The Anatomy of Body Language Flirting: First Date Tip – Sparkling Eyes
Bright, clear eyes free of any REDNESS or IRRITATION are the most attractive. Make sure you get plenty of rest and drink plenty of water to keep your eyes clear.
An additional fun tidbit from the World of Body Language is that our PUPILS DILATE, they expand somewhat when we are with or looking at someone we find attractive. We want to see MORE of them!
So in particular for singles meeting for the first time from an internet dating site is I recommend that you take advantage of this ROMANTIC INTEREST COMMUNICATOR! Our unconscious mind immediately knows and reads that “YOU ARE INTERESTED IN AND ATTRACTED TO ME” when we are with someone whose pupils are dilating with us. So leverage that natural indicator to YOUR advantage.
Practical Application for First Dates
1. Always aim to meet a DATE for the FIRST TIME in a location with SOFT LIGHTING. Both of your pupils will automatically be dilated. Each of you will feel more comfortable and assured at the nonconscious level that the other is interested in and attracted to them then. What could be sweeter than that?
2. Aim to wear sunglasses when you meet. Don’t take them off until you enter the softly light restaurant. Your pupils will already be automatically dilated when you come in. Your eyes won’t have to adjust to the soft lighting and you will main total congruency of your eyes communicating ATTRACTION to your date.
Don’t agree to meet for a Saturday breakfast date or weekday lunchtime date to your peril! You will completely be both losing out on this EYE ADVANTAGE when you do that as well as you will have an extra challenge to compensate for it. If you meet in a brightly light setting, your pupils will automatically shrink to pins to adjust for the bright light. No matter how great the conversation is and how much you two smile and get along, you will both be seeing your date looking at you for the first time responding to you with pin dotted pupils. To BOTH of you, you nonconscious mind will read the response as, “Well, they just are not THAT attracted to me.” You run the risk of having completely wasted your time and never get to a second date with someone you found really attractive and appealing.
Alam Ghafoor says
September 24, 2010 at 4:08 AMWow! I never knew that about the eyes. I shall look out for that response in future.
Eva Palmer says
September 24, 2010 at 5:33 AMI would have NEVER thougth that the ligth could do so much on the impression of a first date! My God the things that I am leaning with you! You give so much valuable information that I will soon now all the tips for dating!
Steve Chambers says
September 24, 2010 at 6:10 AMYou can also photoshop your online photo’s to enlarge your pupils and make yourself more attractive. Works for celebrities, should work for the common man…or woman.
Steve
Karen Van Ness says
September 24, 2010 at 7:11 AMFascinating tip, April. I knew about the pupils dilating beging an indication of interest – but I love how you provide simple ways to “game the system”, so to speak, to ensure you look as interested (and attractive) to your date. Awesome!
Karen Van Ness
Eileen O'Neill says
September 24, 2010 at 7:33 AMApril, Great advice! I especially like the part about the sunglasses…. good thinking!
Eileen
Christian Haller says
September 24, 2010 at 9:01 AMSo, April, it sounds like what we are saying is that dilated eyes as an indicator of interest is hard wired. What is the orgins of this?
Christian
Scott Sylvan Bell says
September 24, 2010 at 3:46 PMApril, thanks on that tip for dating with sparkling eyes, I will have to keep my sunglasses on longer to get the dilation of my pupils.
Thanks for that secret tip for a better dating experience.
Scott Sylvan Bell
Now go implement!
Jose Escalante says
September 24, 2010 at 6:00 PMThat is amazing April I would never have thought of going to a place with soft light. This is very applicable 🙂
Dr. Wendy Schauer says
September 24, 2010 at 9:35 PMI never thought about the lighting before. Squinting in bright light seems to tense the rest of the body also.
Yours In Health!
Dr. Wendy M. Schauer, D.C., R.K.C.
Dennis Perry says
September 25, 2010 at 4:12 AMWhat an interesting post. I never thought about the pupils and their subconscious effect on others. Great points and suggestions are given her.
I believe this applies to us old married folk as well. Looks like a nice candle-lit dinner is in the works for us tonight.
Dennis
Michael D Walker says
September 26, 2010 at 4:46 PMSo, going to the beach on a first date is not recommended?
Drats~
🙂
Good advice about the soft lighting and avoiding an early lunch date.
Michael