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Top 5 Massive Mistakes Women Make in Online Dating Profile Writing

Top 5 Massive Mistakes Women Make in Online Dating Profile Writing

You’re not guilty of any of these massive profile mistakes in your dating profile, are you?

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Massive Mistake #1: Negative Messaging

All the online dating sites encourage singles to ponder their relationship essential needs as well as their verbotem attributes list.  What’s on yours?  Sure, we all have a list of attributes we don’t want a guy we’d date to have, right?

“I don’t want to date an old farts.”

“I don’t want to date any divorced dads.”

“Don’t approach me if you don’t love animals.”

“Don’t hit me up if you’re over 40.”

“Don’t ask me out if you’re under 50.”

But don’t let that be the focus of your dating profile.  Nothing turns the right guys off more than to hear women complain and kvetch.  Who wants to spend an evening with a woman who’s a complainer all night?  There’s no pleasing her.  So, when you cite those couplah things you really don’t want in men for dating, you’re turning off the good guys.  And the bozos who you wish wouldn’t approach, well, they just ignore all of that anyway.

 

Massive Mistake #2: Sorority Sister Syndrome

Nothing could be more natural than to have your buds and BBF snap candid photos of you on their smart phone when you’re out for together altogether with your gaggle of gal pals Friday night Happy Hour after work, right?  The work week is over.  It’s time to kick back, just like in college with all your Sorority Sisters.  Everybody’s working for the weekend!  You’ve got your arms all around each other, smiling and laughing.  You all are having so much fun and that just comes across great in the digital photograph.  So you and your girlfriends all think this is an excellent photo of you to include and feature in your internet dating profile.

 

Why This Is a Problem:

No, no, no! You don’t want to run the risk that the woman he’s most attracted to in the pix is not you!  Admit it.  A lot of us closely resemble our girlfriends and circle of friends.  Are you the only long haired blonde in your group of best buds?  Are you the only long haired brunette in that photo?

 

When you’re pitching yourself online as potentially great girlfriend material, you don’t want to risk distracting a man’s attention away from you and onto another woman.  Refrain from including any photographs of you with anyone else.  Instead, just keep the focus on yourself, and draw him into your web of intriguing attraction!

 

Massive Mistake #3: Who You Want Doesn’t Exist

Is your description of the man of your dreams all about who he is on paper?  Guys tell me they read women’s dating profiles at the dating sites and think women must be dreaming.  They’ve made a cyberspace Prince Charming for a man who doesn’t exist. It turns guys off, so you run the risk of being ignored by loads of financially stable and interesting men online.

 

Instead, focus a bit on what some of your shared interests could be and a character attribute.  Then the great guys can see that you’re keeping it real and not stretching the truth too far.  That leads to more of them engaging with you online and asking you out for a first date.  And isn’t that the goal of internet dating?

 

Massive Mistake #4: Not Smiling Your Best NATURAL Smile in Your Photos

Maybe the selfie you took yourself isn’t your best choice for putting your best foot forward online.  Perhaps you want to work with a professional photographer?  You’ve started collecting photos of you that friends took, but then you got all self-conscious when posing for the pix by them or with your tablet device.  If you flashed them your mysterious “Mona Lisa” smile that didn’t thin out your upper lip, dazzle your teeth, and engage the muscles of your facial cheeks, then your smile wasn’t a full bore natural smile.  Guys can feel it.  They just get it in their gut that something’s wrong.  “She’s holding back.  I’ll just look at the next girl’s profile.” And you’ve lost out on your opportunity to meet more great guys online.

 

Massive Mistake #5: Over-qualifying Guys Before the First Date

Of course, none of us wants to waste all our precious time on dire first dates with dreadful guys.  But then again, sometimes the packaging of Mr. Right for You isn’t exactly what you were envisioning, was it? Maybe, it turns out, he’s a business owner, not an MBA. Stop spending so much of your online dating sites time messaging with the guys who are interested in before you actually accept their invitation to take you out on a first date.

Keep an open mind about what he can be like, and go on more first dates to consider Cupid Contenders.  Even if he doesn’t work out, maybe he has a friend, right?  Yah nevah know!

 

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Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell

Internet Dating and Relationship Expert

As seen in Dating for Dummies, 3rd Edition

April Braswell is an expert columnist at DatingAdvice.com and speaks to singles in Singles Groups and Divorce Support Groups as well as at Singles Dating Workshops and Singles Conferences.  Looking to Hire April to speak at your Singles Event?

About the author: April Braswell is an internationally recognized Dating and Relationship Expert. She coaches single men and women to attract and find the best life partner for them. April brings cutting edge behavioral research to singles to empower them for finding quality mates. Connect with April at Google+: plus.google.com/+AprilBraswell/

2 comments… add one

  • Lisa

    That was a good read.
    For me it was point number 3.
    I was always looking for the perfect man that I had described to myself and convinced myself that he must exist somewhere.
    The prince on his white horse comes in all shapes and sizes – finding our perfect partner is so much easier once we are honest with ourselves about the man we are looking for.

  • Luciana

    Thanks to get spreading this point about how to talk to men. Why is online dating so hard now?

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