I was at a professionals event yesterday for lunch, and 2 of the executive business women I was talking with asked me about my work as a Dating Expert and Online Dating Coach. I received actually several questions. One that came up repeatedly was about what are 1 or 2 quick dating tips you can give me to improve my singles dating success?
Just like a business owners and sales people needs to invest time to quality business networking so do singles need to invest TIME for getting out, meeting lots of new singles, and going on many dates until they regularly are meeting and dating great quality singles like themselves.
However, so many of today’s singles look to date and mate have super busy work and commute schedules. One of the laments I often hear initially from single men and women during the dating coaching application process is that they are presently investing maybe 30 minutes a week to meeting new singles, often online.
Think about it with me for a moment. Imagine yourself married and sharing your life with your fun beloved spouse. Will you see them for 30 minutes a week? Typically, ah, NO! You will see them for few hours PER DAY. When you want to attract a life partner, a love mate with whom to share your life, you will need to start chinking away at your time MAKE ROOM FOR LOVE in your life schedule for them. This is not just advice to men but to women. Many busy professional single women essentially have no time for a life partner.
Singles will tell me, “Oh, April, once I meet them, then, THEN I will carve out time for them in my schedule….”
Well trust me, they feel it. You will find it extremely challenging to attract a life partner mate where there is no spatial time room for them in your life. Single men feel it when a woman is too busy to care about him and his life. Yes, have a life, keep busy with what you love, AND be sure to invest time each week to where you are meeting many other quality singles.
Happy Dating and Relationships,
Las Vegas Baby Boomer Dating Expert
Vick says
January 28, 2010 at 5:57 AMThought provoking ideas – April. Any relationship you are in be it dating, marriage, business, social needs their moments. Every day in life is not a bowl of cherries but one can make it that way by spending quality time togather. Yes we all have schedules, but if you want any kind of relationship with someone you need to put in the time. No time – No relationship. Even if you communicate how rotten your day is you are communicating and the relationship is moving forward – not falling apart. It is called be present with what matters in your life.
Vicki http://www.bridal-threads.com
Hezron says
January 30, 2010 at 8:28 AMHello April
Very interesting post.
As it relates to my situation, I find that the places to meet these self-proclaimed “quality singles” is limited. Where I live, it is career suicide to date a colleague (often it ends up in sexual harrassment cases), bar scene, even I find speed dating is “buyer beware” and the gym is full of single women who have serious attitude.
I think that these career women who have difficulty finding a quality partner, need to look at themselves first. I think in some cases, some of these singles have unrealistic, fantasy-like expectations (ie. must have car, house, MBA and a six figure income before I go on a coffee date) As a man, I refuse to accept the “all men suck” from these women. In fact, many of these career women don’t even have this going on in their life.
I think what some people are telling you Ms. Braswell is that “they will make the room if that person measures up”. If I met a woman who I found interesting, had all this room, her house had extra space etc. I would be thinking, she’s crazy. From that perspective. Nowadays, I find these women act like I am their “convienence factor” which I am not. I am a human being and wish to treated with respect and courtesy. Most importantly, I am seeking a “life partner”, not a corporate subordinate that is disposable in her eyes.
Have a good one.
April Braswell says
January 30, 2010 at 9:54 PMHi Vick,
thank you for stopping by my blog and commenting. Those thoughts about the investment of our time and life into our relationships is part of what makes them so rich and meaningful in our lives, isn’t it?
April
Sonya Lenzo says
December 20, 2011 at 6:13 AMThis is SUCH a good point! It reminds me of the quote from the Bible…where your treasure is, there is your heart also…It’s not surprising that if one leaves no time for finding someone, there is no someone!
Sonya Lenzo