks now.
Bob Kaufer
Pam Schulz says
May 10, 2009 at 7:22 PMInteresting concept to brand yourself in the world of online dating.
Pam
jc mackenzie says
May 10, 2009 at 8:42 PMHappy Mother’s Day!!
JC
Anthony Lemme says
May 11, 2009 at 1:12 PMInteresting. Was age mentioned and I just missed it or was it intentional?
Anthony
Pat Becker says
May 11, 2009 at 9:12 PMAnd now we start singing “Getting to know you, getting to know all about you, getting to like you, getting to…” (from South Pacific)
Pat
Don Shepherd says
May 12, 2009 at 6:06 AMthe question of age keeps popping up, but to me age is a marker others use to know if it’s time to quite.
Don Shepherd
Lisa McLellan says
May 12, 2009 at 7:10 PMThis is great, I love the whole branding yourself idea. I love reading your blog and thinking about what I would do if I were single! I can see my list “babysits – no I’m not 16″……
Lisa McLellan, Babysitting Services – Babysitters, Nannies, and Au-pairs
Sonya Lenzo says
May 14, 2009 at 6:39 AMI, too, am curious about what is a martian body????
SunnyMarie