Cougar Love – 5 Hot Reasons for Single Midlife Women to Consider Dating Younger Men
One of the current hot trends in Midlife and Baby Boomer Dating is the Cougar Dating Phenomenon. Women from 40-85 date and seek out younger men for their life partners.
Hot Reason 1. Chemistry
Some people might call it lust. And many people’s initial comment is often along the lines of, “Oh you know they just looking for….” However, what is so delightful is there is sufficient difference in your lives and generations to create and add sexual chemistry, lust and spice to the combination. With men your own age, dating can almost feel like warm fuzzy slippers. Really comfy… but no spice for excitement. As mature women in their sexual prime, you really want more than that in a relationship.
Hot Reason 2. Masculine Pursuit
Young men have sufficient testosterone that they are chemically and biologically wired to pursue women. They younger men actively pursue. There is less wondering if he is interested in you or how interested he is in you because he is phoning, emailing, and texting to get to be with you and often. They are gentlemen who open doors and pay for the date no questions asked. We’re ladies. Who doesn’t thoroughly love and enjoy it when a man opens the door, pays for the date, bring us flowers and treats us like the precious gem ladies we are? It’s like gold to our hearts. My point exactly. Enjoy it, girlfriend!
Hot Reason 3. Less Baggage
Most of the single guys in the 20 something to 30 something age range have not yet been married. Also, they likely do not already have kids. The relationships are simpler. There are no shared custody issues, or if there are, it hasn’t been an issue for 10 years or more. Babysitting and childcare issues are often easier.
They are in the age range where they are still climbing career ladder and really appreciate a mature woman who understands and knows how to be social hostess for their corporate of single business owner enterprise. They are not in competition with you over your career because your careers are at different phases. For single boomer women, that can be extremely attractive, indeed.
Hot Reason 4. Relationship Oriented
Many men in their late 20s and early 30s are actually quite relationship oriented. So are men in their 40, 50s, and 60 for the senior ladies in their 50s, 60s, and 70 plus. When dating an older women, they will introduce and show you off to their friends. They want to bring you with them to family functions like Thanksgiving and Christmas. They are looking to create and develop the relationship with you and knit you into their lives.
Hot Reason 5. Looking to Pair Up and Settle Down
Frankly, studies demonstrate that the late 20s to early 30s is one of the prime Marriage-Seeking times in a man’s life. So is the time period right after college and directly proceeding graduate school. Work the law of averages and let them be on your side. Those are men who are looking to pair up and settle down, and many of them actively desire a relationship with an attractive woman with some emotional and relationship maturity.
Those are 5 of the hot reasons to for single boomer women to consider cougar love and dating younger men. Enjoy the pursuit ladies!
Happy Dating and Relationships!
April Braswell
Katie says
September 14, 2009 at 4:24 AMExactly! Excellent resource. April, you are so clever,
, Katie
Martin O'Connor says
September 14, 2009 at 4:26 AMI don’t know what to do with this idea. I’m in the physical age group you address but I can’t get a hook in it.
Jose Escalante says
September 14, 2009 at 5:18 AMYou know I’ve seen this kind of relationships and use to think it wont last. But they have actually out lasted people my age who where in a serious relationship.
Jose Escalante
M says
September 14, 2009 at 5:41 AMI feel a bit left out – I’m in the (older) age group that all you cougars are so keen to avoid!!
🙁
Martin
Robert Martin says
September 14, 2009 at 6:04 AMCougar dating fills that young man’s fantasy of being with an older mature women. It is a two way street.
Robert Martin
Rob says
September 14, 2009 at 8:12 AMYou are full of great ideas for people looking to forge new relationships…
Rob
John Ho says
September 14, 2009 at 7:42 AMApril,
You are really a prolific blogger (and a fast typist too) !
That complement you as a graceful social butterfly too.
John Ho
John Ho says
September 14, 2009 at 7:50 AMYouth, like power, is attractive.
So usign the Law of Association, there’s no wonder whey older man want to have young femail partner and cougar wnat to have younger male.
John Ho
April Braswell says
September 14, 2009 at 9:00 AMHi Martin!
Thanks for stopping by! You’ll still always be…. Mr. Wright! Actually, there are plenty examples of where YOU could still be the youngin’, the younger man who pursues an older lady. Keep your eyes peeled. With living in Las Vegas and hanging with my crowd, I met the gorgeous and talented actress, Kit Smythe, who played the original Ginger. Man! This lady is over 50 and hot hot hot hot, and savvy, and fabulous. Just to give an example…. 🙂
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April
Steve Chambers says
September 14, 2009 at 9:12 AMWell, blow me down…what great advice for someone looking for a meaningful relationship that is certain to pass the test of time.
Steve Chambers
Business to Business Sales Training Expert
Beverly Mahone says
September 14, 2009 at 11:02 AMInteresting article. I’m just glad I found a baby boomer man who rocks my world in and out of the bedroom. I have no desire or interest to date a younger man–as I have explained in Chapter two of my book–I’m not knocking it but my attitude is, if it ain’t broke don’t try to fix it and my baby boomer hunk ain’t broke! 🙂
Terry Tom says
September 14, 2009 at 10:35 AMCougar dating talks brings me back to middle school. I had a deep crush for one of my teacher…she was an absolute gorgeous and smart women.
Terry
JJ Jalopy says
September 14, 2009 at 1:59 PMThat was awesome April.
Your posts have been super awesome recently.
A tip of the hat to everyone everywhere falling in love and making it work!
Greg says
September 14, 2009 at 3:10 PMTrue. 🙂
Greg Dougall, All of the Above
David Power says
September 14, 2009 at 3:30 PMApril your advice is just wonderful, clear and so USEFUL!!!
Lisa McLellan says
September 14, 2009 at 4:57 PMThis is really great. Isn’t it wonderful when the chemistry is right on?!!! Ooooo and thanks for the link, Love!
The less baggage point is interesting. I know a single guy that is actually looking for a woman with kids because he’s got a couple himself. I was surprised that someone would actually WANT that. I always thought that was something that guys just tolerated. I guess I was wrong!
Lisa McLellan
Babysitting Services – Babysitters and Nannies
Kate McKeon says
September 14, 2009 at 9:08 PMI read your blog and I purr. I’m not officially a cougar yet (can you be a cougar under 35?), but I do enjoy the lack of baggage on younger men. Even at 30 most of the men I meet are carrying 3 generations of baggage.
Dude, keep it in a carry on or take the train.
Pushing companies from good to great, Kate
Keri Eagan says
September 14, 2009 at 8:40 PMThe most appealing thing for me would be the lack of children. I love children. They just pull on my heart strings and I go all sappy. Being around them isn’t the problem for me it’s falling in love with the little tykes. I try to avoid this so it makes it easier for everyone especially the child.
Keri Eagan
April Braswell says
September 15, 2009 at 8:43 AMHi Lisa,
You are very welcome! I’m always so impressed with your expertise and sage and helpful wisdom about babysitting, nanny care, and childcare, above and beyond what most parents know or thinking of. Indeed, your years of professional babysitter experience shines through. So, of course, I want to let others know about YOU and you fabulous website with all of those free resources.
As for the single guy with kids wanting a single mom, that’s so great! Indeed, pair bonding with someone who shares your lifestyle and values is an essential part of dating, attracting, and creating a great life partnership marriage relationship.
Thanks for stopping by!
April
April Braswell says
September 15, 2009 at 8:45 AMHi Keri,
Thanks for stopping by my blog! Indeed, often a younger man does want children, yet does not have them himself already. One couple who talked with me then shortly later had their first child together.
April