Sooo, for you singles who are reading this, do you mind if I ask you a question?
How many dates have you been on in the last week, month, quarter?
I often hear from people, “I already know what I am and who I want in a relationship. I’m just not finding it.”
That is totally cool. No problem.
However, allow me to nudge you and remind you to get out there and MEET him or her.
How many NEW people did you meet this week?
I LOVE Online Dating Sites, it’s part of my specialty, as a Midlife Dating Coach to help single men and women looking for a long term love relationship to find love internet singles sites.. I do really well at them and also have fairly positive attitude (even I get stood up at times and just role with it. Or suck it up to use manly jargon.)
It’s Tuesday.
Look at your week ahead.
Contemplate your schedule and the errands you are doing.
How can you stretch yourself a little out of your comfort zone (aka rut!), get the stuff DONE that you need to do and still make a point to MEET NEW PEOPLE?
If you live in a certain small town, indeed, I know it is more of a challenge. You might need to travel 35 miles and start going to clubs, service organization meetings, events, community college 1 day seminars, Learning Annex, do some research.
If you tell me, I’ve met them all and there is NO ONE.
You are either not realizing how much your mental filter beliefs is limiting you and how you cannot SEE them (I usually hear this from single women around here who think there are no available straight men).
Or
you need to move.
The question is, What do you want?
Do you want to be RIGHT? There is NO ONE here.
or do you really want to take some risks and LEARN to BE in a relationship?
If it is the later, I don’t care WHAT you do, just DO do some different things.
Where are you buying your coffee? your Financial Times? Your lunch. Your groceries.
do you have a Relationship Creating mentality, Dater’s Mindset? are you making a point each day to MEET new people? because WHILE you are doing that, you both change yourself, your mental filters, and you WILL meet more and new people.
Your groceries. Your lunch.
are you going when it’s easy for you and there are no crowds? like 1 am? OK, there is NO ONE else there then. However, when that is the case we are all strangely friendlier. Just say “Hey….” in passing and smile slightly.
when it is busy. Even better! You HAVE to interact with others then. Waiting at the check out line. Just say SOMETHING to the people in front of you and behind you.
Your lunch. yes, go when it is busy. Go to a different deli each day. chat with people waiting. Yes, you can just say “hey.” Say “hey.” “Hey, long line. How good are the sandwiches here?”
Ok, if you actually implement these this week, you WILL meet at least 15 new people.
As an online dating expert and dating coach, I can’t accept all the singles who request and apply to hire me. I only work with committed implementers. If you’re not implementing what I recommend for free free free, no, I won’t accept you as a client. You’re not paying me to argue with you. We go over a lot early on assessing and outline what you want and don’t want and then create a program of action. To NOT do the program of action would be like paying for a personal trainer, showing up, arguing with them and refusing to work out.
Thanks for reading my easy dating tips blog regularly. You’ll keep getting a daily dose of ideas for meeting people and getting more dates which is the foundation for singles to attract and create the long lasting romantic sex relationship of your dreams that you crave. for some that is a life partner, for some that is a wife or husband and wanting to get married.
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
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