Are you “Shoulding” All Over Yourself in Your Quest for Love Online?

By April Braswell

April Braswell, leading expert Romance Coach and Online Dating Coach shares from her treasure trove of Secrets to Getting More Dates with Men, wherever you live.

A number of the better know Online Dating websites have sections, lengthy sections, about your non negotiables.

And your friends are always whispering in your ear about,

He should always pick you up.
If he LIKED you he’d phone you right away after a date.
If he LIKED you, he’d give you roses, all the time!
He should treat you better!

And if your a man, your friends are saying…
You SHOULDn’t have to pay for your profile just to meet girls!
You SHOULDn’t have to drive to her!
She SHOULD meet you half way!
You SHOULDn’t have to give her roses!
She SHOULD like you for who you are so you… don’t have to dress up, smell clean and nice, pick her up, or pay.

I love my friends.  Especially my single girlfriends who love to go out and make a point of flirting with men and meeting more men.

However, well, just sometimes doesn’t it feel like every little detail of your dating life is scrutinized?

Do you feel like this is throwing your dating confidence?

Do you tell your friends all the details of what you do in your dating life?  I find more ladies at the really fun online boards (I work with 2 or 3 as an owner or selected moderator) will often scrutinize every detail.  And I am so inspired to see how we strive to be helpful with each other.

But sometimes it is just too much.  Too much scrutiny giving too specific, practically step-by-step advice when they haven’t met the person and don’t know all the rapport and chemistry the couple has. 

However, there is a need to build the skill set of knowing when there is sufficient rapport and chemistry in your couple.  How CAN you know?  What will be some of your criteria?

Well, one sure tell-tale sign is Body Language.  And you don’t have to go spend 7 years (like we have the TIME when our biological is tick, tick, ticking!  And I don’t just mean the women’s bio clock.  Plenty of men in their 30s are feeling that testosterone driven urge to reproduce, too. And they are wondering, “How can I really tell if a girl is interested in me?”) getting a PhD in Reading Body Language.  Instead, you can learn from internationally renowned Body Language Expert, Dr. Kevin Hogan.  Learning to read Body Language like an expert build up your dating, communication, and relationship skills, enabling you to be more successful in love.