Midlife Dating Advice: 3 Smooth, Suave, and Sophisticated Dating Tips for Younger Men Wanting to Date Older Cougar Women
Used to be 20 years ago that for a young man to be interested in an older woman, people thought he must be “hard up.” Nowadays, there is still some residual judgement and bias where people think and whisper to each other, “Well, you know, he must be after only one thing.”
But the truth is one of the hottest current trends in dating is Cougar Dating wherein younger men are pursuing older women.
If you’re a younger man and you are attracted to the confidence, maturity, and fun of an older woman, here are 3 smooth, suave, and sophisticated dating tips for you to attract, pursue, and date older women.
Cougar Dating Tip #1. Do Be Smooth: Go Where The Fish Are
Where do older women congregate? Are older women really at the same singles bars as the 20 something girls? In some cases, yes, they are. In Silicon Valley, Los Angeles, and Manhattan, you will find the sexy successful business executive women rubbing elbows while downing the Chardonnay, Mojitos, Cosmos, or Margaritas together with the 20 somethings just out of college. And while singles bars are fun, they really can be a mad house.
Where else could you try? When you want to stand out and not be one of many other single men in the crowd, go to the gym or YMCA classes that women love and attend en masse. There are always more women in the group classes at the gym because studies demonstrate that women are very tribal and socializers. Take a yoga class.
Cougar Dating Tip #2. Do Be Suave: Do Move In When You First Meet and Be Low Key
Now the thing is, while it is a hot new dating trend for younger men to date older women, frankly, not every 40+ year old is thinking that way. You might need to woo her a little bit about the idea. Be a man and do approach her. She will respect your masculinity for this. However, be a bit more covert. Be low key in your exchange, and her defenses will go down.
At the end of the class just warmly strike up conversations with the other women. Be smooth and suave here. Just strike up a conversation. Don’t immediately push to get her phone number. Just say at the end, “I’ve really enjoyed talking with you. I hope to see you next week. I’ll definitely be back again.”
Cougar Dating Tip #3. Do Be Sophisticated: Invite Her Out with You at Your Second Meeting
At your second conversation, she will be more comfortable with you. That’s when you could suggest, “Hey, I haven’t had my coffee yet, and gotta get some java. Would you like to join me for a cup of coffee around the corner before you head out?”
You show your confident sophistication knowing that she is busy. It’s also a compliment. “You’re beautiful. You’re successful. You must be busy.”
By doing that, subtly and smoothly you just let her know it would be brief. No pressure for too much of anything right away. You’re just looking to get to know her a bit better in a romantic way. She will feel more comfortable with you this way which increases your chances of romantic pursuit success your with dating older women.
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
Las Vegas Boomer Over 40 After 50 Dating Expert
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April Braswell says
September 22, 2009 at 3:01 PMHi Marty. Thank you so much for your consideration and thoughtfulness in the heads up. My spam filter already caught it and I deleted it. Thank you for stopping by! – April
Rob says
September 22, 2009 at 4:55 PMThis is not a trend I really understand unless the woman has a lot of money, but I hear about it in the media so I guess it is happening.
Tell the guys…don’t forget to wear Ashton! cologne when you go out to hunt cougars.
Seize the Day,Rob N
Martin Wright says
September 22, 2009 at 5:23 PMIf only I was young, free and single…
Great practical advice, which even includes what to say – good for us shy Brits!
Keri Eagan says
September 22, 2009 at 5:42 PMReally great tips April.
Those cougars are lucky women. Smooth is the way to go! I can see this working with a number of women I know.
Keri Eagan
Jennifer Battaglino says
September 22, 2009 at 7:03 PMOk I guess I’m old enought o be a cougar but I don’t have the single status.
However I think we could teach those younger men a thing or two! 🙂
Good one April
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Darryl Pace says
September 22, 2009 at 7:17 PMNice advice, April. You are an excellent resource for the singles out there.
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Robert Martin says
September 22, 2009 at 6:19 PMI can guarantee you this. If I ever got a divorce (never, but if) I am coming to you for guidance.
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April Braswell says
September 22, 2009 at 8:27 PMlol! think VEAL in your case! lol
thank you for stopping by. It was great talking and meeting you (finally!) after all these months via phone. I think our work totally dove tails for people’s benefit and heart healing.
April
April Braswell says
September 22, 2009 at 8:27 PMHi Robert,
thank you for stopping by. You totally crack me up, you are a RIOT. (Does your DW know you have this drole Steve Martin side?)
April
April Braswell says
September 22, 2009 at 8:28 PMyou’re never too young to start robbing the cradle… 😉
Katie says
September 22, 2009 at 9:34 PMApril, dear, you really must stop telling the young men to woo you . . . they should be wooing me! No fair!
, Katie
Katie says
September 23, 2009 at 1:19 AMApril, dear, you really must stop telling the young men to woo you . . . they should be wooing me! No fair!
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Sorry… forgot to say great post – can’t wait to read your next one!
Jose Escalante says
September 23, 2009 at 1:19 AMYour always entertaining April. Plus I would like to remind everyone that Yes I’m still happily taken.
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Martin O'Connor says
September 23, 2009 at 4:22 AMApril:
These 3 steps make a lot of sense and sound like they can be followed by all guys with any romantic intentions.
There might even be one before the three above.
The point to all this: The speaker was fun and entertaining, and she demonstrated for the class of all men how to approach a woman. Her first tactic was to get into the woman’s vision without looking at her and give her a chance to size you up. If you are alert you can maybe pick up a stop or go single right there.
Marty
Kate McKeon says
September 23, 2009 at 6:50 AMMen of all ages, married and single could use that advice (married men – for approaching your wife, please!).
Good work April.
Expanding spheres of influence, Kate
John Ho says
September 23, 2009 at 6:58 AMSmooth talking and strategic positioning goes a long way to get what you want out of life!
But then if you know numerology, you can get to the core drives pretty quickly.
John Ho
April Braswell says
September 23, 2009 at 8:46 AMHi Kate, thanks for stopping by and commenting at my blog. lol! Good thing you added that clarifying caveat for my readers. 😉 April
Scott Payne says
September 23, 2009 at 10:15 AMApril
Every time you say Cougar I want to rent the Graduate… LOL
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James Mason says
September 23, 2009 at 4:11 PMBeing more conservative, I appreciate your post.
This would probably work, if you were searching for someone younger?
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