Dating Coach April Braswell Answers more Questions from Single Women:
Answering more questions from single guys and gals about how to meet more eligible and available singles, and then once you meet them, what to do, how to behave, to get to that all important first date. How can you activate attraction on first dates?
” There is this guy I like and he is friendly towards me. How do I show him I like him and maybe flirt with him? Nothing too bold, I don’t want to seem like I’m a stalker or anything. Thanks.”
What a great question. Learning how to flirt and express your fun body language flirting side is an important romantic relationship skill for both women and men. It’s no longer like when we were years old and would race up to a cute boy at school and just kiss him, nor should we punch him in the arm and think he’ll understand that means we think he’s pretty cute.
Ladies, it sounds like in many ways you are just starting to play with your feminine wiles, feminine charm and your flirtations skills. So, for right now, keep it simple with your flirtations. Go ahead. Give him the admiration every man craves from a woman.
3 Ways You Can Flirt with Men with Your Feminine Charm
How to charm men on dates:
- Do Smile at him,
- Do Bat your eyelashes.
- Do Touch him
When you converse with him, just lightly touch his shoulder and upper arm area and lightly tease and joke with him. Think to yourself, “I’m expressing my feminine fun side! I’m charming”
- Do Push your hair behind your ears when you talk with him. That is a body language flirting preening gesture. Many men have been told that women who are attracted to them do preen somewhat in front of them. And it’s true! We do preen in front of a man to whom we are attracted. Just like the birds who are looking to attract their mate preen and display their most beautiful plumage, so do women in front of a man whose attention they want to grab!
Also, when you are with him, keep the conversations short, so he is just intrigued by you. Don’t over do it. We enhance our personal charisma when we ask the other person engaging questions about themselves, and then Do Listen to their answers! Smile, nod. Affirm back what they are saying to you. “How interesting. That sounds fascinating!”
Not only will he think you are interested in him and receptive to his romantic advances towards you, he will be interested in YOU!
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
Allen says
July 31, 2010 at 8:04 AMGreat dating advise. Absolutely, be cautious about sending mixed signals.
Peggy Larson says
August 1, 2010 at 3:55 PMI usually think about reading other people’s body language rather than think how to use body language to convey my message. Very insightful thinking!
Peggy Larson
Anthony says
August 1, 2010 at 7:23 PMHi April,
Those are good tips. I think it is best to be ourselves but when we are nervous we act a little different and send mixed signals. I totally agree with ending interactions or conversations at a high point to add mystery and keep the tension up. People need to delay gratification, stop clinging and quit while they’re ahead. It is often best to do what seems counter intuitive when when it comes to love and especially dating. It’s refreshing to hear advice for women after working with male clients who (even though I see them for health related issues) end up asking for dating, relationship and sex advice. For men, it is being solid in who you are and what you want from life, having great body language that shows strength and confidence and of course, to totally drop viewing the woman as an object or something special and really being present with her and seeing her as a human being with hopes, fears, desires, etc with no expectation for getting anything…especially her approval! I have given so much love and sex advice the last year, that I’m beginning to think I’m in the wrong business!
Great tips as always.
Kind regards,
Anthony
Michael D Walker says
August 2, 2010 at 12:51 AMGood advice. The subtle little touches on the shoulder & upper arm are great ways to signal interest.
Michael
Skyee says
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Katie Pierce says
December 19, 2010 at 10:43 PMHow do you move from just chatting with a guy to getting him to ask you out?
Sarah says
December 20, 2010 at 10:33 AMSalut to all out there! Nice site for dating tips! Anyway, I just wanted to share this crazy concept to relationships that I was forwarded a few days ago. Evidently there is this org that claims that all people born on the same date are exactly the same and therefore are most fitting. I am going to test out their demos because it sounds a little unbelievable to me but you never know.. The way my love life is going I am at a point where I will try anything.
Monica says
December 23, 2010 at 8:29 PMThank you, I have recently been searching for information about the idea of dating again topic for ages and yours is the best I have discovered so far April.
Franny says
December 28, 2010 at 6:28 PMHi April. Thank you the reminder. I usually feel shy with people and don’t know how to talk with cute guys. Where is the best place to meet them?
Maria Sarvas says
December 30, 2010 at 4:09 PMThanks for writing on this subject. You know, I want to flirt with a guy but I don’t know how. I don’t want to be too bold. There’s a lot of great guys at the internet dating sites nowadays. You’ve got a lot of that info here on your site. I’m highly impressed – I try to keep a couple of blogs reasonably live, but it’s seemingly impossible at times. You have done a big job with this one in particular. How do you manage it?
Antoinette Martinez says
January 10, 2011 at 7:58 AMHi April. I like how you make flirting sound easy and comfortable!
Kim Sherwood says
January 16, 2011 at 5:11 PMI don’t want to be too much or obvious with a guy…
Kevin says
March 9, 2011 at 9:05 PMI’d love it if a hot girl talked to me at Starbucks or at the mall. Where do I sign up?
Darren Haynes says
March 12, 2011 at 7:44 AMIf you’re already at the mall can we just get a coffee there or do I need to ask her for a date for another time? What do girls expect?
Ally Mitchell says
March 12, 2011 at 11:18 AMI don’t feel comfortable talking to cute guys. What do you recommend?
Tony Graham says
March 19, 2011 at 5:30 AMIf a cute girl started talking to me like this that would be hot. I’d love it and get her number.
Lisa Kilgore says
March 19, 2011 at 3:53 PMSome genuinely nice and useful info for talking to cute guys. I sorta feel a bit less shy with your post.
Brigitte says
March 25, 2011 at 5:54 AMWhat about meeting single mature men? The gray panther men, April? The Seniors Social Groups near where I live have so many elderly women that I find it difficult to meet men over 55 years old who are single…
Shantanu says
August 10, 2015 at 3:45 AMHummm..now i know why girls do all the activities as mentioned here. It will be easy to understand their body language and respond accordingly for a fruitful relationship.