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What Singles Can Learn from Mahatma Gandhi – Today is Gandhi Jayanti

Today, October 2, is Mahatma Gandhi’s birthday.  It is a national holiday, Gandhi Jayanti, in India.  And you are perhaps wondering, “What does that have to do with dating and relationships.”



Because you see, although we are list of all those attributes



body type


hair color

eye color (will some people only marry someone with blue eyes? I’m wondering about the importance of that one)


city/metro area



ethnic make up

Those all but a list of THINGS.

We have a SPIRITUAL ESSENCE as well.  This is not about getting religious or anything.  In fact rather far from it.  No doctrinal discussions.  Part of what draws us, attracts us, magnetizes us to others is the quality of their essence.  Their Spirit.

I was just over at wikipedia reading about Gandhi in respect of his birthday for the country India.  And I have to say I really loved the homely looking photo of him which was the main photo at his profile there.  He had been a good looking man when he was young.  Or at least I think he was handsome then.  However, really, he got sort of homely looking.  Which I think is a really good thing.  Because as he aged, he became more lovely.  More people came to love him.  More also came to hate him and threaten his life.  My point being, his genuine self and essence really shown from him.  And made him more beautiful in the energy and essence he emitted.  And those who loved him, LOVED him for it.

As we allow our real self, our best self to develop, go with our strengths, yes, wear make up, clothes that project a wonderful self-care image of ourselves, while allowing our spirit to project.  Those who should find us attractive, are indeed attracted to us because their energy compliments ours.

So, for singles, yes, you are a composite of all of those LISTS of attributes for your dating profile.  AND you are a spirit and energy here whom others will be attracted to for the very sake that it is YOU!

So do be YOUR most magnetically attractive and you will attract YOUR Soul Mate.  Online and in life.

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell

Las Vegas Baby Boomer Dating Expert


{ 20 comments… add one }
  • Lynn Lane October 2, 2009, 7:08 PM

    I’ve been blessed with my soul mate for 25 years now. You make a great statement about the spirit and energy we all have.

    You have a wonderful spirit and energy that shows.

    Lynn Lane

    Success Strategies For Life

  • Anthony Lemme October 2, 2009, 7:03 PM

    In order to have great relationships we do indeed need to be our authentic self. Our best self but one that is real!


  • Robert Martin October 2, 2009, 7:58 PM

    It is the whole person you must love not just part of the list.

    Robert Martin

  • Keri Eagan October 2, 2009, 9:08 PM

    When it comes right down to it I think we love the spirit within the body. Ironically this has very little to do with the search criteria on dating sites which seem to be a set of circumstances within which we will permit ourselves to love.

    Keri Eagan

  • April Braswell October 2, 2009, 10:10 PM

    Hi Lynn,

    thank you very much for the truly appreciative compliment. And congratulations to you both.


  • April Braswell October 2, 2009, 10:13 PM

    Hi Robert,

    I’m laughing. Exactly! My silly sense of humor at this hour is thinking, yes, just the eyeballs please. The blue ones! As if that is love or a relationship.

    Thanks for stopping by and commenting.


  • April Braswell October 2, 2009, 10:15 PM

    Hi Keri,

    I love the old style wedding vows. “With my body, I thee worship…” for we are spiritual beings enjoying a physical existence. The physical is our expression for love.

    Thank you for stopping by and commenting at my blog.


  • Jose Escalante October 2, 2009, 10:04 PM

    Shows why it’s important to always be yourself

    Jose Escalante

  • Kate McKeon October 2, 2009, 11:13 PM

    You are your totality. You are your total spiritual expression.

    And your cute bunz. 🙂


  • Steve Chambers October 2, 2009, 11:19 PM

    The spiritual side of a person is the lasting part. I would think it would be tough to convey this in an online ad. The person who claimed to be spiritual probably isn’t. For this you need to date.

    Steve Chambers
    Business to Business Sales Trainer

  • Martin O'Connor October 3, 2009, 5:32 AM

    One of the points Bob Proctor repeatedly makes is that we develop a unique vibration and this vibration attracts like vibrations. Bob is not the only one, of course, April just made the same point.

    Martin O’Connor

  • Rob Northrup October 3, 2009, 5:44 AM

    the inner part of a person is what adds the complexity to a relationship. And this leads to lack of boredom. If you see a couple that talks to each other you are seeing a healthy relationship.

    Seize the Day,

  • Greg October 3, 2009, 10:39 AM

    I’m gonna work on levitating this weekend….OOOOOhmmmmmmmm…..
    Just kidding. April, you’re awesome. I got my flip HD cam. Can’t wait to try it out!

  • Martin October 3, 2009, 1:58 PM

    The spiritual connection between two people transcends all personal statistics, designer clothes, perfume, make-up, boob jobs, after-shave, back hair removal, breath freshener etc etc!

  • Darryl Pace October 3, 2009, 5:30 PM

    Wonderful advice — be yourself in order to attract the person you will be most compatible with.

    Health, Fitness for Working People — Darryl Pace

  • Lisa McLellan October 3, 2009, 9:57 PM

    Darryl put that in simple but divine terms. It is so important to be authentic. I love your advice.

    Lisa McLellan
    Child Care Expert,
    Babysitting Services, Babysitting Tips, Babysitters, Nannies

  • John Ho October 4, 2009, 6:43 AM


    I love the term “Soul Mate”!

    Human love is usually the personality love. And then, love is not an emotion but a motivation or addiction ….

    John Ho

  • Pam Schulz October 7, 2009, 7:48 PM

    Authenticity is true inner beauty!


  • Rainie December 16, 2010, 6:46 PM

    I love people who actually blog, it is very difficult to get this kind of quality dating information just about every other way. Top-notch work. How can we find our Soul Mate?

  • Daniella December 17, 2010, 8:41 AM

    Getting to the heart of it is the best with love.

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