Dating Advice and Tips: Body Language Flirting for a First Date with Your Smile and Laughter
Jazz Legend Louis Armstrong serenaded us with, “When you’re smiling the whole world smiles with you…” Psychologists from the University of Amsterdam and the University of Ultrecht have conducted scientific research about smiling and how people respond to it.
The professors found that the mere SEEING of someone else’s smile, like seeing a frown and seeing a YAWN actually TRIGGERS our own facial muscle mirroring response to want to return in kind. When WE SEE a smile, WE WANT to smile, too. It’s the old Monkey See, Monkey Do response. Parents of babies and young children know the fun of playing facial emotion mirroring games with their youngsters. Your smile actually elicits the smile of others. When we smile, we trigger HAPPY FEEL GOOD hormones to be released in the brain. And then we associate all of that Happiness with the one we are looking at which just could be you! When you are flirting to attract the romantic interest of other singles, all that happiness and feel good feelings are associated with you. Same thing on a first date.
Smiling and laughing are essential components of Body Language Flirting. And you want to include YOUR smiling and YOUR laughing so that your flirting takes on YOUR style of EXPRESSING YOUR uniqueness. The more you share and express your own uniqueness, the more You ATTRACT and MAGNETIZE people to you with the MAGNETIC POWER of YOUR essence. That way the people who are then attracted to you are drawn to YOU and well-suited to YOU.
You communicate your radiant health in your smile with your good grooming, brushed and flossed teeth, bleached teeth, and breath mints. Evolutionary psychology studies show that we desire and are attracted to POTENTIAL MATES who show and display attributes of GOOD HEATH. Your healthy smile communicates that. As you share your smile, you additional pique their interest.
Do go ahead and play with your smile.
- Your Mona Lisa Smile.
- Your Sparkling Smile.
- Your Demure Smile.
- Your head tilted down, looking up from under your eyelashes Smile.
Being playful and expressing your sense of fun is attractive for both single men and single women. Single women report that they want to date men with a sense of humor and who can make them laugh. When you express this in your unique body language flirting style, you attract great singles to you. Then you go on better first dates and enjoy more fun second dates.
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
Rae & Mark says
September 24, 2010 at 10:57 PMSome companies apparently have their Customer Service staff fix a mirror on their PCs so that they can check they are smiling – because it does come through in the voice.
I tried suggesting that at my company, but as the Bible says, some fell on stony ground.
Rae & Mark
Eva Palmer says
September 25, 2010 at 3:35 AMYou are so rigth!!! We want to date men that are fun!!! And smile! But not too exagerated, eh? Sometimes when it’s a too forced colgate smile, I don’t like it…
Dennis Perry says
September 25, 2010 at 4:08 AMGreat post April.
If you want to prove this to yourself, simply make eye contact with people you pass today and smile. It will be a rare person who will not smile back.
Nothing lights up a face like a nice smile. And, of course, as an Oral & Maxillofacial Surgeon, I like the idea of good oral hygiene as well!
Dennis
Eileen O'Neill says
September 25, 2010 at 4:21 AMApril,
How true the power of a smile! and all that we associate with it. I especially enjoyed your enumerating the different kinds of smile. I want to try that “!ooking down while looking up from under your eyelashes smile” sounds cool! 🙂
Eileen
Alam Ghafoor says
September 25, 2010 at 4:30 AMI love my wifes smile,its the most beautiful thing in the world!
Steve Chambers says
September 25, 2010 at 9:04 AMSmiling is such a powerful way to positively influence your interactions with other. As you pointed out, the research shows that smiling is contagious as well.
Steve
Alec Grebis says
September 25, 2010 at 9:11 AMApril, I’ve recently had this reinforced with my own children. As a result of my chemo treatment I ended up losing/shaving my beard and hair–which I have had for all of their lives. This of course makes me look so different to them. But, I have found that if I make sure I throw out my big smile at them their face instantly changes to recognizing me. Smiling is so good for the soul too.
Michael D Walker says
September 25, 2010 at 11:30 AMSmiling is the best medicine for so many things.
And as you mentioned, it’s very contagious.
Its one of my favorite things to do when walking through the hallways at work. It’s rare that people don’t smile back
if you’re genuinely putting it out there.
Michael
The Success Secrets
Rob Northrup says
September 25, 2010 at 1:00 PMIt is hard to get mad or remain mad at someone with a genuine smile.
And there is no better way to set the mood of a conversation.
Rob
Scott Sylvan Bell says
September 25, 2010 at 8:16 PMApril, this is a brilliant article on flirting and how to smile to get a little more attention. Thanks for the great read.
Scott Sylvan Bell
http://www.crackeddheatexchanger.com
Now go implement!
Sabrina Peterson says
September 25, 2010 at 9:31 PMI know if I was on a first date and not smiling or laughing, I would probably not be enjoying myself. Someone who can make me laugh is essential!
Sabrina Peterson, NASM CPT, CES
Corrective Exercise for Every Body
Christian Haller says
September 26, 2010 at 3:14 PMI continue to be amazed at how positively recieved eye contact is with members of the opposite sex.
Christian
Karen Van Ness says
September 29, 2010 at 12:48 PMA sincere smile makes all the difference! Plus I agree with Sabrina, I want to be with someone who makes me smile and laugh. And who I can make smile and laugh too! Way more fun…
Karen Van Ness
Warren says
October 2, 2010 at 12:51 AMHola April, a beautiful woman smiling at me has my attention for sure.
Stuart says
October 20, 2010 at 12:30 AMGood grooming and a great smile really does make all the difference in how singles respond to us.
Richard says
December 16, 2010 at 6:57 PMFirst class work April. Your dating tips are great for people online and real life challenging to put together that sort of information just about any way.
Mike says
December 16, 2010 at 11:10 PMWhen a beautiful girl smiles, it always ups my game.
Pamela Lefton says
December 16, 2010 at 11:39 PMHi April. You’re correct. Men seem to respond well whenever I smile at them. They respond so easily. I unqualifiedly like your style of blogging and dating tips. I added it to my favorites entanglement page roster and resolve be checking back soon. You sure have a lot of articles. I cheer report register out of order my put as highly and let me be acquainted with what you think. Thanks.
Daniella says
December 16, 2010 at 11:54 PMFlirting in cute outfits with guys is fun
Connie Hescock says
December 24, 2010 at 8:04 AMMaking a first date good what can I do better to get him to ask me on a second date? The last time we met at the mall and it lasted hours but then I didn’t hear from him after.