Internet Dating Textetiquette Texting Tip #9 for Singles: HEY Is Not a Message
Online Dating Messaging Advice Texting Tip #9 Help for Singles: HEY Isn’t a Good Message
My all time nadir loathing hatedness of text messaging is when a guy who’s as yet never met you sends a text message only saying, “Hey.”
What grandiosity of the Art of Conversation!
When his opening text message after emailing with you at a dating site and going to the trouble of asking your for your phone number and all he muster is “Hey” or “Hey Name,” women hate it.
Why do we hate it? Because you have left all the heavy lifting of making an effort to create a conversation up to us to do.
“Hey, you know, I thought you were beautiful and attractive, and I’m hoping to hook with you for a first date and get to know you better, but I couldn’t think of what on earth to actually say to get the conversational ball rolling like I did in the emails with you and was too lazy and too scared to possibly risk another layer of potential rejection from you now to actually pick up the phone and want you to prove that you’re interested in me so much so when we haven’t even met yet that you’ll do all the work while I’m here on line at the check out counter I’m bored so I’m hoping you would entertain me and I wouldn’t really have to do anything because that would take more effort and touch pad typing than I felt like doing, OK?”
This texting tactic is so worn out and dreadful that women and even some men joke about it. You can use it in a joking way later once you two are regularly dating and where texting is part of the lexicon of your coupledom. Just not beforehand. There are no short cuts to creating connection and a relationship. Quality of connection and time create that. Make sure your phoning and texting foster quality connecting with your Prospective Date.
And then they wonder why that PUA Facebook Dating System and PUA Texting Tactics program they purchased that taught them to use form emails and text messaging didn’t work for them. “This internet dating stuff doesn’t work!” They think to themselves.
The more you are using the tired tactics someone else used a few years ago to get lucky, get the phone numbers of a few beautiful girls and go on a handful of dates, the more you are putting your focus, time, money, and efforts into the wrong thing. If you are all worried about tactics than you will never on some level be yourself. And it is in sharing yourself that you attract the love of another human being who drawn to your particular essence and will eventually care for you and about you while also experiencing the fun toe curling of enjoying romantic chemistry attraction as well.
I’m not going to feed you B.S. tactics that won’t work, or if they do, only briefly, and where they leave you hurting someone else and not feeling good about yourself. How could that ever build up your genuine personal confidence over time being manipulative? Instead, I’m telling you the truth and sharing strategy with periodic weaving in of tactics that work for creating relationships.
Don’t wuss out and be a wimpy guy who just says, “Hey” or “Hello” to get the texting conversational ball rolling. Instead, say something interesting, admire and compliment the woman who just blessed you with her precious personal phone number, and then man up and phone her to mutually arrange that great First Date you had in mind when you first saw her photo at the dating site, exchanged emails with her, and then asked her for her phone number to arrange it. Then go on that First Date and knock both your socks off with what great conversational rapport you two create together.
When you do so successfully, you just might get to that all important Second Date, and then who knows? You just may have started something beautiful and lasting! And isn’t that the whole reason you went online to the dating site to begin with?
Happy Dating and Relationships,
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