Internet Dating Advice: Consider, Is Your Possible Date Actually Real?
You arranged for a professional photographer to take photos of you….
You used a top Professional Internet Dating Profile Writer to craft your online profile…
You took action searching on and approaching the singles who attracted you and appealed to you….
But then something strange happened.
Mr. Too Perfect
The man seemed a little too perfect. Maybe he’s the kind where he’s had his heart broken by his ex-wife who was unfaithful to him. Or he’s widowed and his wife died tragically. He’s a single dad now and really wants to hurry up and marry again and find a mother for his child.
He has only 2 photographs up in his profile and in them he looks utterly perfect.
Frankly, part of you is thinking just maybe he’s a model. It even seems that the quality of his photos are not just professional of a real person with whom you could connect. His pictures look like those stock photos available for purchase online.
Or perhaps his variation is on his financial success..
He talks about his family wealth and inheritance. He writes you pages of poems in email. He tells you he loves you. Only he hasn’t ever met you live. He seems very successful and romantic. Maybe he even has some photos of himself in a full business suit and talks about his wealth and business success in his bio and about section.
But it just doesn’t feel like he’s for real.
He emails for weeks upon weeks with you and yet just sort of can’t ever manage to meet you F2F live in person and interactive ITRW. Even when you try to schedule to meet in person, just for drinks or a cup of coffee, he just can never seem to manage to do it.
Young Model Wants to Marry and Have a Family Now
She’s beautiful. She’s so good looking and hot that she could be a model. She’s younger than you are. Her English seems right, but you start to notice her language structure and phrases just aren’t quite the way that people here in The States (and Canada) actually speak. She tells you how handsome and successful you are. She appreciates you as a man. She keeps saying how much she wants to get married and have children with you. She puts off meeting you. She just always seems to be busy or completely unresponsive when you text her to talk or skype early evening after work local time.
And then she tells you she got sick, her child from a former boyfriend got sick, her aunt got sick, or her mother got sick. And they need an expensive operation. She needs money from you. She wants money from you. She asks you for money to help her. Or she wants you to redirect to go look at her website. She invites you to webcam with her. When you ask her for a date, she gives you a 900 number to phone her.
Single guys feel used and mislead. Single women feel like these guys were just a huge waste of time and energy. The sad truth and dirty little secret of online dating is that yes, there are some scam artists out there. Professional cons of one kind or another. In internet dating workshops when the singles relate these sort of stories to me, their questions is, “Why are they doing it?” Rather than wasting any more time and energy on those people, instead practice solid dating practices and internet dating safety behaviors. When you do this regularly and habitually, you will automatically filter those fakes out of your dating pipeline.
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
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Neil Dhawan says
April 27, 2011 at 4:54 PMGreat post with a real in depth account of what can happen out there. I usually try to follow the rule “If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.” However, your advice of following the internet dating safety behaviors is brilliant!
Best, Neil
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Sonya Lenzo says
April 27, 2011 at 5:17 PMThere is always someone trying to make a buck …and not being too scrupulous about how they do it. The point is to beware. Anything thatlooks too good to be true…IS.
Sonya Lenzo
Kevin Hogan says
April 27, 2011 at 5:46 PMWhat’s scary is these people are really out there….
Jennifer Battaglino says
April 27, 2011 at 5:50 PMOh my goodness Ms. Braswell, great illustration of what can happen when one engages in online dating as well as how this is a minority. When done properly and with some safety you can find that special someone…who’s real.
Jen B
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Clare Delaney says
April 27, 2011 at 10:01 PMGood grief, I had no idea this went on! Good warning!
Clare
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Reading Body Language says
April 27, 2011 at 10:38 PMThat is strange April to learn that people do that online.
Michael D Walker says
April 27, 2011 at 10:41 PMGreat post about the dangers of online dating and how to protect yourself April.
Michael
John Moulder says
April 28, 2011 at 5:13 AMSome people are a waste of space , using up our oxygen . You just have to be so carefull . Modern dating with the internet sure is a big learning curve .
Dewayne Chriswell says
April 28, 2011 at 5:46 AMThe best advice I’ve heard since “Don’t talk to strangers.” (And some are even stranger than others). Thanks for the tips for meeting Mr. or Ms. Right, …the Right way while protecting our safety and security online and ITRW April. You’re the best.
Dewayne Chriswell
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Trisha Chambers says
April 28, 2011 at 7:20 AMAnother reason I’m glad I’m not single anymore April!
Kevin Bettencourt says
April 28, 2011 at 10:25 AMI love that you gave us a couple of set ups. Thanks for the heads up and how to spot these people.
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April 28, 2011 at 11:52 AMI saw a program on TV a few months ago and it was about the situations that you just explained. It was very sad to know that some poeple had been though a process of feeling in love and then find out that those perfect persons just wanted their money…
Eva Palmer
Rachel Robinson says
April 28, 2011 at 1:26 PMThanks for pointing out that it can happen to men as well as women. Anyone can get scammed or fooled into believing a person is something that they aren’t. You have to walk the fine line of being careful without becoming cynical or jaded. It’s rough but the tips you give are a great start for singles like me.
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Michael says
April 28, 2011 at 7:08 PMYou can never figure people out can you, April.
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Steve C says
May 1, 2011 at 7:59 AMThere are so many online dangers we need to watch out for. Scams seem to abound, especially in the dating and relationship area.
Steve C
David King says
June 10, 2011 at 2:02 PMVery good point at the social networking sites like faceook and myspace. With the Jessica Studebaker story today your tips for singles to be careful is right on. I surely love this site, keep it up April.
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