And here you thought that perhaps this Sunday you would get a break? Pfff. We think not.
So, I did mention this in my comments from my previous blog post. I thought I’d better make it its OWN post.
Leverage Mother’s Day while you are at the Mall shopping for women, ah, I mean, of course, a present for your mother.
One of the feminine attributes I encourage my female clients to leverage in wanting MASCULINE men to pursue them is I recommend, LET him Be The Man. LET him be The Expert. LET him be AN expert. Yes, when we are competing in a field, we are BOTH men. I’m just the one with bosom, as I was amusedly telling one man whom I met at Image Takeaway weekend in Philly on Sunday who was asking me more about my work as a Romance Coach and Online Dating Coach. He liked that.
Well, just as men like to be treated as Experts in SOME field, to put them in their I’m feeling MANLY mode, so women can SAFELY and easily be approached for expert advise about WHAT DO WOMEN LIKE IN SHOPPING? This an area where WE are the experts, or like to purport ourselves that way, and we’re safely NOT competing.
Leverage that it is Mother’s Day this Sunday. (you DID know, right? Of course you did. And if not, I’m helping you out on another level. No charge. My pleasure.) Ask other women, “What’re you getting your mother for mother’s day? I don’t want to JUST get her flowers/take her for brunch. I want to do something SPECIAL to give. What would YOU recommend?”
Ah, now you have her pleasantly talking with you.
She is opening up to you about WHAT SHE LIKES and it’s not just utterly fabulous shoes.
“Oh, really, that sounds so cool. I’m so glad I asked you for your advise. Wow. That’s such a help. I can just SEE giving that to a woman….” time to segue here, gentlemen. She is In Rapport with you NOW. Leverage it… “How would you like to go get a coffee here and take a break from shopping with me?” Cool, wasn’t that? After the charming coffee, “Audry, I’ve really had a great time talking with you and getting to know you a little. I want to see you again. Would you like to go to dinner with me sometime?” Breath. Pause. “How is Friday night for you?”
And since some of you here are divorced dads with SONS, you can SO leverage that, too. “My SONS have no idea what to give their mother. What would YOU recommend?” And then just wait. She will start thinking. Look at her expectantly. OBT. Of COURSE she wants to help you and answer you. The stream of consciousness will start in about….. 17 seconds.
You know, with it being Wednesday, you could do this…
Thursday
Friday
Saturday
and have 3 dates, AT LEAST, from doing this….. Just to help you out and to get you thinking and IN ACTION. Go!
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
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