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Integrity in Dating: Online Dating Profile Photograph Advice PT1

Integrity in Dating:  Online Dating Profile Photograph Advice PT1

Singles looking for love online will sometimes feel that they are not good enough looking to attract a boyfriend or girlfriend. What is worse is if they feel they are no longer good enough looking to attract a serious relationship at an internet dating site.


When that is the case, what do these discouraged singles do?


Lying With Your Photo At Your Internet Dating Profile Scenario 1: Someone Else

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Some singles have actually posted photographs of other singles in their Online Dating Profile.  I actually have heard about this from both sides of the equation.  Single women email me with their tales of woe.  They relate these long detailed stories of having posted a profile online.  They had just posted a profile kind of as a lark.  They just wanted to look around and poke around and see what and who was there.


And wouldn’t you know it?  This always happens.  She would find herself starting to email with a cute guy at the dating site.  They would email for awhile.  And then she and he would start to develop feelings for each other.  Now she emails with questions about what should she do now?  What can she possibly do?  Email him and tell him, “You know, I massively and overtly lied to you from there very start, but I still, I think you’re cute and want to meet you.”  Come on.  Really?  Do you really think he will want to meet you?


I have to say, within this variation, sometimes the woman tells me that she was trepidatious to post her photo online.  So what does she do?  She jeopardizes the safety a friend of hers.  I encounter this scenario more often in women in their 20s and 30s.  Perhaps they really aren’t quite ready to date yet and need to get more of a social footing securely under them first with casual friends socializing.  Save the internet dating until later.

Another variation on this is where the woman uses a photo of her friend, emails with an attractive man, flirts, exchanges phone numbers, arranges for a first date, shows up and WHAM!  You have got to be kidding me?  Where could this couple ever possibly work out?  What was she thinking?  Unfortunately, what it definitely demonstrates is that this is a woman who is not remotely available or ready for a real relationship.

There is another dating profile problem.  More often it is evidenced by men and for other reasons.  For that, come back tomorrow and more from my series about Integrity in Dating.

Happy Dating and Relationships,



April Braswell

Dating and Relationship Expert

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{ 17 comments… add one }
  • Michael D Walker October 18, 2011, 8:52 PM

    Hard to believe single people would actually resort to posting photos on their profile that were not of themselves. Just kind of boggles the mind, doesn’t it?

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  • Cherie Miranda October 18, 2011, 9:43 PM

    I can’t imagine why anyone would do this. They would obviously be caught lying! How could you ever trust someone when they started out lying to you like that?

    Cherie Miranda
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  • Reading body language of women flirting October 18, 2011, 10:28 PM

    April,I could not imagine that people would lie online about their dating profile. Thanks for sharing how to stay safe while dating online.
    Scott Sylvan Bell
    Reading body language of women
    Now go implement!

  • Rob Malone October 19, 2011, 5:13 AM

    I never understood people who put someone else’s photo up there. They have to know it is only a matter of time until they will meet face to face.

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  • Sonya Lenzo October 19, 2011, 5:32 AM

    This surely fits in the “what were they thinking?” category. How did they see this ever playing out in a positive way? But from what I hear it happens more often than you would expect! Great advice, April!
    Sonya Lenzo

  • Kevin Bettencourt October 19, 2011, 3:28 PM

    I have to laugh about fake dating profile photos. Why raise expectations with false internet dating photos. Lying in Dating Profile is ridiculous if a LTR is what your after. Online Dating Photos should be truthful, as should the remainder of the profile

  • Body Language October 19, 2011, 3:31 PM

    Kind of interesting that people will really take someone elses image as their own… copyright claims anyone?

    Mark Hogan

  • Neil Dhawan October 19, 2011, 5:42 PM

    Hi April,

    After reading this article, I am going through a sitcom scenario in my head! The question that has to be asked is, if someone ( for whatever reason ) does not want to post their actual picture, what are some better options?

    Stay Extraordinary and Keep Doing Amazing Things, Neil
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  • Dennis Perry October 20, 2011, 6:30 AM

    I know it would be a turn-off for me to think that the person I have been communicating with was not really who I was. Dishonesty from Day 1 is not cool.


  • Eva Palmer October 20, 2011, 9:14 AM

    What are people thinking when they take someone else’s picture?? Don’t they know that they are first dating “online” but the goal is to meet in person?

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  • Alex Arshavskiy October 20, 2011, 4:21 PM

    Providing photographs of other singles are 100% not acceptable.

  • Clare Delaney October 20, 2011, 10:30 PM

    Good heavens! Improve your looks without cosmetic surgery, and get caught lying. Thanks for the advice April – what on earth do they think?

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  • Annie Born October 20, 2011, 10:44 PM

    April you will have to create this excellent series into a book!
    Dating with integrity – Catching the partner of your dreams with truth, honesty and the American way!
    Looking forward to tomorrow!
    Create a great day!
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  • John Moulder October 21, 2011, 2:36 AM

    Simple case of fraud . They are not serious , just playing with people’s feelings . Not very pleasant human beings really .

  • Andrew Miner October 28, 2011, 2:03 AM

    The truth will always catch up to you. Can’t hide forever. Even online. Thanks April!


  • Toy Storage and Organization October 29, 2011, 8:30 PM

    April, I thought switched photos only happened in movies. It might work there but seldom, if ever, in real life. How can one not feel betrayed?

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