Many singles these days are super busy and their lives are quite full with their career, sometimes with studies as well, their friends, their interests, and their families. With the beginning of the New Year, certainly a number of singles have “I want a boyfriend,” “I want a girlfriend,” and even “I want to get married,” on their New Years Resolutions and Goals list. They hope to attract this kind of love and stuff it into an already burgeoning life filled with busyness. One of the first questions my coaching clients address when applying for coaching with me is to cite their motivation for finding their life partner, and also how much time they devote currently to finding love.
If your answer is 30-60 minutes a week, not only will that be a challenge for you to seek a mate, but it will also be a challenge for your potential love to fit into your life.
Where do you have room for her or him?
Making Room for Love – in Your Home
A great place to start to make room for love is to make room for another literally around your home. The physical act of making room for love puts you into action combined with an intent. This opens neuropathways in your brain which will help you to perceive potential mates better in your daily life.
Bathroom:
In your bathroom, make some room for your future mate to have a few toiletries there. You don’t have to move half of your stuff out. What you do want to aim for is to make a bit of space, about 15%-25% more space than what you have right now. Make room around the sink, and also in one of the bathroom drawers.
Bedroom:
In your bedroom, apply the same principle. You want to clear some space in your chest of drawers for another person to put a few things in. And you want to clear some closet space as well. This is a great time of year to weed through your wardrobe, cull anything you haven’t worn in over 2 years. Take a look also at the state of your wardrobe. Are there shirts which have become hopelessly stained after all the marvelous foods and parties you attended during the celebrations of the holidays? Be sure to cull those clothing items as well and get ride of them.
Anything which is nice, put them into bags and go donate them to a local charity shop like The Salvation Army Store or Goodwill Store. Release all of those items which you are just not currently wearing anymore and bless others with them. Whatever your faith practice, you can even say a short prayer or intention as you pack your items up for the donation, expressing the hope that your clothes with bless a new person.
On a metaphysical perspective, you have shifted your Feng Shui Chi energy around you and are inviting new energy and the possibility of a new person into your life. As you declutter and make room for love physically in your life, you have opened up you space literally and physically. Strive to leave that space open and resist filling it up with new stuff from an Ikea shopping spree. Leave it open and see who enters your life in the coming weeks ahead.
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
Lisa McLellan says
January 3, 2010 at 5:26 PMThis is very interesting advice! I have never heard or seen this angle before but I like it. Making room for a mate – Perfect! And yes of course, if you don’t have time to devote to looking for a mate, how will you have time to spend with him or her once you’ve found them! This is great. Gets people thinking!
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Hezron says
January 5, 2010 at 4:47 PMAs a busy single person, it’s hard for me to date since I don’t have the time to sift through dating ads that are 75% full of people that “just want to play the attention seeking game” I work part-time at a radio station and the callers main complaint about dating is the amount of game-playing (especially online) or play tag or spend time on dates with women who just want their meal paid….
I like the idea of getting rid of unused clothing to the Goodwill (I like to give to the Cdn. Diabetes Association). I do think the idea of making space similiar to what April describes, comes across as “desparate measure”. From my viewpoint if I meet a woman who has spaced already cleared out for the next man in her life, I would be a little hesitant.
Steve Chambers says
January 5, 2010 at 9:21 PMI have to admit it would be a little freaky if a woman I was interested in had everything set up in advance for me to move in. I’d label her a psycho and move on. As with everything moderation is the best solution.
Steve
Greg says
January 6, 2010 at 11:06 PMThe woman I love will do the Feng Shui cleaning work for ME!
April Braswell says
January 8, 2010 at 8:43 PMHi Greg,
thanks for stopping by and commenting at my blog. Happy New Year.
April
April Braswell says
January 8, 2010 at 8:44 PMHi Steve,
thanks for stopping by and commenting at my blog.
Happy Relationships,
April
Anthony Lemme says
January 11, 2010 at 9:00 AMThis is definitely a fresh approach April. I like the idea of creating new neural pathways. I think there is some symbolism in there as well. I wonder if many of the people who want a significant other have made the room in their hearts and lives for another?
Anthony
Martin says
January 12, 2010 at 5:21 AMMaking room for love by clearing out clutter – both from a junk point of view and a (wasted) time point of view – is excellent advice, common sense and probably good feng shui.
It only gets freaky if you’re lining up the toiletries, dusting off the His and Hers towels and cooking for two even though you’re on your own.
Happy New Year
Martin Wright
April Braswell says
January 15, 2010 at 4:10 PMHi Martin,
thank you for stopping by and commenting at my blog. lol, indeed, that would be drole funny. Yes, this is just about clearing, decluttering, and making space. No “Reserved for You” signs! lol
April
Philip Graves says
January 21, 2010 at 1:05 AMExcellent advice – especially as mentally preparing for this kind of change can help you get a taste of some of the more challenging aspects of having someone else in your space.
Great advice of something singles can be doing that is also demonstrating to themselves that they’re serious about finding someone else.
Philip
Consumer Behaviour Expert
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