For single Boomers and other singles over 45 and 50, I hear from both men and women about being overlooked at cocktail parties and in public.
One of the things I have learned from Reading Body Language and Persuasion Expert, Kevin Hogan, is to display physical congruency to be our most attractive. There are a number of evolutionary reasons for why both men and women find youthfulness attractive for physical chemistry. To build on my lessons about Relationship Success from last week, that is just the Attraction Phase, where we are talking about chemistry. For full relationships to develop, we will need something more. However, we do want to look our best to foster chemistry. Including looking youthful, not young per se. Youthful.
Yes, let me trot out my top Numero Uno care: Serious Sunscreen. I have Irish heritage. I was always sunburning even with sunscreen as a child. The best way to avoid wrinkles and raisin dry skin is to apply SPF 35, 40 or 50 sunscreen daily. Just apply it to your face after you moisturize your skin after you wash it each day. It’s just like layer two your moisturizer. It is ESSENTIAL. Smile and laugh lines will always look beautiful and handsome. Skin care won’t.
The other thing about aging is a hairy topic and it’s probably not the hair you are thinking of…..
Your face and ears.
I first heard it from Comedian Jeff Foxworthy of the “You Might Be a Red Neck If….” fame. Hysterically funny man. One of his recordings, he started to tweak on men that the hair is no longer growing out of their skulls, but it is still growing. Just out of your nose and ears. Ha. Ha. Well, it’s true. That and eyebrows which start to resemble the horned owl.
Nose Hair trimmers
Ear Hair trimmers
Have your barber trim your eyebrows, too.
Now, gentlemen, least you feel pained or insulted that I singled you out, sigh. Not the case. Just, I’m working up to it.
Ladies, we will need to do this, too.
If you have one of those fabulous magnifying mirrors, you may be startled and stunned to a rude awakening that after all these years of not having to bleach or wax your upper lip that now after 40 to see … you have a few dark hairs there. It is SO RUDE! How can this be! Sigh. It just is. Waxing is the best. And while we are at it with the waxing….
Have your facialist wax the first 1/4 inch inner part of your nose. Your hair there is often darker now and sort of has cow licks. The hairs there are sticking out a little. That is what I mean about CONGRUENCY. Young people don’t have the cow licks. Over 40. Do. Even when you are doing a number other things to create your best you look, the nose hair things create an incongruency in your look. It is infinitesimal. Do this every 2-4 weeks. And ladies eyebrows aren’t becoming horned owls, however, cow licks are there. Use your cuticle scissors to keep them groomed. Also a light eyebrow wax (Chanel’s eyebrow palette comes with it.) keeps the hair in place. Just neatly groomed, soft. Not harsh and overly perfect looking.
I know. It’s a hairy topic. But I had to tell you. I just didn’t want to start the week on it.
When you do these things, indeed, you LOOK your best, and when you look your best, you FEEL great, don’t you? And THAT is always attractive.
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
JJ Jalopy says
April 22, 2009 at 12:24 PMCool! I never realized all the places I might have hair!
I learn so much stuff from this awesome blog! 🙂
JJ Jalopy.
Bob Kaufer says
April 22, 2009 at 12:48 PMI don’t really know what to say, hah a lawyer that is speechless.
Bob Kaufer
Yann Vernier says
April 22, 2009 at 12:55 PMWow, what an unglamourous topic for an awesome dating expert like you. I suppose it needs to be explained to some people who don’t realize self-care is not just for themselves – but also to make the best possible impression on anyone they meet.
Yann
Anthony Lemme says
April 22, 2009 at 2:15 PMWell, you had to go there sometime…I’d rather hear from you ahead of time than a date. It is so true. I’ve had to tell more than a few guy friends to trim their eyebrows so as not to scare off the ladies.
Anthony
Christian Haller says
April 22, 2009 at 2:23 PMNot my favorite topic but necessary none the less I suppose.
Christian Haller
Lynn Lane says
April 22, 2009 at 2:59 PMThanks, I trim weekly.
Lynn Lane
Pam Schulz says
April 22, 2009 at 3:35 PMYou know you’ve reached middle age when… Good list of reminders.
Pam
Don Shepherd says
April 22, 2009 at 4:47 PMHair is such a touchy subject. no matter how bad that nose hair on your date is bothering you… don’t pull it out!
Don Shepherd
mark mallen says
April 22, 2009 at 6:09 PMApril, I once saw a guy with so much nose hair that it protruded about a half inch from each nose. Shortly after, I purchased my first nose hair trimmer. thanks for the re-reminder. where did I put those tweezers? Mark
jc mackenzie says
April 22, 2009 at 7:01 PMIn a way, I’m lucky-no one has seen my ears since 1969!
Great post, filing all this useful information.
Thanks
JC
Duane Cunningham says
April 22, 2009 at 9:04 PMHi April,
Now that was down right practical advice for us guys and the gals!
Thanks for the tips!
Duane
Darryl Pace says
April 22, 2009 at 11:46 PMAh, April! What a great post on nose hair, horned owl eye brows, and female upper lip hair! It is a needed reminder as we grow older.
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Lisa McLellan says
April 23, 2009 at 8:58 AMOMG, you are hysterical. Though I know you were being realistic, it is still so funny. I do love hairy men, but the hair definitely can’t be coming out of the nose or ears and the eyebrows need to be under control too! hahhaha Great tips here for both men and women. You are truly a leader in your field!
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John Ho says
April 23, 2009 at 8:26 AMI once read that applying apple cider vinegar can remove crows’ lines & wrinkles!
Make sure your sunscreen does not have harmful chemicals in it! To have enough sun light directly on or skins is crucial to generate enough vitamin D.
John Ho
Sonya Lenzo says
April 23, 2009 at 9:20 AMMaybe as I grow older I will just stay home and pull the covers over my head. too many parts that need to be covered up, groomed, improved….where is the swimsuit section with long sleeves anyway?????
SunnyMarie
Mitchell Rehaume says
April 23, 2009 at 11:32 AMHi April,
Interesting post. It didn’t realize you could do certain things to look younger. I’ll make sure I double up on my sun screen and clip my ear hair 🙂
Mitch
Pat Becker says
April 23, 2009 at 12:06 PMSo much maintenance, it never ends. Great hairy advice beyond the usual dying and cutting.
Pat
jc mackenzie says
April 23, 2009 at 5:19 PMStopped in to say hi
HI!!
JC
Steve Chambers says
April 24, 2009 at 6:56 AMManscaping is an important grooming habit. It is the trend to try to appear younger.
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David Power says
April 24, 2009 at 6:10 PMApril you are an encyclopedia on romance love and dating…thank you!!!
David Power