OK, yeah, I’m a hockey fan. I might have lived out in the West for like 20 year now. But scratch the surface, wait until the Stanley Cup playoffs, and trigger the frothing over the mouth enthusiasm of a Northeastern raised girl. We are born and bread hockey fans. I can even actually explain the penalty of “Icing.” So, I’m using the Stanley Cup playoffs to illustrate and provide some examples for singles, especially single women, for how to organize your time of what you are already doing and enjoying to give yourself an edge to meet more people. Hockey is merely the illustrative example. You might be more genuinely a fan of another sport. That is totally cool. Take these dating success principles and apply them to your sport and your location.
So, we are now in the division finals of Stanley Cup Hockey. What that means is that we are literally enjoying a glut of games. Typically that means 3-4 games to watch each weekend for at least 2 weekends. Not to mention the 2 games on certain weekdays. And of course, because we are fundamentally hockey fans as well as fans of our local hockey team, we are often watching the games from the series not just the one OUR team is in. Part of the hockey fan rationale (looking into the mind of a hockey fan) is we want to get an idea of the other teams, the players, and how they play so that when we get to the semi-finals and finals we already have an idea and opinion of how they will play. So even though, having lived in San Francisco for years, I am ergo a good loyal local fan of the San Jose Sharks, I am watching the Boston Bruins vs. Philadelphia Flyers game today. There will also be another game tonight.
The multiple games offers you multiple opportunities to get out and meet other people. So the Bruins v Flyers game. Here in the Pacific Time zone it started in the morning. That would mean, go to a weekend brunch venue where there is a Television set. A number of the very nice hotel chains often have a fabulous weekend brunch with a classy think 1940s-esque bar area with a – praise God – large screen tv. So you can nibble on your omelet and cheer on the game and your team of choice. Oh, yeah, being from New Jersey originally, I cheer on any team who is beating the Flyers. We may respect individual players on the team. However, I am who I am and remain true to my roots. Talk about conditioning and mental frame. Yup. I’m biased.
Dating Tip Brunch Strategy – Chat at the Food Stations
While you are at each of the food stations at your brunch location do chat up others who are there. Going to and from the line of food at a brunch buffet gives you short little opportunities to chat and utter 2 – 4 sentences with strangers and lightly flirt.
Dating Brunch Strategy – Make Frequent Trips to the Food Stations
Put small amount of food on your plate. Not only do we all always invariably put too much food on our plates at buffets, by putting small amount of food on your plate that means you will make more trips and frequent trips up to the Food Stations.
Dating Brunch Strategy – Do Flirt at the Food Stations
If you are carrying on a light flirtation with someone, by making frequent trips to the food stations you provide them with cute, funny, and engaging opportunities for the others to come flirt with you. Even uttering the completely funny and goofy one liners of, “We’ve got to stop meeting like this,” or “You come here often,” when spoken with a sense of humor will break the ice and typically make the other person giggle. Once giggling, you two have more opportunities then to converse.
Now what happens if today is just not the day for there being other singles in your T.I.P. demographic? Are you “wasting” your time? Nope. Instead, follow the advice of Stephen Sills, “Love the One You’re With.” Flirt engagingly with the people who are there. This might mean that you banter charmingly with an older lady old enough to be your Great Aunt Agatha or an elderly gentleman who could have been your grandfather. Go ahead. Sow the seed of good karma. You’ll make their day when you hold a door for her or flirt with him reminding him he is still a man. The more you make being gracious and charming your habitual behavior, the easier it will be to be like that when you are with a T.I.P. for you.
As you practice your charming behavior and character of kindness, fun, and warmth, those attributes make you an increasingly attractive life partner prospect for another. People who want a relationship are looking for that in a potential life partner. They know that character matters for the relationship success long haul.
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
Dating and Relationship Expert
Trisha Chambers says
May 1, 2010 at 12:39 PMAnd those Hockey Player’s aren’t so bad to flirt with as well! If you can get their attention…..
Lisa McLellan says
May 1, 2010 at 2:01 PMI liked your suggestion of putting small portions of food on our plates at the buffet table so that we have to return often, but wouldn’t that make us look like pigs? hahahha
I’m always afraid that I will drop the plate of food and make a fool of myself, but if I only take a tiny bit at a time, there won’t be much to drop.
Lisa McLellan
Babysitting Services, Nanny Services, and Nanny agencies
Michelle Mason says
May 1, 2010 at 2:03 PMI liked that you said to flirt with the older people, too. I tend to flirt with older gentleman much more often than anyone remotely close to my own age, probably because I know it is harmless. And it is great to see the older guy light up! We all love to engage the opposite sex, even if we are 100!
Michelle
Michel D Walker says
May 1, 2010 at 2:28 PMGreat way to blend dating tips and advice into the Stanley Cup action happening right now.
One thing you said that really stood out for me is to not be shy about mingling with & chatting up older people than yourself. Not only can you enjoy their company & maybe make a new friend, but as has happened to me before—sometimes they wind up liking you & set you up with their drop dead gorgeous daughter or niece.
And getting a recommendation from a family member like that goes a long way toward making that first date a lot less intimidating.
Great advice as always April!
Michael
The Success Secrets
Scott Sylvan Bell says
May 1, 2010 at 5:03 PMApril you always have some great advice when it comes to meeting people in some not so normal places, great job once again.
Scott Sylvan Bell
Now go implement!
Sonya Lenzo says
May 1, 2010 at 6:23 PMWow, April, I can reallly get behind a dating tip that suggests frequent trips to the food table!!! Makes me hungry just thinking about it.
Sonya Lenzo
Tim Van Milligan says
May 1, 2010 at 6:41 PMI like the tip of putting a small amount of food on your plate. That is a great way to get up and get some exercise too.
Tim Van Milligan, helping you Make Money Online, God’s Way!
Mark says
May 1, 2010 at 9:01 PMIt is said that the way to a man’s heart is food… there seems to be something almost subliminal about your post… for some strange reason I am hungry 😉
April I enjoy how you transform the ordinary tasks of a day to and extraordinary opportunity to meet people!
Mark
Direct Selling Advice, Leveraging Relationships for Long-term Profit
Sabrina Peterson says
May 1, 2010 at 9:52 PMI’m laughing at the light flirtation at the food table. You could also say something like, “I’m really not following you but I can start if you want me to”.
I didn’t say it was good, but I am good at playful…
Sabrina Peterson, NASM CPT,CES
Corrective Exercise for Every Body
Eileen O'Neill says
May 2, 2010 at 12:05 AMApril, great tips here on enjoying sports, good company, food, and a little flirting…!
Eileen
Rob Northrup says
May 2, 2010 at 6:34 AMWe all know that the reason people watch hockey is the same reason they watch Nascar.
For the fights (crashes).
Seize the Day,
Rob
Dale Bell says
May 2, 2010 at 7:21 AMWhy not lots of food and stil keep going back? just kidding. I like the idea of talking to everyone sometimes we do not know how we may have made someone elses day. I think todays post was good sound advice for singles and married.
Steve Chambers says
May 2, 2010 at 9:03 AMYou are definitely a Stanley cup (read hockey) fan and I’m glad you found a way to integrate your love of the sport into your dating life and the dating life of others.
Steve Chambers
Body Language Expert
Peggy Larson says
May 2, 2010 at 11:14 AMI like to be pleasant at the buffet with whoever is there with me. It’s just nice to be nice. I usually ask which foods are the good ones, then I know which to avoid. Or if it’s something I’ve never heard of and their advice is it’s good I may venture and give it a try. It wasn’t at a buffet but this is how I ended up liking sushi!
Peggy Larson
Fred Glick says
May 2, 2010 at 12:54 PMHi April,
Besides, GO FLYERS….icing is not a penalty but an infraction.
Hockey is a great game and actually an easy one to learn and follow.
The basic is put more pucks in the other net than the other guys and for a bonus, win a few fights.
bryan says
May 2, 2010 at 7:35 PMApril…you always have great advice for singles…The use of hockey (sports in general) really helps add to finding someone. Even if you dislike sports , it’s cool if you just sit and watch to spend time with the person who loves them.
Matty says
May 2, 2010 at 9:05 PMI’ve recently started using your dating tips, April. All the dating information you provide on this site has helped me tremendously. Thank you for all of your time work you put into helping single guys and gals.
Shane says
May 3, 2010 at 1:35 AMWhen a girl smiles and strikes up conversation with me, that’s a very welcome sign to ask her out. So flirting at the buffet is a great idea.
Shane
Hezon says
May 3, 2010 at 7:51 AMIcing is NOT a penalty, April and I think the current NHL playoff round is called “conference semi-finals”