Dating Expert Advice for Women to Meet More Single Men Monday Morning

Thanks for stopping by my dating advice and tips blog.  Sometimes I blog specifically for singles and sometimes I wrap in some relationship success advice which is relevant for both married folks and singles.  Today’s dating tip is targeted for singles.  However, an attribute of happily married couples enjoying a lifetime of love is to inject elements of “newness” into their relationship periodically over time.  Part of that newness is to include meeting new people and weaving them into your lives.

Successful Singles Dating Is a Numbers Game

Not on a crass level of just churning through meeting people, but rather reframing your mind, teaching and programing your mind to see all the wonderful people who surround you each day, it is a numbers game to meet and date other singles, court, and get married.

That being said, take a piece of paper and write down Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday as the left hand column down the page.  Now, next to each day, write a number.  Write the number of people you encountered and spoke to.  All it had to be was a smile and “Hello, nice day.” or “Hello, beautiful weather,” even while you were passing them walking at the park.  How many people did you meet?  Write that in your comment here at my blog.  Give me the total number of people you met last week.

Successful Singles Implement, Meet New People and Go on Great Dates

You want to aim for a minimum of 5 people a day which totals to 35 people in a week.  No, it doesn’t always have to be members of the opposite sex, although that would be cool.  My clients ramp up to meeting 50 people of the opposite gender each week minimum.  There’s a reason they couple up, become engaged and marry.  Having a coach in dating like having a coach in athletics makes a difference for the implementation, direction, and results.

Start thinking about what you can do where you like to meet more new people each day.

In my direct sales days in the software empire of technology center, Silicon Valley, an attribute of the most successful top-selling sales people was we created and plotted out our selling plan for the week in advance of the week.  It is Sunday.  Don’t worry that I’m going to suggest you race out tonight and try to throw yourself into a tizzy of undirected non-strategic meeting people activity.  Relax.  Sip a cup of tea, kick back and make a plan for just Monday to start your creative engines going.

What can you do Monday morning to meet 5 new people?  You can do your numbers before you even get to the office.  If you normally are a good frugal steward of your dollars or euros and brew your own coffee at home, instead on Monday mornings you now going forward purchase just a small cup of coffee at a coffee shop.  Each Monday, go to a different coffee shop.  Vary it.  Both vary the location and vary the chain.  Yes, Peets coffee drinkers here in the States have a strong opinion and preference for Peets over Starbucks.  So you will definitely meet a different coffee “Tribe” as J-P Micek and Deb Micek, authors of Online Persuasion describe the communities we identify ourselves with.  You want to be sure to stretch yourself a bit.  You don’t have to go do bizarre activities you loathe.  I’m not suggesting that.  I am however suggesting you stretch yourself to do activities which are 5-15 degree stretch from what you normally do now and to do so in slightly different places and venues than you normally do now.  And to do so at slightly different times than you do presently.

If precisely what you are doing now were working, you wouldn’t still be single, right?  So, stretch yourself.  You will also receive the wonderful benefit of the life habit of stretching yourself.  This stimulates your brain and your body for life.

At the Door

Back to your coffee.  When you enter the door, hold it for someone else or someone holds it for you.  Of course you utter while smiling and making eye contact, “You’re welcome,” or, “Thank you.” Check.  That was your first person.  By the way, the smile and eye contact is essential.  Eye contact makes for contact and connection without actually touching the person.  Our modern 21st century lives are so bereft of real human contact while we bustle about busily that you stand out in people’s minds when you actually pause even for a few moments to genuinely connect with them by making eye contact with them.  Hold their eyes for a moment.  Now go on in.

While On Line

I’m hoping there is a line.  Chat up the person in front of you and behind you.  Something as simple as, “I don’t normally come here.  Is this chain good?  How do you like them?” 2 people, maybe 3.  Check.

At the Counter

When you order, be gracious, say hello, “How are you today?  Beautiful weather we’re having,” to your wait person.  You are the Queen of England or the Dali Lama – gracious to all and acknowledging them.  Check.  That’s another.

At the Condiment Counter

Over at the condiment counter.  “Oh, would you please pass me the half and half?  Thank you.” Smile.  Eye contact.  Check.  Another person.  Stir stir.  Take your time.  Don’t rush.  Another person, male, female, it doesn’t matter for now, walks up.  “Would you please pass me a napkin?  Thank you.” Warm smile with eye contact.  Check.

That was actually 6 – 7 people if you were at a busy coffee shop.  So you see, in 15 minutes at the right location, armed with the right attitude and mind set of wanting to see and meet other wonderful new people each day, you can easily meet at least 5 new people before arriving at work.

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell