How to Flirt Well: Work Your Flirt to a Date with Personal Cards

Learn How to Work Your Flirting Effectively to Getting a Date: How to Flirt Well

Classy Method How to Flirt Well: It may be a little old-fashioned to have a Personal Card, but they are still useful and so classy when you flirt!

A quick and easy way how to flirt well and purposefully is to have personal cards made and carry those with you. When you have the chance to break the ice with someone in daily life and you start flirting, work that flirt! To help you to keep things going, you often need to come prepared for social interaction with ease and ready to make it into just something a little bit more, but not too much.

Single ladies, this learning how to flirt well dating tip is especially geared for you. Gentlemen, you can use this How To dating tip as well. I hear from midlife guys all the time wanting to know how to step by step take it from a flirt and that quick expression of first attraction and move it from there to a possible First Date without feeling like a clod, a dork, or too aggressive.

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Carrying and using Personal Cards always expresses class. Both mature men and women seek a true life partner, a possible mate with brains and class. Men want to marry a lady. Ladies yearn to marry a man who knows how to be a gentleman in these modern times. Read on to discover some pointers on how you can both flirt and express your classy ways with specific steps to follow and the etiquette of personal cards.

Using Personal Cards and coming prepared with them in advance of your stepping out for a special occasion or simply into daily life errands will stand you in good stead. Entering each other too quickly into each others’ phones just smacks of desperation. Quick! Get ’em into my phone!

Instead, when you receive a Personal Card, you can linger over it, the texture and the color. It also requires from both adult men and women to make just a little bit of effort. You have to actually input the contact information in your phones.

A fun hybrid flirty gesture is to take a photo of the Personal Card before you slip it into your blazer pocket or the inside pocket of your cute wristlet purse. That way you can both be sure you don’t lose or misplace the personal contact information given to you and by doing so, you signal to the giver that you are, indeed, interested in retaining and using those contact details.

When You Head Out: Go Prepared for Flirting Fun

The Boy Scouts have taught us that it’s a good approach to life: Be Prepared!

A personal card resembles a business card, however, yes, from the name of them, they only bear your personal information on them. All the ladies in your 40s and 50s plus who are fans of Regency Romance novels, especially the Jane Austin aficionados like myself and my middle sister – it came with the mother’s milk in my family – will enjoy a thrill of recognition. Yes, in Regency novels, you will often read of the gentry heading out to social, visit, and call on their social circle. When they do so and arrive at that the house, they might first present their Personal Card upon entry to be announced. They are also known as visiting cards.

Should the lady of the house not be be at home or receiving, they might leave their card. “Please let Her Ladyship know I called.” There is that hint of formality and gracious etiquette being touched upon when you use Personal Cards. It conveys to the person with whom you’re flirting that you have some attributes of class! And that, my dear ones, is very attractive to men and women who seek love and true life partner relationship!

That way when you are in the midst of a lovely light small talk conversation after doing my suggest Daily 5 you then have a graceful, polished, and poised way to segue to connecting with the person later.

Practice uttering such sentences, “I’ve so enjoyed talking with you about target shooting. I hope you’ll call me and ask me on a date.”

Smile.

Hand him your personal card.

He might ask you out now.

Or phone you later.

Or never.

But because you are talking with 5-25 new people per day, some single men, some who knows if they are single or not (because not all married men wear their wedding band, i.e. blue collar men who work with their hands all day long because the ring can easily break or get lost), it doesn’t matter.  You do this like casting pixie dust.

Before you balk at the “25 new people per day” remember that some of you, especially those in the business world may be attending business networking events, cocktail mixers and the like. So, yes, some of you will, depending on the day, be meeting “25 new people per day.”

I’ll provide some utterances for the men tomorrow.

Dos and Don’ts of Personal Cards

What to include on your personal card

Color

The full scale formal ones must be white or ecru.  While you may choose to display some personality here, doing so excessively starts to reek of desperation.  They should read you are prepared to interact with people socially but not scream, “I’m desperate.”  For personal cards, the simpler the better. In this day and age, a soft pink, baby blue, or soft lilac would be ok and express a touch more of your unique essence and personality. Soft pastel colors are still classy and not desperate.

I know with Canva and Vista Print being used ubiquitously these days, everyone is being encourage to “express” themselves lavishly. If you really are a super creative, embrace it with your card. You’re being true to yourself.  I’m just trying to provide general ideas for what to do and the traditional etiquette of personal cards with still some 21st century safety parameters.

Personal Contact Information

Do include personal contact information, a personal cell number (with online dating, you must have a personal cell number. If you are concerned about sharing that number with strangers, then purchase a no-contract plan additional phone like with Metro PCS or one of the carriers that serves your area. Think “Burner Phone” if need be. Not that everyone is going to become a stalker. But should things start to get annoyingly weird with anyone and you can’t politely get him to stop texting you his daily inspirational thoughts text, no worries. You can always get a new phone asap!)

Do create a separate email address, a secondary email account for your social dating purposes.  If you need to block them or delete the account for unwanted contact later, it won’t be the email address you’ve used for over 10 years with all of your address book information in it.

What NOT to include on your personal card

Don’t put the email address you use at your Social Networking sites.  This person is still a stranger, and you don’t want them having access to your full family and friends photo history (yet) at LinkedIn, Facebook, and Twitter. Not until you have become better acquainted with someone, a potential mate would you share that information. I recommend ideally after around 3 or 4 dates, or with someone you are more acquainted with out in the real world, perhaps socially.

This is both for your personal safety and for the necessary conversations over time to truly build being acquainted with each other. We may think that we need to vet everyone online digitally before we go on a First Date. But that very skill of building the acquaintanceship through cordial and sometimes flirtatious conversation is what you two will each need in an actual relationship. Build and practice that relationship skill set now in dating and in the warm up to a date.

Don’t put your business number or business email address on your personal card.  If this is a business function, then by all means, give them your business card.  However, in what are personal social interactions, one the formal social rule is not to do business at them, so to hand a business card out would be socially gauche.

Also on your personal safety level, you want to vet this person a bit more before they have your business address and might show up at the door unexpectedly. This is less of an issue certainly in a number of large metropolitan urban cities because building security would quell any interlopers from getting to the elevators. Still, safety is best preserved through good safety habits. Anyone who doesn’t understand that has no maturity and likely isn’t ready for a relationship between adults who have jobs, careers, and a professional life.

Don’t include super personal information. While the original formal personal cards would cite the cities in which you hold residences, you might not want to do that. If you live in a large metropolitan area, Dallas, Los Angeles, Chicago, or San Francisco, you could put your city on your card. Other than that, since you are meeting them in those areas, you don’t need to be specific. And you do want to maintain your personal safety.

Do or Don’t include you last name. Of course, on the formal personal card, you would include you full formal name. However, I don’t always suggest including your last name anymore. With the advent of Social Networking where almost all of of are findable on the internet, including our professional work history and current employer if you are an employee and not a business owner (see, LinkedIn, Plaxo, Zoom and now Alignable).

Use your best judgment. Do a search on your first and last name. What shows up online? Would you be happy having a stranger you flirted with at the coffee shop knowing all of this about you BEFORE your first date? (Not only for safety reasons but also for personal mystery and chemistry creation, I’d avoid it.)

Result?

Your personal card includes…..

Your First Name

Secondary Personal Email Address

Personal Cell Phone Number

While, in a manner, I’m more greatly suggesting to ladies to use Personal Cards in order to be feminine with just a touch of being forthright, men who are looking for a relationship can use cards, too. Just know, most modern women want to see a demonstration of your masculine hormonal drive to be sufficiently interested in her to make the first move and actually ask her out!

That said, man up and actually phone her to do so. You might drop a quick text to say something like, “Dinner Thurs? I’ll phone you later to work out the details.” Just know, even with that text, she might not respond to the text. She might wait for you actually to phone her.

It’s a demonstration of your sufficient testosterone drive that you do so. So then, also, don’t be discouraged if you lob her a text like that and get no response. Don’t misread it as a sign she’s not interested in your advances. It’s just the text equivalent of, “I’ll call you later.” Quite often, she’s waiting for you to, indeed, call her. Do so! You will often be delighted to find yourself heading out for a great date!

Now get out and flirt!

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell

Award Winning Midlife Dating Expert

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