Integrity in Dating: How to Handle Your Marital Status in Your Online Dating Profile Waiting Until Your Divorce Is Finalized

Computer Dating with Integrity, Waiting Until The Divorce Decree

Computer Dating Contemporary Singles Date Website Challenges

Now that singles doing computer dating on The Net has been around for well over 15 years, internet dating singles talk about the various challenges of online dating.  Since internet dating websites have moved into the mainstream of how modern single guys and gals meet, court, and marry, whole new challenges and problems have emerged that weren’t present in the early days of cyberdating on the Net.

Computer Dating Contemporary Singles Date Website Challenge of Lack of Integrity in Internet Dating

With so many more singles with computer dating profiles posted at the online dating website, one of the complaints among contemporary computer dating singles is the lack of Integrity in Dating Online.

There are many possible nuances to the problem of insufficient Integrity in Dating when it comes to internet dating mores.

Socializing While Divorcing: Wait to Date Til Divorce Decreed

One of the current challenges for contemporary computer dating singles is the managing of your social life while you are divorcing.  If you are in the process of becoming single again, then until your divorce is actually finalized and you have received your divorce decree from a court of law, then you are legally still married.

Waiting for Dating Until Divorce Is Finalized to Attend Singles Events

Some of the Christian denominations like the Latter Day Saints (LDS) Christians have a policy for all of their Single Adult Singles Events that you simply may not attend unless you are, in fact, by decree and legally single.  I think that makes for a very good and very clear policy. I admire it.

However, I do know that some singles will start to socialize and go on initial dip-the-toe-back-in-the-dating-pool test the waters and dust off their social skills non-date coffees.  They don’t call them dates, even when the two of  them are agreeing and arranging in advance to meet for the coffee and the gentleman buys the coffee for the lady.

The one thing that I cannot abide by, of course, is when someone is in the midst of their divorce, and they lie about it to others and tell them that they are actually single, when of course, they are not. They are still married.

Internet Dating with Integrity: Don’t Lie in Your Computer Dating Profile

Some women in particular immediately strike the man from their list and label them as “Cheaters.” So long as all behavior is chaste, there is no “Cheating.”  However, there can be Lying.  And that is the part that I cannot agree to, condone, nor abide.  There can never be a good solid marriage minded relationships foundation built upon 1 of the two of you overtly and knowingly lying to deceive the other.  What kind of marriage could that possibly lead to?

Modern singles might knowingly connect socially, share a glass of wine after work or a casual coffee on a Saturday afternoon.  There is quite a range of pre-dating socializing open to divorcing people.  It’s not that their social life must be bereft and barren.

However, waiting to fully and truly date and flirt until your divorce is fully finalized and you’ve received the legal divorce decree is an excellent singles dating best practices idea that will serve you well in establishing a marriage minded dating courtship.  When you wait to date until you are completely and legally divorced, you honor yourself and respect your date.  To do otherwise could lead to dating defrauding and bad feelings all around.  Better to wait to date until you are free to do so.

Happy Dating and Relationships!

April Braswell

As seen in “In Touch Weekly” and in Dating for Dummies, 3rd Edition

April Braswell is a Professional Speaker who speaks to singles in Singles Groups and Divorce Recovery Groups as well as at Singles Dating Workshops and Singles Conferences.  Hire April to speak at your Singles Event?