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When Single Women Go to Sports Bars – DO Rotate and Maintain Variety

When Single Women Go to Sports Bars – DO Rotate and Maintain Variety

Dating Coach for Women coaches Ladies, don’t just go to the same place game after game when you want to meet more men at midlife

Yesterday’s blog post about DOs and DON’Ts for single women using the great Dating Success Tip of going to Sports Bars on a regular basis frankly was already so long that I held off on adding this important caveat as part of your Sports Bar Strategy until today.

Do Rotate the Sports Bars Which You Attend

Beautiful Woman Smiling at Single Men Sports Bars

Beautiful Woman Smiling

Ladies, when you are planning your activities and social schedule for going to Sports Bars with your girlfriends (remember to keep your gaggle to a gagglette of 3-4 girlfriends and not you whole posse entourage, so men approach you), you want to identify a handful of sports bars in your area.  You want to identify really about 4 or 5 places or even 7 to go to.

5-7 Sports Bars

To work with a schedule over a 3 week period, you will identify about 5-7 Sports Bar you can go to.  2 will be 5 minutes away.  2 just South of you.  2 just North of you.  And 1 or 2 more are East or West.  Of these, one can be the Local Joint.  One or two part of a chain franchise.  One is The Yuppie Sports Bar.  One is almost a dive but you love it.  You want to vary both the locations as well as the style of the establishment so you encounter a real mix in the crowd.

Of course in Las Vegas, really just about each of the Casinos has a Sports Bar and they are superb places to meet men especially during March Madness.  You might want to book your Girls Weekend Retreat in Vegas there for March now to leverage that.

Because let’s say you decide to really go all out on this Dating Success Tactic and go to a Sports Bar both Sunday and Monday night for about 3 – 4 weeks running.  You do NOT want to be going to the same Sports Bar on consecutive nights.  Were you to do so, you become too familiar to the guys who go there.  Like, their Buddy.  Buddy identification is not a sexy chemistry inducing identity with guys.

You want to have a sexy, a little mysterious while warm and approachable aura (hence walking up to the bar yourself for your drinks and warmly ordering them from the bartender.  Let others see you confidently with poise interact graciously with the bartender and tip them.

Do Retain a Mysterious and New Aura for Maximum Allure

You are just here tonight.  If a guy sees you and finds you attractive, he has to approach you tonight, interact with you, and get your number tonight!  (I keep wanting to hum the song, “One Night Only!” from Dream Girls.)  Otherwise he could totally miss out!  He might see you again there… but it is purely coincidental because the next time you are there… it is like in 3 weeks now on a Monday Night instead of the last time when you were there Sunday Night.  When he sees you, he must make some effort… or he will miss out of getting to meet and date you, wonderful you!  The next time he sees you… you might already be taken!

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell

Las Vegas Baby Boomer Dating Expert

As seen in Dating for Dummies, 3rd Edition


April Braswell is an expert columnist at DatingAdvice.com and speaks to singles in Singles Groups and Divorce Support Groups as well as at Singles Dating Workshops and Singles Conferences.  Looking to Hire April to speak at your Singles Event?


{ 19 comments… add one }
  • Kate McKeon October 5, 2009, 11:50 PM

    Hmmm, I love March Madness, I love men . . . hmmmm, Vegas may be a good vacation spot after all. I just never considered it. You expland my horizons dear.

    Leadership in Education, Kate

  • Martin O'Connor October 6, 2009, 3:20 AM

    My God, April, I couldn’t keep up a schedule like that and when do you start fitting in the AA meetings?

    Martin O’Connor

  • Rob Northrup October 6, 2009, 4:21 AM

    Just make sure that when you are actually in the bars, don’t describe your friends to the men as your “gaggle” or “gagglette” or they will be gaggling all over themselves.

    How big is the full posse BTW? 🙂

    Seize the Day,

  • Lisa October 6, 2009, 1:50 PM

    You really are the dating expert! You’ve got flirting down to a science. I like the whole part about keeping a mystery about yourself.


  • Lynn Lane October 6, 2009, 2:06 PM


    What a TEASE…..gotta love it. 🙂

    Lisa is right, you have it down to a science.

    I know some girls that will love to read this blog. I’ll send them over.

    Lynn Lane


  • Keri Eagan October 6, 2009, 2:58 PM

    So planned and scientific! Who knew all this work went into just going to a sports bar! Great advice as always, I can totally see the gaglette doing this.

    Keri Eagan

  • Jose Escalante October 6, 2009, 5:13 PM

    Excellent advice April. You are the go to lady when it comes to dating

    Jose Escalante

  • Lisa McLellan October 6, 2009, 7:12 PM

    I love the strategies and tactics behind all this. You are like Dating Commando Lady. You give full instructions to carry out a successful mission!

  • Lisa McLellan October 6, 2009, 7:14 PM

    I meant to ask you if you have any comments about “missed connections” and do you know anybody that they have worked out for?

    Lisa McLellan
    Babysitting Services – Babysitters and Nannies

  • Jennifer Battaglino October 6, 2009, 8:06 PM

    Good advice…you know what people think of the ladies that are regulars at the same bar week in and week out. not good so i like the rotation idea.

    you are awesome!
    jen b
    The Harwood Center – Tinnitus, Chronic Illness, Fears, and Anxiety

  • April Braswell October 6, 2009, 8:43 PM

    yes, we call them wimps. you snooze you lose. Although there is a section for it at Craigs List, that is not something I follow closely. Did you have something in mind or have an anecdotal story behind your question?

    Thanks for stopping by my blog and commenting!


  • April Braswell October 6, 2009, 8:44 PM

    Hi Jennifer,

    lol! yeah the Owner Manager!

    Thanks for stopping by my blog and commenting.


  • Steve Chambers October 6, 2009, 9:48 PM

    Rotate and maintain variety…do tell?

    Steve Chambers
    Sales Training Speaker

  • John Ho October 7, 2009, 5:06 AM


    To get the right matching, it’s a quality numbers game. So your advice is sound and good.

    One can also use Pure Numerology to take the guess work out & save time by understanding the other party’s traits even before meeting up.

    jOHN hO

  • Robert Martin October 7, 2009, 8:37 AM

    You definitely have all the bases covered when it comes to a Manhunt.

    Robert Martin

  • David Power October 7, 2009, 11:48 AM

    April..I know when I go on a date…your the first person who I turn to for advice!!!

  • Pam Schulz October 7, 2009, 7:40 PM

    Who need there could be so much intrigue surrounding sports bars? More fascinating info. from the dating expert!


  • JJ Jalopy October 11, 2009, 3:43 AM

    I think gaglette is super cute. I wanna hang with your gaggle, April.

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