Once we have some dating momentum established, it is essential to choose with discernment.
Now, I know some who are incredibly high maintenance and won’t go out with anyone who is not in a certain education or income bracket. Or who is divorced. But I feel these people don’t know what it entails to actually be in a relationship with a real PERSON. So they will often use this ideal criteria to dismiss meeting REAL PEOPLE.
Networking events and singles events.
Once you are in dating mode, the thing is you CAN build a cacophony of activity just for activities sake.
But the idea is to become strategic.
Start to build up LISTS of multiple things you could go do at anytime to meet more people.
Networking events you could be sowing yourself into to meet and network with more prospective clients.
You DO need to sow seed, but not like you do in you fallow time.
It isn’t just about who curls my toes.
Part of the work I do with my Romance Coaching clients is to do a lot of defining of what it is that we want in a relationship, to feel and to experience. Now, we’re not exactly going to think do and feel all of that or even right away with someone. But it is like the plum line against we hold our relationships.
Which ones are close.
Keep those.
Develop them and pursue those to the next stage or so while we are further discerning.
And we must let the others GO.
I’ve been a member of Junior League here in Silicon Valley since I moved to the San Francisco Peninsula in 2006. I love it, respect it and have a number of close friends from it.
And I think it is not at all a Match on any of my lists.
To move forward, we must let go of where we are now.
That may be one of mine.
And I haven’t been involved long enough to be a sustainer.
What about you?
To move forward, what do you need to let of? or whom?
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
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