Memorial Day Weekend Dating Tips for Singles

Here in the United States Memorial Day weekend is approaching.  And that signals the start of Summertime with its fun association of Summer Romance!

When you hear the phrase, “Summer Romance,” what do you imagine?  Beach Boys music playing in the background?  Surfer dudes and bikini clad girls all enjoying the sun, the surf, and beach during carefree days of the Summer months of June, July, and August all before the school year starts again in the Fall?  Or perhaps your imaginary mind conjures up more of the 1980s and 1990s “Brat Pack” sort of movies featuring a young Demi Moore, John Cusack, Julia Roberts, Molly Ringwald, and Andrew McCarthy?

Summer Romance is not the exclusive purview of high school and college students.  Most of us are not taking weeks off and traveling off to beaches far from us over the Summertime with our being adults with careers and responsibilities.  Certainly, the Europeans enjoy a longer Holiday schedule where they do indeed go off for weeks on end to enjoy a time of relaxation and rejuvenation, including being on the beach.

One of the key attributes of Summer Romances is that by their very nature of being a SUMMER Romance, they are intended to be short-lived.  Summer Romances are not intended to your long lasting love relationships which we hope will lead to a life partner relationship of marriage.

Summer Romances are, by their very nature, ephemeral.

That is part of their charm and appeal.

I remember short fiction stories featured in Teen Girls Magazines when I was a teenager featuring stories of Summer Romance.  And these frothy little pieces of fiction confection taught important lessons of what to expect in romances which is still important for teens to receive to this day.  If we are not taught what to expect in love and romance, then we are just left to our own whims, capricious emotions, and advice from our friends and a few popular internet sites. Can you imagine how problematic that is? Precisely.

So the short fiction story I read and remember, it was the tale of young girl’s Summer Romance.  And she had stirred emotions and loved her boyfriend….  Went home and then was confused when things didn’t in some manner continue between the two of them.  I can imagine the 21st century rendition would tell of the two of them half hanging onto each other by FRIENDING each other over at Facebook and Instagram and the lingering that that causes.  People like her mother and older sister had to tell her specifically, “It’s supposed to end come Fall.  It was a Summer Romance.”

Knowing that in advance can be very freeing to just simply ENJOY the people we meet and have stirred up feelings of attraction and romance.  Just ENJOY it and don’t worry about the long term relationship.  When you free yourself up and open yourself to love, you will find it!  And sometimes it is the romance of a lifetime.  And sometimes it is just the romance for this Summer!  Enjoy!

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell