Moving from Online Social Connection to Face to Face
As a further amplification of my Romance Coach and Online Dating Coach post from yesterday about DO Social Networking for enhancing Your Dating Life, tee hee. You DO still need actually to MEET F2F.
So, just like with the Online Dating Sites (either the Free Online Dating sites or the ones where you pay for your membership), the idea is to exchange a few emails and actually…
ARRANGE TO MEET F2F.
Otherwise it is a fantasy and you are wasting your time. I generally recommend about 3-5 emails to connect and segue to Let’s Meet. When you live more than 35-50 miles apart, you might email for a bit longer. I’ll address that in a forthcoming article at my website. More than about 5 emails and there’s something wrong. Sometimes the other party is recently divorcing or divorced and may just be rusty in this area of dating and not know Online Dating Protocol and Online Dating Etiquette (like don’t swear in an email to a lady before you meet or I would advise her NOT to meet you! Initially display your gentlemanly behavior. We all burp and expel gas, but let’s be gracious and well-mannered, OK? And some of the blue collar men I know who you might THINK this would be more of an issue with are the ones who are MOST gentlemanly with Da Ladies. So, I’m conferring respect to all of you men, here.).
So, be a little forbearing. You may have a diamond in the rough. Remember, dating is to practice your communication skills of what you want and don’t want and to practice your skills on How To Flirt? (you ARE flirting, right? OK. Good. phew!).
When my sweet friend Lisa from BabySitting World, Boston’s HOTTEST Mom, and yup, sorry guys, MARRIED, doesn’t understand how Social Networking would benefit her, well, it may NOT cause she is MARRIED. Of course, if you are PLANNING to go on a date, you might need her free Ebook on what to look for in a Baby Sitter. Do check out her website. This lady is truly an expert and amazing.
But for those of us who are SINGLE, it is a great additional component in your Dating Strategy.
Hope that helps in clarifying things.
For those of us in sales, my guideline about arrange to meet within a few emails, you may notice the Law of Sales Speed being applied here. There is MOMENTUM in Sales. Once there is an INTEREST EXPRESSED, we need to arrange for ACTION NEXT STEPS, not just general phone calls to keep things warm UNTIL there is a project ready. Same thing with Dating. Can you imagine if we said, “well, when you’re READY to get married, call me, and we’ll go on a few dates THEN!”
Dating is about BEING SEEN and KNOWN and about GETTING READY for a Romantic Relationship.
Enjoy!
All the best,
April Braswell
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