So, it is about to become Saturday morning.
GET UP!
GET SHOWERED!
and GET OUT!
Ladies, time and again, I do really really well with meeting MEN early Saturday mornings. What is it about men that gets them up and at ’em Saturday mornings? (When I just want to stay in bed, snuggling my pillow, or getting up and leisurely drinking my Peets coffee. mmmmm.) But men? they are UP and OUT!
So ladies, when you are still single, you MUST do this as well and go place yourself sweetly, dressed nicely, yes, you showered and did your make up (lightly, yes? It is Saturday morning and not time for the ENCORE! gala, right? so, less is more, ok?).
Go get a coffee.
Walk around.
Explore the farmers market. Go online and find where there are some farmers’ markets in your area.
While you are there buying excellent produce, chat people up. “Oh, are those heirloom tomatoes? I hear those are the best! How are some ways I could serve them? You don’t say.” The other people at the same vendor booth will also chime in with THEIR recipes. People are naturally helpful that way. We are. You will end up in conversation with a number of people. Thank them for their great help. “Oh, really. That recipe sounds great. Could you email that to me, please? Here’s my email address.”
You do have personal cards right, yes?
OK, we’ll go over those in another blog post. Just go with it right now.
Take a walk along the hiking trails. You have your coffee in hand and are walking at an even pace, sipping your coffee. Just nod, smile, and utter those polite nice little “Hello”s to people you pass . No need to push yourself upon them. But you’re going to be back here again the same time next week and next. We become more comfortable with people upon repeated exposure, as Kevin Hogan, PhD, cited in his popular book, Irresistible Attraction. BE that attractive person they just keep SEEING early every Saturday morning. Who knows? Will they talk with you this morning? Or will you find something to comment about concerning your surrounding to draw them into a short conversation with you. Aim for 2 or 3 sentences only. If they are interested, they will respond with a few sentences of their own. If not, only 2 or 3 sentences is simply warm and polite. You have not thrust yourself upon them. Smile and wish them a pleasant walk. If they start to talk with you, SMILE and be light in your responses.
Enjoy the day and your new adventures!
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
Dennis says
December 18, 2010 at 10:36 PMGood reminder to get out of the house to meet people.
Jack Moscatte says
December 19, 2010 at 4:01 AMThanks so much. Very handy in my situation to remember to get on the weekend to meet more girls – Keep up!
Gil Hines says
December 19, 2010 at 5:38 AMWhat can I say, your tips are great. April your dating tips are excellent and very practical. Thanks for sharing so many with us so often.
Dana Balcer says
December 19, 2010 at 10:57 AMI really enjoy your dating blog April. Could you show me how I can go about subscribing with it? By the way I stumbled upon your singles blog through Aol.