Hi. In response to some of the comments and emails I received about yesterday’s blog post for singles to leverage the TON of events during Passion Week (Easter and Passover) , this is not only about choosing a place with whom you agree with the religious or denomination’s beliefs.
I grew up in the Northeast near New York City. EVERYONE went to Seder services and Bar and Bat Mitzvah’s even if we we were Christian or Catholic. And everyone went to certain Easter or Christmas services for the sake of a friend, a grand mother, someone’s relative.
It was like being a politician or diplomat. It was just good manners, gracious.
Now, this is not about lecturing you in your grandmother’s voice about why are you not going to a service of some kind.
Rather think of the Dali Lama and Princess Diana’s example of diplomacy. Go with an empty mind. I am here to observe and learn. How interesting. What do you do. Is there a reason for that?
I learned about a variety of foods and historicity of the Seder meal by attending several.
This is a HABIT you want to develop both as a single to meet new people and extend and stretch yourself a bit.
And for life-partner and committed married couples to bring NEWNESS and VARIETY continually into their relationship.
The ELEMENT of NEWNESS is part of what we CRAVE all the time. By regularly incorporating this habit into your life, you are developing a relationship success behavior rather than a relationship deadening habit (same ole same ole all the time, yawn). Because BOREDOM kills relationships.
Introducing variety and newness into your life and relationship gives it new life continually.
Happy Dating and Relationships!
April Braswell
Don Shepherd says
April 7, 2009 at 6:45 PMa point well taken. stretch you comfort zone, stretch you mind and increase exposure all at the same time.
Don Shepherd
Duane Cunningham says
April 7, 2009 at 7:30 PMHi April,
Yes creating the habit of Newness and Living life on the edge of the comfort zone is very true in dating for keeping that spice of life alive
Its also important in all relationships be they personal or business that you constantly push the envelope to become bigger, brighter, faster more prepared to keep you on the edge and in the 5% of achievers that live their dreams
Duane
Pat says
April 7, 2009 at 10:40 PMCultivate being open to newness. I call it adventuring.
-Pat
JJ Jalopy says
April 8, 2009 at 12:56 AMGreat stuff. I reckon the Dalai Lama and Princess Di would have made a great couple! 🙂
I totally agree with the sentiment. If a couple doesn’t GROW together they stagnate.
Do you do seminars April? I bet they’re a blast!
I don’t do much life coaching anymore, but when I did I used to really enjoy working with men who have limiting beliefs around their attractiveness and the dating world.
I can’t wait to read more.
JJ Jalopy
Bob K says
April 8, 2009 at 2:50 AMNewness is good all the time
Thanks
Bob
Steve Chambers says
April 8, 2009 at 3:04 AMPoint well taken. It’s a good idea to be open to other cultures and events.
Steve
Rob Northrup says
April 8, 2009 at 3:45 AMApril,
Do you think it’s true that opposites attract?
Seize the Day,
Rob
Lynn Lane says
April 8, 2009 at 5:07 AMNewness can be very good. “Empty The Cup”
Lynn Lane
John Ho says
April 8, 2009 at 6:30 AM> BOREDOM kills relationships.
How true!
And this human world is based on polarity & duality. Oneness or unity is to merge back into the Source. Humanness si then repalced by divinity.
Personalities of a couple is best if they complement each other to make a complete whole.
Please remember to comment on my daily blog :))
Thank you!
John Ho
Philip Graves says
April 8, 2009 at 6:33 AMI can see how getting the newness habit is essential to dating. I think it’s also pretty healthy for life in general!
Your advice is excellent, as ever.
Philip
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Yann Vernier says
April 8, 2009 at 8:30 AMOpenness to newnewss. Essential in life, business, and dating.
Anything else is attachment to status quo, and that gets us… nowhere!
Very good advice as usual April.
All the best,
Yann
JC MacKenzie says
April 8, 2009 at 12:28 PMPeople would probably be pleasantly surprised to discover how similar in philosophy different denominations are. An open mind is always a good idea.
Thanks
JC
Bob Kaufer says
April 8, 2009 at 1:35 PMVariety and newness is just as important if not more so after 18 years of marriage.
Bob Kaufer
Sonya Lenzo says
April 8, 2009 at 1:59 PMI like to think of “freshness” rather than newness….getting a new perspective…it makes old things new again.
SunnyMarie
Wendy Glosser says
April 9, 2009 at 4:27 PMWhat I’ve learned far apart from the advice that April gives is that the Word of God is the greatest foundation for any relationship to be successful. If I want to be successful at something, I would look to someone who is already successful….perhaps someone who has been married for 20 years would count? Anything outside of God’s perfect plan will have flaws and will fail. Relationships are too hard on their own and then when you try to make up your own rules, forget it. Just some wisdom from someone who has been married for 20 years.
April Braswell says
April 9, 2009 at 10:40 PMHi Wendy,
Indeed, I’m a widow and lived OUT serious commitment alongside my late husband and his battle with cancer, which is part of my expertise as a Dating and Relationship expert. I DO recommend that singles look to the marvelous examples of LONG TERM love in their lives. I would seek out the older ladies’ Bible study at my church and connect with THOSE ladies (with my husband having cancer and changing adult diapers, we were kindred spirits!). The best of the best.
Thanks for your following and commenting at my dating and relationship blog!
Best regards,
April Braswell
Dating Expert and Online Dating Coach
Darryl Pace says
April 10, 2009 at 6:06 AMHi, April! Indeed, variety adds spice to life! We all have to work on adding and keeping spontaneity in our long term relationships.
Health, Fitness — Darryl Pace
April Braswell says
April 10, 2009 at 10:15 AMHi Darryl,
Indeed, and with married couples, foot rubs are a WONDERFUL intimacy treat!
All the best to you and your family this Easter holiday season.
April
David Power says
April 19, 2009 at 4:09 PMPassion really fires up ones life for sure!!! love the post!!!
David