Now that you met at least 6 new people while getting your coffee yesterday morning, it is time to think of how to use your lunchtime strategically. Even if you brown bag it, you can meet others. However, I want you to manage your personal budget to where you eat lunch out at least once per week. This is part of your social budget for those of you who do the goal and the desire to get married. If you want to get married, then like everything else in life, it takes an investment of yourself, your time, your energy, your best self, your skill sets, and earmarked budgetary funds.
Eat Lunch Out on Fridays
Fridays are often the busiest day when the most people at corporate offices eat lunch out. If you are in a Business Park sort of area, Friday lunches out make the best use of the Law of Large Numbers. If you only go out to lunch once a week, you want to have the Law of Large Numbers on your side. Now, who is your target ideal prospect for a relationship? As single women, we require men who are financially stable, and frankly a lot of the single men want that in their romantic partner, too. There are two groups I’m going to profile for you to test the waters with for you.
Aiming to Meet Single Business Men?
If you are a business woman, a business executive yourself sometimes you mesh best with another corporate business type of a person. In that case, simply go to one of the restaurants near where you work and eat lunch there.
Maximize Opportunities to Chat with Others By Sitting Up at the Bar
First, to maximize the opportunities to meet others and interact with them casually, do sit at the little tables up by the Bar area of the restaurant. The booths and tables are too far apart typically to allow for casually meeting others. If your restaurant has small tables next to each other, you can still manage to cross the divide and start short little conversations.
You can experiment with 2 approaches to have some variety over who you meet:
Dating Tip Strategy #1: Go with a Girlfriend
Going with another girlfriend means you will have conversation and people will see you being lively and engaging as well as see your good listening skills behavior. Often with the two of you just chatting happily, you can find little ways to engage the people next to you in your conversation. “My friend was just stating an opinion on X. She thinks X about X. I think Z about X. We want a MAN’s opinion! What do you think?” Turn, look them in the eye, SMILE, and WAIT for his response. Sit in silence smiling expectantly at him until he speaks.
Dating Tip Strategy #2: Go Alone
Often men retell that they feel more comfortable just casually chatting with a woman who is alone than in approaching a woman who is with other girlfriends. You might not think this is really that big a deal. But to single guys, it really is. This is known as “The Approach.” In Sales Speak, it is “The Engagement.” When they risk approaching and talking to a girl, they are afraid not only of being shot down, and rudely. But even more so, they are deathly afraid of a girl then turning to her girlfriends, ridiculing him to her friends, and laughing at him behind his back. Imagine a cluster of girls, leaning their heads in toward each other, hands of over mouths, pointing, and giggling. That is like The Worst to a guy. By your sitting alone, you remove that deathly fear for him.
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
Mike Norris says
April 15, 2010 at 8:46 PMI am more comfortable chatting with a woman by herself that a woman out with friends. I would not feel right approaching her if she was with friends. Unless of course she is practically waving me over.
Mike
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Bill says
April 16, 2010 at 10:05 AMHi April, indeed, most of these tips apply to men approaching women, as well. Great advice.
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Chris Trotta says
December 21, 2010 at 8:49 PMHi April. Once you get the conversation going with a guy how can you get him to ask you out there and then?
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Rich Townsend says
December 25, 2010 at 2:00 PMHi April. I like the conversation starter tips. I can use those with beautiful girls too. Thanks.
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