Romance Coach’s Easy Dating Tips – Choose Events Wisely

Easy Dating Tips: When Selecting Events to Attend, Be Choosy

My good buddy, sales and leadership training expert, Steve Chambers, commented awhile back at my blog saying something about

don’t JUST do activity to do activity

and this is true.

Now, at the VERY beginning of getting yourself back out into dating, or for my business clients, business networking, well, frankly, accept just about ANY date and attend just about ANY business networking event.  Because at the very beginning, you are just learning to walk.  You are like a toddler.  You just need to get back out there, get your sea legs again and get back into your game and conveying YOUR most FABULOUS YOUness to the world.

I recommend doing that for about 1 month.  And in that first month, you’re going to be glutenous.  I don’t care.  You’re not using a lot of discernment here yet, this is your practice, practice, practice time.

BUT

Once you have gotten into the swing of things and are blithely GETTING KNOWN.  You are regularly meeting and either doing the asking or being asked out on date R E G U L A R L Y.

COOL!  I am SO delightedly happy for you.

Now is the time to start to add on a layer of discernment.  Normally in what I give away for free free free is the WHAT and WHAT to do.  When you want to know the HOW, April, HOW do I do it, and my strategy, 99% of the time that requires hiring me.  Because, I mean, hello. yes, I DO give a LOT away for free in those 20+ articles at my website (growing weekly).  So this is part of that 1% of where I am getting into strategy and the HOW.

Phase 1:  Get back out there! and  Get YOUR Game on.
Dating, dating, dating.
networking, networking, networking

Phase 2:  Focus more now on What Do YOU Want

Now the cool thing about once you start attending a number of business networking events, yes, you DO meet more new people AND you start to run into some of them time and again AND you will just start to HEAR from them and during the events announcements section about OTHER networking events.  Prick up your ears.  Try a number of these out.  I prefer the ones which are more targeted for SOMETHING I am interested in, ones which under 100 people, preferably in the 25-50 ppl range.  Too many for me to meet them ALL today, but where we can still eyeball each other (flirt, smile, flirt some more).  It is a more intimate setting without being too too terribly intimate with 10 people watching and grading your flirting technique.

It starts to build its own momentum!  Enjoy!

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell