When you are a single Christian / Catholic man or woman looking for your Christian Soul Mate, often you’ll be looking for that love at church. Now, if you’re making efforts to visit other area churches of your same or aligned faith, do keep this in mind when scheduling your calendar. Not every Christian church actually has a Christian Singles Ministry. Additionally, not every Christian / Catholic single finds their Christian / Catholic Soul Mate at church in only the ministries that you would immediately think would attract and draw the singles.
Sometimes the very place you’ll meet your Christian / Catholic Soul Mate or meet your Soul Mate through is a ministry unrelated to singles. Keep in mind, many singles meet their mate through acquaintances or friends. The majority of singles meet their mate through shared experiences and friends. So, aim to expand your social circle a bit. Look to host potluck dinners or luncheons at your place. And ask to be included at your new friends such events. Often it is in the second degree of influence out from your initial contact where you’ll meet, connect with and bond with your Christian / Catholic Soul Mate.
What might that mean for you?
That you attend the Ladies Ministry Group. The Men’s Minstry Group. Men’s Prayer Group, Active Prayer Ministry. Some ministries are more contemplative than others. Try one of each. If you are more of an active type A DOER. Then often the person who will complement your temperament will have a slightly more introspective tendancy than you do. So go look for the prayer groups. Attend the Days of Prayer which churches will often host in early May as well as on major national holiday Mondays when most people are off of work. If you are the spiritual introverted sort who want to pray for something to happen and leave the rest “to the Lord” than perhaps assist with a more action oriented ministry. An outreach to the elderly. To a nursing home. To the homeless. An inner city urban Gospel ministry serving food directly to the homeless.
You don’t have to do these things all the time. However, by stretching yourself just a little you may find yourself having reached your very Soul Mate and looking into their eyes beside you in prayer and service. And by DOING something you two get to pre-taste what a shared life would be like together. And that is what marriage is actually all about.
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
Michael D Walker says
April 19, 2011 at 11:08 PMI really like the phrase you used; “aim to expand your social circle a bit.”
More super advice that anyone can implement, whether they’re Christian singles or not.
Michael
Kevin Hogan says
April 19, 2011 at 11:24 PMProbably the best way to see new people is to see new places. Excellent advice.
Clare Delaney-Young says
April 20, 2011 at 12:58 AMI like that you stress ‘taking action’ instead of waiting for things to happen to us, it’s so important!
Clare
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John Moulder says
April 20, 2011 at 4:17 AMGood advice . If you do some charity work with the thought of not meeting someone ,but purely the act of helping a fellow human being , you just never know who you may meet .
Sonya Lenzo says
April 20, 2011 at 4:20 AMApril,
This is not just good advice, it is statistically based. The woman who wrote the book on later daters says that the number one place that couples meet is at” mutually liked events” which is exactly what you have described.Not bar scenes, but at volunteer opportunities that are truly dear to their hearts. Well, it makes sense doesn’t it? We are most attractive when we are being most authentic.
Sonya Lenzo
Trisha Chambers says
April 20, 2011 at 5:03 AMGreat post! I have a quick question; Are there more single people going to church now-a-days? Are the numbers uP? Great post by the way!
Reading Body Language says
April 20, 2011 at 6:23 AMApril that’s an excellent way for like minded people to meet.
Rachel Robinson says
April 20, 2011 at 10:56 AMI know at my home church the “singles” ministry was relatively new and those who attended were definitely older singles. So for someone younger that was definitely not going to work. But the prayer ministry and bus outreach ministry was definitely a place to meet younger people. Do you ever find a “stigma” associated in churches with a “singles” ministry? Would you say for younger people a “young adult” ministry might be a more productive place to meet people than a “singles” outing?
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Eva Palmer Hipnosis y PNL Barcelona Savilla says
April 20, 2011 at 11:16 AMIt’s a great reminding for the chrisitans and catholics that are looking for a Soul Mate that sometimes you can meet Him or Her through a ministry unrelated to singles and also that many singles meet their mate through acquaintances or friends ( and this can happen easily if you participate in the different ministry groups and acts that your church or neighbourg churches organize)
http://evapalmer.es/consejos-para-dejar-de-fumar-sin-engordar/
Jessica Simons says
April 20, 2011 at 1:56 PMHi April, my church is small too. Not many single brothers around here if you know what I mean. I’m having a hard time meeting Christian guys. What do you think of evangelical dating?
Peggy Larson says
April 20, 2011 at 5:46 PMExcellent advice to keep an open mind and open heart and try new actvities.
Peggy
Neil Dhawan says
April 20, 2011 at 7:20 PMLots of great tips and advice. It seems, after reading your blog for some time now, that if someone says that “there’s no one out there” it may just be that we’re not doing our part to find them.
Thanks,
Neil
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Dewayne Chriswell says
April 20, 2011 at 9:30 PMApril, caught a blurb on the Family Guy recently on upcoming nuptials. The groom-to-be used the line, “Wait ’til I tell the ladies in my Singles’ Group at church about this.” He drops the big news, met with much less than anticipated fanfare, and then came the line, “What, isn’t this the ultimate goal?” Typical clueless guy, but a classic line. Immediately thought of your blog.
Dewayne Chriswell
http://dewaynechriswell.com
Jennifer Battaglino says
April 22, 2011 at 9:32 AMThis is just another way to branch out. If you get involved with The Ladies’ Ministry it not only opens up more opportunies to socialize and meet but you also could create friendships that lead to opportunitues outside of the the group’s activities.
Jen Battaglino
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