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Top 10 Body Language Flirting Signals to Make It a Great First Date Tips

Top 10 Body Language Flirting Signals to Make It a Great First DateTop 10 Body Language Flirting Signals to Make It a Great First Date

First Date Body Language Flirting Tip # 1.   Greet with warmth

Strong body language tips typically is recommending to people to shake hands with a firm grip when you first meet and greet someone.  If you are at church or in a business situation, that would absolutely be the best choice to make.  However, this is a first date.  You want to be sure to add an element of warmth, romantic warmth when you first greet your date.

First Date Body Language Flirting Tip # 2.  Half hug

Body Language Flirting Signal First Date Half Hug Smile

Body Language Flirting Signal First Date Half Hug Smile

What can you do to establish the tone for romance with your date in the context of a first date?  What do I recommend?  I recommend a body language flirting gesture which is actually a combination move.  You do want to leverage the old standby body language gesture of shaking their hand, and yes firmly even on a first date.  However, do not stop there.  This is after all a date we are talking about!  To establish warm and romance for your first date, I want you to continue the gesture to where you give your date a half hug.  I say a half hug because it is a half-body contact.  You do not give your date a full bore full on contact full body embrace.  That would be too familiar and possibly send the wrong flirting signal of promising way more at the end of this first date than what you want to deliver on today.  Instead, do the half hug.  It is a flirting maneuver and gives you a body language flirting tactic to use which communicates romance and interest appropriate for a first date.  No promises.  Just… interest!

First Date Body Language Flirting Tip # 3.  Cheek Kiss

Now some singles will feel that the half hug fits them perfectly for a first date when first meeting.  A half hug may perfectly suit you and your body language flirting style.  If that is the case, great.  Just stop there.  However some singles feel like even a half hug is still a little too formal for the romantic situation of a first date.  Some singles may feel like they want to say or so more to set a romantic tone for the evening, signaling more interest than is possible with a half hug.  Those singles want to set a tone of romance without over promising on what will be done later that first date evening.  What is the best way to do this?  With a kiss?  Yes!  But not a kiss on the lips.  At least not at this point.  If you two met via an online dating site, you are literally just meeting a perfect stranger.  Kissing them immediately upon meeting for a first date on the lips is just too much too soon.  What works better?  A kiss on the cheek!  You shake their hand, move into the half body embrace, and plant a light kiss one their cheek!  All in one smooth, polished, and poised flirtation body maneuver.  One fluid motion.

First Date Body Language Flirting Tip # 4.  Smile

Certainly, nothing communicates to the unconscious mind, “I like you!  I am interested in you!  I find you attractive!” better than the simplest of body flirting gestures than a smile!  Do smile when you first encounter your date.  Then stand.  Or if you are already standing when you two meet, smile, and move in to deliver the handshake, half-hug, cheek kiss smooth motion gesture.  Smile as you take your lips from their cheek.  You enjoyed it.  Your date enjoyed it.  It is a compliment!  You just confirmed that you find them attractive and you are interested.  The rest of the evening of your first date is to discover what else might develop and cultivate further interest for you two to consider and arrange for a second date!

First Date Body Language Flirting Tip # 5.  Laugh

Over the course of the evening of your first date, do be sure to let your smile emerge into laughter.  Laugh at your date’s stories.  Laugh at your date’s joke.  Just smile and lightly laugh at light to create a fun and engaging atmosphere and speak of your joyous approach to life.  Whatever little foibles or faux pas occur naturally over the course of the evening just respond to them with a touch of your light laughter.  Nothing on a first date should be so dreadful that you cannot react to it with the air of light laughter.  This works well for both single guys and single women.  Both men and women enjoy a partner with a sense of humor and an air of joy about them.  You do not need to guffaw with your date.  Light laughter is the tone to embrace for a first date and to communicate light fun flirtation.

First Date Body Language Flirting Tip # 6.  Engage Conversation

Body Language Flirting Signals First Date Body Posture

Body Language Flirting Signals First Date Do Vary Your Body Posture

You might not think at first blush that conversation is part of body language or of flirtation.  However there is the conversation of words and there is also the conversation of body language.  Tap into both over the course of the evening.  Since this is a first date, you want to create and establish rapport with your flirting and body posture.  And your body posture and the level of rapport it speaks of should increase over a period of time across the 1 hour of your first date.  To the casual observer across from you, they should be able to see that you two like each other and are enjoying conversing together both from your words and banter and from your body language conversation.

First Date Body Language Flirting Tip # 7.  Vary your voice

A very fun part of flirting is to whisper a fun engaging secret with your date.  Both the body language gesture of lightly leaning in and of switching your voice to soft whisper communicates attraction and romantic interest.  The words you speak can even be almost innocuous.  However, your gesture and vocal intonation communicate – Flirtation!  Do vary your voice from a conversational tone and volume to that of a soft whisper and then back again, leaning back out now and slightly away from your date resuming a pleasant conversational tone.  Doing so is highly flirtatious!  It is fun, playful, and lightly teasing which is what flirtation is all about!  You foster interest and fascination with you from your date when you do so!

First Date Body Language Flirting Tip # 8.  Vary body posture throughout conversation

Just as I was saying, your body posture should be communicating an additional level of conversation with your date.  You want to maintain a confident and erect body posture in general throughout the course of your date.  Additionally, turn towards each other and let your inward turn towards each other increase slightly over the course of your date as both a lead for rapport and an indicator of rapport between you two.  Periodically lean in towards your date.  Listen to them with rapt attention.  At the end of one of their or your sentences, you can lean back more, pull back from them somewhat.  You communicate interest this way without your body language speaking for you, “I am 100% sold on you!”  Because of course, you two have only just met and you are not 100% sold on each other yet.  By pulling back out periodically, you also allow the space for absorption of what they said and contemplation of their thoughts and words.  These are marvelous listening attributes.

First Date Body Language Flirting Tip # 9.  Do use Touch

A powerful body language flirting tactic is TOUCH.  Do use touch to communicate rapport and romantic interest with your date.  You already broke the ice of first touch on your first date when you two first met, shook hands, and did the half body hug, and hopefully the cheek kiss.  Now throughout the course of your date and the flow of conversation between you two, you can emphasize a point or a your amusement at their words with a flirtatious touch gesture.   Safe areas to touch on first date is the arm, shoulder, and upper back area.  You can let your legs or feet touch each other for greater flirtation impact when you are seated perpendicular to each other.   But do stay away from touching their legs with your hand.  That would be too much too fast too soon too intimate.

First Date Body Language Flirting Tip # 10.  Say Good Night Closely

At the end of the evening on a first date, it is terribly important that your body posture and gestures continue to speak of romantic interest and flirtation.  When you two had a wonderful time, marvelous conversation, and shared fabulous flirtation over the course of the evening, and you want to see each other again, do be sure to let your body posture communicate that as well as your words.  How can you two do that?  Move into stand close to each other within the 12 inches apart intimacy range.  You two want to be close enough that you could kiss on the lips should you two want to do so now.  However, in that marvelous flirtation tone of close enough but not too close.  Your closeness communicates flirting and interest and the possibility of the kiss.  Let your words speak as well as your body language flirting signals!  And then if feels right, do close with a kiss!

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell


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22 comments… add one

  • Bree Ann

    These is very interesting article, April. Great dating tips. I have learned something useful for singles for first dates. Thanks for posting.

  • Dr. Wendy Schauer, D.C., R.K.C.

    A half hug is great – not too close but close enough. Laughing and smiling will show how good of time you are having.
    Yours In Health!

    Dr. Wendy M. Schauer, D.C., R.K.C.

  • I tend to notice that most people don’t laugh and smile enough. For me…laughter and smiles are crucial in knowing that the person I am spending time with likes to have fun.

    Yours In Health!

    G.E. Moon II

  • Rae & Mark

    Sounds like some great tips, although I’m surprised that the half-hug/cheek kiss would be acceptable these days.

    Rae & Mark

  • Dennis Perry

    Great advice, as usual! Although all are right on, I have to say the two that would do it for me the most are the engaged conversation and smile.


  • April, you always give such great dating advice whether it is about flirting or body language your expert advice is always welcomed. Have you thought about doing an article on secret places to meet women like at the spa getting a manicure or pedicure.
    Scott Sylvan Bell
    Now go implement!

  • Eva Palmer

    Great tips and very important I think that you spend time and different posts on the first day dating. It’s probably “the” most important one so you really have to be preprared for it!

  • Good tips for that all important first date for singles. Keep them coming April!

  • Karen Van Ness

    Entertaining and valuable post, as always! I think that smiling and laughing register with me the most. That means we are both having a good time.

    Karen Van Ness

  • Good body language flirting signals for a first date.
    So the out and out bear hug is a big no-no still, huh? :)

    The Success Secrets

  • Montclair

    Flirting on a first date is bound to make it good.

  • Fernia

    flirting certainly does make the first date fun for both singles. thanks April

  • queenie ann

    thanks April the first date is all important for singles both guys and women

  • Yannity

    Sending flirting to each other on a first date sure makes it sound like it will be fun at least. A lot more fun than most first dates.

  • JoAnne

    What really valuable information, April. I like the idea very much of flirting. So attractive in men when they flirt with us.

  • Antonia

    I like the idea of flirting to get asked out on a second date.

  • Weezy

    it is very useful to think of using flirting to make it a good first date.

  • Tom

    I really like these ideas for a first date, April. I hope you’ll write more about first dates and internet dating.

  • Catrina

    flirting makes it fun

  • Aw, this was a really quality blog post. Flirting is so hot when beautiful girls flirt with guys. For sure more second dates.

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