Dating Coach Tips for Single Women: Keeping It Clean

Taking off where I left off yesterday with your sample list of errands to run this week, ladies.  Of course, your own list of errands will vary.  You will add more items as well as delete some of the sample items I provided for illustrative purposes.  Most of the examples I cited were for marriage minded single women, typically over about 35, 37, 40s and 50s. If you’re a little bit older or younger but serious about seeking a LTR Long Term Relationship, just adapt the list and locations to better suit where you are and your lifestyle, ok?

And then when I reply I find out they read my blog post and many others (thank you for following so faithfully.  I do appreciate it.) only to find out they read my blog but never implement any of the action steps!  Well, no wonder you are still single.  That is like all of us who enjoy reading about exercising.  I’m including that here to poke fun at myself, because I can tend towards that. To borrow from one of my followers, a single man in his 30s, “Now go implement!”

I hear from both single guys and women about how impossible/difficult it is to meet eligible singles where they live.   Really, I have a lot of compassion for you for that.  When I was single-never-married, I lived in San Francisco which in nationally believed to be “impossible” or certainly difficult for single heterosexual women to find eligible heterosexual men.  However, literally more than 13,000 couples got marriage licenses in San Francisco, New York, Toronto, and Chicago last year and the year before.  You could be one of those next year if you are truly motivated.

Well, to borrow the phrase from the Silicon Valley software companies where I have been a top-ranking sales woman, “We eat our own dog food.” The very dating tips which I provide to you for free and generously (over 400 articles to-date not including the radio appearances and conferences who invite me to present) are what I did to meet my husband.  They are also what hundreds and thousands of former singles now married folks who I have worked with an also interviewed did to meet each other.  They work.

Now, if you’re not motivated to get married and you’re just information gathering, that is perfectly fine.  A lot of us want to gather good quality information before using it fully.  You might be in your 20s and wanting to date more but not actually feeling ready to get married.  Bless your heart.  Read on!  These action steps when you implement them will help you to meet more people and get more dates.  Of course, they only work as you work them!

To pick up on our errands list, what about all those cleaning errands?  Now implementing these two need not even extend your errand time drastically.

1. Drop off dry cleaning
2. Pick up dry cleaning
3. Do Laundry

Dating Tip – Dry Cleaning

Drop off and Pick Dry Cleaning.  Literally yes, I have interviewed couples who met at the Dry Cleaners, so this is not just a bright idea “to do” item with no track record.  I have one single man who always wants to know if someone has married from the precise list of action steps he has from me.  Yes, I can promise you with this one, couples have met and married from having met at the Dry Cleaners. While the numbers are great for all the marriages sourced from having met at the top quality paid internet dating sites, not every marriage starts there.

So, now is the time to leverage the Law of Large Numbers and go to the Dry Cleaners when it is busiest not when it is the least busy.  That means first thing in the morning before work office hours (not all are open at 7:30 am, so adapt it to where you live) as well as right after work hours.  Yes, this will add about 7 minutes to your errand.  You might need to take a minute to get a parking space because they are so busy.  And you might need to stand about in line waiting to pick up your clothes.  Precisely!  So is everyone else!  Just chat.  Find something to say, something to engage others in brief, friendly conversation.  “How about those Bruins!  They really are playing well in the Stanley cup Eastern division semi-finals!”  Or if you are in the Los Angeles area, you can just about always safely utter, “How about those Lakers!”  Just utter a sentence or two offering the other person something kind and gracious to respond to you.  Now just for some variety, every once in a while do stop by at an odd hour during the day or on the weekend just so you have the opportunity to meet others who keep entirely different hours than you do.  By doing so, you maximize your opportunities for finding and attracting love.  Often it is someone whose life and schedule complements ours by being a bit different than we are who meshes us best for lasting love.  Happily married couples often just giggle and laugh knowingly about how apt that is for describing their relationship.  In a relationship, we all need to adapt a little.

Dating Tip – Doing Your Laundry

You might have a washer dryer in your house or in your apartment unit.  That’s great.  This tip is for the singles who need to use the machines either in their apartment complex or who don’t have any in their apartment area.  Even if you do have a washer dryer in your apartment complex, sometimes there is only 1 set of machines and you are always waiting to use it.  Go to a laundromat.  Be on the look out for those fun laundromats which have a coffee bar attached to them along with a television set.  Those laundromats attract singles who want to connect with and meet other people.  That is precisely what they are designed to do.  You might spend more time at this laundromat getting your laundry done, so I am not suggesting you do your laundry there every week.  However, aim to enjoy their facility about once per month.  You will certainly meet others.  You can always ask the cute girl what kind of laundry soap she prefers or for advise about folding your t-shirts.  “Does it really matter if I tri-fold them?  Can’t I just fold it down the middle?”

As you practice shifting your mind set to maximizing meeting new people, you will both go more dates and have more fun, you will also be establishing a fun habit that will serve you to bring elements of “newness” into you life for years to come.  And that is an attribute of long term relationship success and happiness!

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell
Marriage Minded Dating and Relationship Expert