Be Efficient: Try Speed Dating

By April Braswell

Online Personals Expert, Online Dating Coach, Midlife Relationship Coach, April Braswell, recommends Speed Dating to her busy professionals clients.

Didn’t they do Speed Dating on Sex in the City? Yes, indeed, Cynthia Nixon’s character, Miranda, on Sex in the City, gave Speed Dating a whirl and attended a Speed Dating event. It was fun to watch and see how people assumed certain personas because they felt their actual job wouldn’t be a sufficient turn on or that their professions (an attorney) could repel singles.

Is that what speed dating is like, people ask me?

Speed Dating offers you a chance to meet about 40 people in one evening.  There is no pressure.  You have about 6 minutes with each person.  Afterwards, you submit your answers for who you would like to meet again, and only where it was a mutual match does anything go forward. The idea behind it was that since people make a split second decision about being attracted to someone, or not, in less than 8 seconds, by simply meeting for a few minutes empowered busy single professionals to meet many fellow singles all in one night and not waste their time going on longer dates with someone where there was no chemistry after just a few moments.

Speed Dating now features all different niches from Vegetarian Dating to Age Range Specific. If you’re a single who’s looking and you fit into the age ranges served, it’s a great option.

However, if you’re an older single, typically over about 45 or 50 years old, then the Speed Dating industry generally doesn’t meet your needs and isn’t providing events which include you. If that’s you, just use another fun tactic in the Dater’s Toolkit to help you find love!

What about you?

Have you tried Speed Dating at all?

“April, I’ve heard of it.  Would you please tell me what speed dating is really like?” people ask me when they are getting ready to increase their number of dates or get back into the dating game world of Online Dating Sites.  They are curious to try new things.  However, they want to know what they are getting themselves into so they avoid being blindsided and embarrassed in front of a room filled with strangers.  Can you relate?

WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT FROM A SPEED DATING EVENT

Speed Dating offers you a chance to meet about 40 people in one evening.  There is no pressure like you might have with your first Saturday night date.  You have about 6 minutes with each person.  Afterwards, you submit your answers for who you would like to meet again, and only where it was a mutual match does anything go forward.

This can be a really GREAT way to meet a LOT of new people in one evening.  Talk about “Be Efficient!”  Male clients complain to me of how they feel like they are being treated like a meal ticket with some women whom once they have the date, they never want to see them again.  And women clients complain of all the time and expense they go to look really great and the guy only wants to spring for 15 minutes and a cup of coffee.

Well, Speed Dating can be a great answer to both those problems.  With Speed Dating, the man is not STUCK with just one women and an expensive meal tab at the end of the evening.  And for ladies, when you attend a Speed Dating event, do indeed continue to make an effort to look your classy sexy best and you will be meeting about 40 men in one evening.  So no need to worry that you have wasted your precious time with 1 man whom you never want to see again after finally actually meeting him.  For both men and women, attending a Speed Dating event is really worth the investment of your time.

Speed Dating events can offer a perfect antedote to some of the pitfalls of traditional Internet Dating.  You avoid emailing a stranger online for weeks on end only to finally meet and have no chemistry.  When that happens, you just feel like it was a huge waste of your precious time.  With Speed Dating, you are meeting lots singles in your age category, and you know they are also looking.  They actually gone to the time and expense of purchasing the entry ticket to the Speed Dating event, and they have made an effort to look good.

A ROOMFUL OF SINGLES – Just like YOU!

This is another advantage to Speed Dating in contrast to just going to Bars.  When you attend a Speed Dating event, you are meeting a roomful of other singles.  These are other singles who are looking, just like you are.  This is a very targeted niche market for you for meeting a lot of potentially interesting people, practicing your flirting and conversation skills.  Go for it!  What have you got to lose?

When you only go to bars for trying to meet other singles, you may find that 87% of the people at the bars at the classy restaurants like The Four Seasons and The Hilton are married business travelers.

Indeed, Speed Dating offers you an excellent way to Meet More People and Get More Dates.  And when you are doing that, you are well on your way towards creating the satisfying Long Term Relationship you desire. So as a Romance and Online Dating Coach, I do highly recommend my clients try Speed Dating as one of the ways they leverage to meet more singles for dates!