San Francisco Bay Area Single Women Take Note of Silicon Valley Indian Professionals Association Conference Need of Volunteers
When I lived both in Silicon Valley but especially San Francisco, I heard a lot about…. the problem. You know, how DIFFICULT it is for single women in the SF Bay Area to get a date.
Because it is SO HARD for single women in the San Francisco Bay Area to find single men.
Well, I have one word for you. A word of encouragement. A hypnotic and power and potent word.
Bull.
By the way, that mental frame and perspective that it is SO HARD and SO DIFFICULT to find eligible and single men in the San Francisco Bay Area is actually a myth which has even infiltrated the news and has filtered into other cities, so much so that friends of mine from prep school, even male friends, commented on it to me before I got married. Like it was a nationally known fact and a given. “Oh April. What a challenge…”
Part of me just laughs. Then again, that which each of us is uniquely really good at and gifted in, we think is just, *sound of finger snap* so easy – that almost think that’s “just nothing” when others are crawling on the ground striving to grasp morsels and crumbs from the table just to come close to doing just a little bit and are in awe of us.
Well, yeah, I’m good at this. Then again, I have strongly created and built a very strong “Daters Mindset” mental frame and perspective in my brain. So where others see a business conference, convention, seminar, or mixer, I see that plus a wonderful opportunity for social and potentially romantic interaction!
So when I heard that the SIPA Convention, Silicon Valley Indian Professionals Association, was putting out a call for volunteers with an open meeting this Thursday evening, September 22 from 6:00 pm – 8:00 pm, I thought to myself, what a great informal, comfortable, and casual venue for San Francisco and Silicon Valley area single women to easily, super easily meet a ton of professional business men without any social singles mixer meat market pressures on themselves!
The added advantage is that by attending the Volunteer event, you get a pre-conference sampler of what the crowd will be like. Of course not all the men who attend the SIPA Convention will be single. However, many of them will be. Attend the volunteer evening and treat it like an appetizer before the meal to see if the crowd strikes the right now with you. Even if the whole gaggle of people doesn’t seem like the absolutely perfect fit for you, it would be worth your attending the convention as a volunteer, because it doesn’t takes hundreds of single men to be right for you. It just takes one. One right one. And you just never know where you’ll meet him.
When you open yourself to love, love will find you.
SIPA SV Conference Volunteer Event
When: Thursday, Sept 22 6:00pm – 8:00pm
Where: sjc32-1-bagpipe CISCO BLDG 32
900 McCarthy Blvd, Milpitas
The convention will be in November on the theme of Entrepreneurship 2.0
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
Dating and Relationship Expert
As seen in Dating for Dummies, 3rd Edition
Neil Dhawan says
September 20, 2011 at 9:31 PMA Daters Mindset … I like that! Kind of a spin on Henry Ford – if you think it is easy to find singles or think it is difficult to find singles … you’re right!
Stay Extraordinary and Do Great Things, Neil
Rob Malone says
September 21, 2011 at 5:26 AMGee I spent most of my single life trying to find a place where women out numbered men 2 to 1 or better. However I never did find that statiscal utopia and I don’t think that mythical place exists.
Clare Delaney says
September 21, 2011 at 8:41 AM“Singles mixer meat market” – most evocative!
Great encouragment to get out there and meet people!
EcoExpert
Ecobrew Coffee – is it Green?
Eva Palmer says
September 21, 2011 at 8:48 AMApril!
We have the same myth here in Spain! No single men or women! Really??
I found so so funny the phrase: mixer meat market pressures …where did you get that from???
mixer meat market pressures
Andrew Miner says
September 21, 2011 at 9:41 AMHey April,
It’s amazing how the “it’s impossible to find a date” mindset can so easily be implanted by just a few viral news blurbs when we all know there are plenty of People in the Ocean. Thanks for making the effort to Right the Ship and help young Indian Singles in the Silicon Valley find eachother and the single women in San Francisco and Silicon Valley.
Andrew Miner
http://andrewminer.net
Kevin Bettencourt says
September 21, 2011 at 11:03 AMI think Silicon Valley Singles as well as other singles get the wrong Daters Mindset. The San Francisco Singles Scene and dating scene is full of potential but the defeatist in some rules out things like the Silicon Valley Indian Professionals Association as possibility.
Rachel Robinson says
September 21, 2011 at 12:59 PMThank you for pointing out that dating a lot of times is all about your mindset. If you tell yourself you won’t meet someone, then you probably won’t. But by being open and willing to step outside your box, you increase your chances.
Leadership Is A Choice
Annie Born says
September 21, 2011 at 3:13 PMIt does just take one to make you happy!
Love the concept of helping others – never know who you will meet!
Create a great day!
Cherie Miranda says
September 21, 2011 at 3:37 PMPerfect word, April: bull. I can confirm, having lived there myself. 🙂
Thanks for the great post and for the heads-up about the event. I agree that it would be a great place to meet potential romantic partners.
Cherie Miranda
Holistic Health Expert
The Knowledge Stylist says
September 21, 2011 at 3:49 PMIt always amazes me that people in big cities say they can’t find other singles, and people in small cities (like where I live) say the same thing as in there aren’t enough people around here!. Great advice, thanks April.
TKS
http://theknowledgestylist.com/drive-a-different-way/
Sonya Lenzo says
September 21, 2011 at 5:53 PMBefore I came to Costa Rica, I had heard that the great majority of expats were couples. So it has been somewhat surprising that the majority of people I have met are single! And as you say, you only have to meet one! The right one…I think the idea of volunteering is perhaps the very best way to meet someone as when you are doing something you are passionate about…becuase there is no makeup that makes someone as attractive as being on fire for a cause!
Sonya Lenzo
Dennis Perry says
September 21, 2011 at 6:28 PM“When you open yourself to love, love finds you.” Great thought and oh, so true!
Dennis
Michael Paulse says
September 21, 2011 at 6:30 PMA ton of professional business men… treat[ed] it like an appetizer before the meal. Oh my, April, you have managed to make me blush.
Michael D Walker says
September 21, 2011 at 6:41 PMExcellent post! I like your phrase “a Dater’s Mindset”. I think you should write an ebook called “The Dating Mindset”
Michael
The Masters of the Mind: Mindset Essentials #1 Success is a Choice (via Andy Jenkins)
Covert Hypnosis says
September 22, 2011 at 7:05 PMApril, Why do people think it is harder to find a date in SF in comparison to, say, Anchorage, Alaska?
Looking forward to more
Mark Hogan