Yup.
Set the alarm for a DIFFERENT TIME.
I can hear you now, “Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeek! April! Oh no! Not that! Don’t make me wake up earlier than I do!”
Ok. so for dating. for romance. we need, what? yes, CHEMISTRY!
In my work as a Romance Coach and Online Dating Coach, as part of the whole strategy I work out with my clients, I do recommend they try some different things to shake things up a bit BECAUSE our DIFFERENCES foster chemistry.
Soooo, are you an early morning person?
Get up 1 hr later and go for a walk around your hood NOW. You will run into and be seeing people who get up a bit later than you. While you’re out and about taking your morning stroll, be sure as you pass people to make momentary eye contact and just smile and give them a little head nod of greeting and acknowledgement.
Don’t endeavor to make conversation or break the ice with anyone today. Just practice a mild greeting with your neighbors. Eye contact. Smile. Little nod of acknowledgement. And keep moving on your walk. Another time or day you could make a small comment or actually say, “Hi. Beautiful day.” Another time you could say, “Lovely day, isn’t it?” Saying that prompts for a small response from those you pass. Over time, you’ll feel slightly acquainted.
If you are NOT an early morning person (me, me, me! although, really I can get up at 6 am, but with discipline, then the HABIT resets my internal alarm clock.), set you alarm for 1 hour earlier and get up and go take that same walk.
No do NOT set your alarm clock for 1 hr earlier and then hit the snooze button until it’s the same our you normally get up! (you are wondering, “April, how could think I could do that – [merde, she understands me TOO entirely well!]?” ahhh, cause I’ve DONE that? Not the habits I want to establish or model, but I’ll just be truthful that I HAVE done this…… )
After your walkies, go to Starbucks or Peets. You will SEE different people there now than you usually do, don’t you?
That is just ONE simple idea. Do it for 1 week. Do it for both days on the weekend. Whatever works. You WILL see and meet DIFFERENT people than you normally do.
Have fun!
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
Reader Interactions