This week between the Winter Solstice and Epiphany with Christmas in the midst, well, frankly, it’s like a dead zone for singles wishing to date and create a lasting love relationship.
It’s quiet.
NOT a LOT of movement.
Not a lot of energy.
Although….well, for those of you single men and single women who have been faithfully reading my Easy Dating Tips and Advice blog for these oh-so-many months. YOU have been sowing seed. You have been tilling the soil and sowing seed. So YOU have some choices and options, like a Singles Event to go attend on New Years Eve even when it is, yes, out of town.
Because I’ve been recommending for months for folks in a small town to STRETCH themselves (where’s my good buddy, fitness expert for business travels, to help us out here with a stretch demo?) and indeed to drive a few towns OVER or to the nearest metro area or even the NEXT OVER metro area. I recommend this especially for the Dating After 40 singles to avoid being in a singles rut and to actively meet new people.
For example if you live in San Francisco to bop down to San Jose or up and over to Sacramento. That’s a great example of STRETCHING your Dating Market reach.
Now if you haven’t been doing ANYTHING for awhile, it’s best that you accept some reality and know it could a few weeks to build up some Dating Momentum. Certainly, one of the activities I would recommend to START is to dust things off and go post an Online Dating Profile at the Internet Personals sites. Here’s my guide to a number of the best and most DIVERSE ones out there. (I am ALL about dating with diversity, otherwise marriage could become, ah, BORING. And who wants that? None of us.) Internet Dating Sites Guide, Online Personals Sites Review
What you can do in person is this is actually an intriguing 10 days as well. Many people are TRAVELING AWAY for part of this holiday week. Are you? If you are, I’ll provide some OUT OF TOWN dating tips in the next few day, so check back for those.
If you are a single guy or single gal who is stayin’ local, well, DO go to the coffee houses. Do visit a number of the local businesses which are all being NEGLECTED. Just stop in. Say hi. Buy a coffee or tea. Because it is a little quieter and more empty, you STAND OUT as a local. Chat people up. “Oh, hey, staying in town for the holidays? Me too. Sure is quiet isn’t it? Really nice that way, isn’t it?”
OK, those were FOUR sentences you can utter to ANY stranger out there. Perfectly innocuous. And also has QUESTION MARKS in THREE of them, opening it up so you MIGHT get… a RESPONSE.
Just gently lob the convo back and forth.
If they are a married person, that is perfectly fine. This is just gracious conversation and light flirtation that just tells them, “YOU are an ATTRACTIVE person.” And WHO doesn’t like to hear that in a message every day.
OK. GO.
1. Stretch Activity Out of City/Town
2. Post Online Dating Profile at ANOTHER website to expand your reach
3. Hang at QUIET local places
That’s THREE. I was in a generous mood. It’s the Christmas Season!
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
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