It’s Sunday morning here on the West Coast. If you’re a single woman or man, how are you choosing to invest your time today? The smart and savvy singles are choosing to devote their time to meeting others today. Think, “The early bird gets the worm.” When getting married is a top priority for you, just like any other major goal in life takes applying thought, decision, strategy, prioritization, and continual action over time, so does looking for love.
Yeah, kicking back on a Sunday can be a lot of fun.
However, if you want a love relationship, do you mind if I ask you a question?
What are you DOING about it?
What actions are you taking?
Write down 5 activities which you want to do over the course of today.
Leisurely Sunday Activities
- Drink Coffee
- Read the Sunday Paper
- Read the Economist
- Work Out
- Watch a Sports Game on TV
Each of these activities which would be enjoyable and relaxing to do at home while lounging is also an opportunity for you to get out of the house, go to new places, engage with other people, and meet new people.
Let me appeal to your competitive side. Both men and women have a charming competitive side. If you don’t get out and do this today, positioning yourself in prime locations to meet the best singles out there, trust me. Someone else is. Someone who is, essentially, your competition.
Dating Tip 1: Observe Hollywood Celebrities
Haven’t you noticed it in Hollywood? Do you see many of the most attractive – in looks, temperament, and behavior – singles staying single for long? Or do you notice they are invariably single briefly and paired up with someone new and lovely for them within a matter of weeks. Angelina Jolie did not have to nurse her heart for long alone. And Brad Pitt is not Mr. Lonely Heart since moving out of the mansion.
Dating Tip 2: Drink Your Coffee Somewhere Different
You can switch up which chain you frequent to enjoy your cup of coffee. Alternatively, you can stay a dedicated Peets Coffee fan and simply go to a different location of the chain coffee store. Over the course of a week, I want you to do both of those to allow for a greater variety of exposure to different people.
Dating Tip 3: Read Your Newspaper /The Economist
The Public Library often has the Sunday Newspaper and a subscription to “The Economist.” Reading and keeping somewhat informed of current events including from a global perspective provides you interesting topics for conversation with others. Additionally, when you are seated in a central area of the Public Library, people will invariably talk to you. Some Public Libraries even have a coffee shop where you can grab something to nibble on and interact with others.
Dating Tip 4: Work Out
Do you have some home gym equipment? That is great. I’m pleased for you, your health and your fitness goals. However, in order to meet new people, it is a better tactic to go to a gym. You’re probably a member of a gym. Go to a different location of the chain than the one you always go to.
Of course, you don’t want to “Hit” on all the others who are there.
However, since I have interviewed a number of married couples who met at the fitness club, you can express your warm friendliness there. And then be sure to mill about the strip mall where the club is. You can grab a coffee and bottle of water post workout from the coffee chain next door to the club. This provides you with casual ways to talk further with others from the club without it being deemed “too aggressive.”
Additionally, the smart and savvy single woman knows that it is often the woman who chooses the man in courtship. And she might be the one to break the ice at the club with a question over in the free weights area (more men over there, ladies!) to a man requesting his expert opinion or asking for work out advice.
Dating Tip 5: Watching a Sports Game on TV
If you’re a single in the UK, you already know it is way more fun to watch a football match at the pub. In the United States we have Sports Bars. However, depending on where you live, your local Sports Bars might be positioning themselves more as a “Fun Music Filled Bar” than a place where you can hear and watch the games. Sad, but true. So be a little creative at times. Keep an eye out for restaurants with large screen TVs in their Bar area. If there is a game you particularly want to watch, like Stanley Cup Hockey games, then phone the restaurant hours before the game and request if they will devote the screen to that game. Show up early and get it switched over. Be sure to sit towards the front of the bar. And this way you will meet a different crowd of people than at the often overly-crowded Sports Bars. When a bar is too-loud, it makes interactive more of a challenge. A smaller venue with an intimate size crowd invited breaking the ice conversation.
As you pursue these engaging activities, you increase both your relationship skill set and your chances for finding that special someone for you.
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
Peggy Larson says
April 25, 2010 at 8:02 AMHi April
Good to be able to visit again. I missed getting your advice to pass on to my daughter! My daughter, the bartender in our local sports bar, is usually in charge of the big screen! I even saw her reading a book about baseball and how to watch it smarter so she could converse about it with the “boys in the bar.” Clever girl I have!
Peggy Larson
Robert Kaufer says
April 25, 2010 at 9:00 AMExcellent tips for anyone on a lazy Sunday morning. Just because the morning is lazy, it doesn’t mean the single person should be.
Always have to work at it.
Robert Kaufer
Dale Bell says
April 25, 2010 at 9:03 AMIt seems to me that if you are looking for Mr. or Ms right you have to put your self out htere like any other business you need to advertise or you can wrinkle in badshape and die on the vine.
Tim Van Milligan says
April 25, 2010 at 9:45 AMGreat tips as usual about how to alter your routine and get to where you might meet new people.
Tim Van Milligan, helping you Make Money Online, God’s Way!
michael says
April 25, 2010 at 10:23 AMI like this post. I am always so lonely by Sunday morning. I feel like I should have a church i belong to to go and fellowship with people
But my life gets messed up doing other things – dishes, bills, cleaning, etc. and never make the time to make the connections.
so here I am – lonely and turning 40
michael
Mike Norris says
April 25, 2010 at 10:32 AMI have been to busy lately to get out on Sunday to meet people. It has been my catch up day. Meaning work most of the day. But summer is coming and things will change.
Mike
http://www.ColumbiaSafetyProducts.com
Michelle Mason says
April 25, 2010 at 11:49 AMI love how you take a list of things people like to do alone, and make it interactive. There is no excuse for not getting out the door!
Michelle
Trisha Chambers says
April 25, 2010 at 11:57 AMYou always have great ideas! If I was single I would totally be reading your blog every day!
Steve Chambers says
April 25, 2010 at 12:33 PMTo achieve any goal or outcome we need to have a plan and follow it. An important aspect is doing even a little something everyday to make that outcome a reality. Your post advocates the same thing.
Steve Chambers
Body Language Expert
Dr. Wendy Schauer says
April 25, 2010 at 1:51 PMApril,
You ALWAYS have the greatest and well thought out advice. I think all of us(whether married or single) can benefit from getting out and interacting more.
Yours In Health!
Dr. Wendy
Jennifer Battaglino says
April 25, 2010 at 5:51 PMIn every aspect of life we want to change, you have to put your money where your mouth is or you won’t get the result you’re looking for. You have to put yourself out there if you want to meet someone. And if there is something stopping you perhaps you should enlist a hypnotherapist to help you! 🙂
Jen B
The Harwood Group – Tinnitus, Chronic Illness, Fears, and Anxiety
Scott Sylvan Bell says
April 25, 2010 at 8:05 PMHey April as a single guy you have many great ideas and places to go to meet people. Some of them I knew some of them I didn’t even think of. Thanks for writing the article.
Scott Sylvan Bell
http://www.scottbellconsultant.com
Now Go Implement!
bryan says
April 25, 2010 at 8:10 PMApril,
Great tip on thinking out of the box…If I could have had this blog in my younger days I might not have been single till I was 34. esp love the watch sports!
Sabrina Peterson says
April 25, 2010 at 9:46 PMDefinitely go to a different gym location in the chain you belong to. LA Fitness typically allows you to go to any LA Fitness with your membership.
This is a great way to change up your fitness routine. Although I’ve never understood doing your hair and makeup right before you go sweat…
Sabrina Peterson, NASM CPT,CES
Corrective Exercise for Every Body
Michael D Walker says
April 26, 2010 at 12:21 AMOutstanding advice to mix things up & deliberately put yourself in different places to meet different people.
One thing I also like to do is still frequent the same places I am familiar & comfortable with BUT go there at a completely different time, say go to the library earlier in the morning rather than later in the day. You meet an entirely different set of people who still like the same places you do!
Michael
The Success Secrets
Shane says
April 26, 2010 at 3:01 AMPutting yourself out there isn’t very hard unless you’ve got what we call in hypnosis a secondary “dirty goal.” That means you have a subconscious program running in the back of your mind that thinks it’s helping you but it’s in opposition to your conscious goals.
Shane
Hypnosis – Change Your Thoughts and Change Your Life –
Lisa McLellan says
April 26, 2010 at 3:09 AMDo you recommend different places for meeting people of different ages. Obviously dance clubs would be more geared toward men and woment in their 20’s. What about the coffee shops – would you say that is for the cougar crowd or all ages? The gym may be for all ages too, but have you notices a particular time of day that different age groups tend to work out?
Lisa McLellan
Babysitting Services, Nanny Services, and Nanny agencies
Mike Casey says
April 26, 2010 at 12:43 PMAs always I love your post as they are packed with great advice. You really have to be able to put yourself out there in order to meet someone and know that it will be when you least expect it.
Mike Casey
http://www.stemcelltherapyresearch.com
Mark says
April 26, 2010 at 1:31 PMI really enjoy your post because the are applicable to more than just singles! Your advice is great for anyone wanting to simply expand their spheres of influence. Glad your back! Was having April withdrawls!
Mark
Leveraging Relationships for Long-term Profit
Eileen O'Neill says
April 26, 2010 at 1:35 PMExcellent tips for those seeking a life partner…. I need to show this to my EFL, ESOL, ESL young adult students to see how they would tackle this situation in their culture…
Eileen