When you’re seeking a life long love relationship online, your dating profile akin to your resume on the net. If you’re looking for the one for you online, your profile is your first solid action step towards doing that.
1. First Attribute of a Great Online Dating Profile: You
One of the attributes of a well-written online dating profile is of course that it reflects YOU!
Yes, we would all LOVE to flatter ourselves that literally HUNDREDS of the millions of singles who have registered at the internet matchmaking sites will see our profile and respond with MASSIVE numbers of emails soliciting your attentions and desirous of meeting and dating you. Of course, you simply won’t have the time to devote to all the hundreds of responses your profile gets to actually meet them all…..
OK, so that is the flattering fantasy.
And then there are the realities of the online dating sites.
2. What’s Really Out There in Dating Profiles Online: Bad Photos
Hundreds of profiles with dreadful photographs, oh so many of them taken in their bathroom mirror with their smart phone. Often more than 1 of those. Additionally, well, really, all of their photos are just mediocre and below average. Nothing becoming to any of them, and none which flatter the singles in anyway putting them into a positive light.
3. What’s Really Out There in Dating Profiles Online: Vague or Generic Sea of Sameness
And then text in the profile, well, either it is just incredibly clear that they are not seriously desirous of either a real relationship or that they are not actually looking for a long-term relationship. What they have written is quite unspecific, generic, really, exemplifying a sea of sameness.
4. What’s the Problem with a Trite or Generic Profile?
The problem with being just like everyone else is that there is nothing to respond to.
The final book of The Bible, actually, best expresses this problem, “Because you are lukewarm, neither hot or cold…” (Rev 3:16) Well, because you did not express anything of yourself which would actually foster and create attraction, you’re hobbling them. They have no way to respond either to your profile in starting a feeling of attraction. They then have no need to email you and nothing to respond to in your profile to help them to email you.
Now, of course, if you truly are VGL very good looking as they say in Internet Personals speak parlance and just drop-dead gorgeous and your photos reflect that, well sure, you’ll get other singles messaging you. But then you’ll be suffering the same problem beautiful woman have for more than a century. You’ll be in the quandary over when he loves you for yourself or just your looks. You especially want to date multiple suitors for your heart before accepting applications for exclusivity with you so you can vet your pursuers to see demonstrated over a period of time if it’s you or your great looks he’s smitten with. Women want to be loved at their core for themselves. So do men, btw, ladies. Under 40, he’s happy just to be a stud. By the time he’s in his 40s, the masculine man doesn’t want to be a boy toy. His soul yearns to be special to you.
Now, mind you, I am recommending that you be utterly bizarre in your online dating profile.
Just do express some of what is uniquely you. A little of it. We don’t all need to do our stand up comedy routine. But expressing a small (very small) amount of your sense of humor is a good thing. That creates good feelings in the other person now associated with you. They will often feel like, “I just gotta meet this person!” and aim to meet you for a first date.
And remember THAT is the actual GOAL of internet dating: to meet more people and go on more great first dates.
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
Dating and Relationship Expert
As seen in Dating for Dummies, 3rd Edition
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How to sell more – get the budget says
July 10, 2011 at 9:49 PMApril, there is not may things worse than a bad photo except a great photo with no information at all or not very much to go off of.
Scott Sylvan Bell
How to sell more – get the budget
Now go implement!
John Moulder says
July 11, 2011 at 4:36 AMI used to hate having my photo taken . Now days I don’t mind at all .
Sonya Lenzo says
July 11, 2011 at 10:28 AMA good photo and a charming tidbit…oh! That’s how I met my current friend!
Sonya Lenzo
Kevin Bettencourt says
July 11, 2011 at 4:05 PMDating profile advice could be the best expert dating advice there is. Your internet dating profile is a new level in minimizing the wrong suitors.
Las Vegas Plumbing says
July 11, 2011 at 9:17 PMIts too funny reading through some of the internet dating profiles single people put online. Your advice to keep it real and make it unique are invaluable for online dating success!
Thanks!
Jeff Lewis
AllAces Plumbing Las Vegas and Pahrump
Clare Delaney says
July 12, 2011 at 5:53 AMMy mind is working overtime on profiles – there are obviously a lot of awful ones! But with your advice, singles will be able to stand out from the crowd.
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Dewayne Chriswell says
July 19, 2011 at 4:43 PMApriil, do you think it would be good to run it through a couple of close friends for some subtle and helpful editing tips?
Dewayne’s Digital Photography Corner
Eva Palmer says
September 28, 2011 at 1:43 PMApril,
What do you think are the most important things you should write about yourself in your profile?
Singel guy says
August 4, 2012 at 4:13 PMI have to disagree, April. a good photo is the worst thing a man could put on a dating profile. I am a professional Photographer, so I know well how to take a photo. So a couple of years back I made the mistake. I want to sell me, right? So I pull my hair back in a pony tail, put on my three piece suit, walk into my studio with my gear already set up, take a seat on my Lamborghini, and choose the best resulting photo.
I was totally unprepared for the results. By the next morning my inbox was flooded. Being a gentleman, I answered everyone, took the time to read everyone’s profile, making sure I commented on her profile and her email. Day two was worse. Swamped again, of course the replies, more new then there was the day before, and even several whom I had already politely told that I didn’t think we would work. Day three, I was receiving many of the second correspondences from day one. I could group them all into two basic categories, the ones that were already telling me about their dream home, and the ones that were always looking for prince charming to shower her with gifts. And the more I looked, the uglier it got. I deleted the account.